Comments on: How To Successfully Go From Online To Real Life: 6 Key Tips

By: Bertie

Bertie — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 21:16:00 +0000

Jellybean, let me tell ya a few things about doctors. I know a bunch of them and they just aren’t all that. I can tell you that if he’s really an ER doctor he works a twelve hour day at least three days a week if not more. I have one day a week that I call the lazy day because the work takes a lot out of you, and you cannot be charming and engaging all the time. Don’t worry about what he’s doing, go out there and make some fun for yourself! That is what will keep the good guys interested!

By: Khiem

Khiem — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 21:48:11 +0000

jellybean,

Slow down! You are getting all needy and attached way too quickly.

How about you just ride the vibe and momentum? If he pushes your date back, he may not feel THAT strongly about you YET.

It’s about making sure you are BOTH having fun and feeling comfortable with each other.

You definitely should not take your profile down just yet. You only take it down when you are both getting serious.

As far as WHY he does the things he does, why don’t you ask him? And for some of the questions, let them go. It doesn’t matter why he does the things he does, he’s just doing them. Don’t take everything he does so personally as a sign of how he feels about you.

By: Yakub

Yakub — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 04:37:13 +0000

Some guys put up shirtless pics of themselves, thinking it will attract women in match. What are they thinking?

By: jellybean

jellybean — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 01:18:57 +0000

I emailed him my cell# after the first date? Why does he still continue to email only on the dating site and not call or text me on my cell#? Does that mean he really is not in to me and he is still keeping options open?

By: jellybean

jellybean — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 01:15:48 +0000

Well I did not understand why he took his picture out the day before we went on a date on thursday then he had it back up on the following monday. I invited him for the 2nd date to walk the dogs this week or we could go on some concert or gathering on friday or saturday nite. Instead he answers that he decided to relax at home instead after 3 days of workin straight in ER and he also will be out of town this weekend. So he says how about after the weekend. I am all confused! He says he had fun on the date last week and would like to do it again the following week. Now he moves it to another week. Do you think this is more like a run around.

By: Tee

Tee — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 14:07:57 +0000

I agree… Dating multiple ppl gives you perspective.. Especially for women who get attached way too quick!… But that is an interesting point that I wish Dave would comment on.. After several dates, how do you bring up the topic of taking your profiles down?? At some point you don’t want to be having sex with a guy who is advertising for dates on the internet.

By: TR

TR — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 06:36:15 +0000

Jellybean,

Whoa! Slow down! Leave your profile up. I’m sure that your dates profile will still be up even if he did have a “fun” time and plans to see you again. Most likely, he’s not putting all his cards in one basket.

Even though you had fun, it’s great to fill the “pipeline” with other dates. If things don’t go well with this first guy, you already have other options. If things go well, then you can make it a big deal and let him know that you’re removing your profile. I only remove my profile after both parties know where the relationship is going and we have “the talk” (exclusive dating).

Have fun!

By: jellybean

jellybean — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 04:23:27 +0000

Is it too early for me to remove my profile on the online dating after the first date if I know I like the guy and that we are having plans for the 2nd date?

By: jellybean

jellybean — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 04:20:34 +0000

I dated a doctor. The first date was fun. We had dinner then walk to the library. I gave my tel# in the date line email the following morning. He says he had fun and that we should do it again next week. So should I therefore offer a suggestion like if he has certain day where we could meet @ the park to walk our dogs.

By: Playa7417

Playa7417 — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 23:26:11 +0000

Agreed.

The momentum part is probably the most important part.
Also agreed with, Just because they dont answer doesnt mean they dont wanna talk. Sumtimes its taken up to 3, 4 messages before i can engeage them.
The photo part also right on the money.

I find that as long as i build strong enough attraction online. It just tranfers over rite into real life. So no problem on the “chemistry” part.

As far as the dont send the same message twice. I think Ur leaning on the side of a more mature based approach, Because of your age. Where as I really dont care. If they bring up the fact that i said the same thing a few days ago. Ill handle it as a “test” and continue. It never fails.

HER – “Didnt u say that already?? :/ ”

U – “Oh No..I must have been blinded by ur beauty..Wait… WUT R U DOING TO ME! ur Baaad! lol ” Change subject and continue to get the digits as quick as possible “before the momentum runs out” lol