Comments on: How To Keep The Conversation Going http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-keep-the-conversation-going/677/ Sex. Relationships. Dating. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. Fri, 10 Feb 2012 02:15:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Chris http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-keep-the-conversation-going/677/#comment-31258 Chris Thu, 10 Sep 2009 00:50:51 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=677#comment-31258 hey david, be careful of those guys in the stupid cheap suites. Last time I messed with them (I was wondering why they were staring at me while I waited in line for a ride) they ended up being the body guards for the prince of saudi arabia. Not a fun time to squeeze my way out of.... hey david, be careful of those guys in the stupid cheap suites. Last time I messed with them (I was wondering why they were staring at me while I waited in line for a ride) they ended up being the body guards for the prince of saudi arabia. Not a fun time to squeeze my way out of….

]]> By: vern's http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-keep-the-conversation-going/677/#comment-29988 vern's Wed, 29 Jul 2009 10:34:17 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=677#comment-29988 okay...good tip :) thanks david okay…good tip :)

thanks david

]]> By: CeCe http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-keep-the-conversation-going/677/#comment-29926 CeCe Tue, 28 Jul 2009 03:07:35 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=677#comment-29926 this is a fantastic blog, very helpful, thanks everyone! this is a fantastic blog, very helpful, thanks everyone!

]]> By: Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-keep-the-conversation-going/677/#comment-29921 Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) Tue, 28 Jul 2009 01:58:54 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=677#comment-29921 Rob, If you don't remember the girl, treat her like you've never talked to her before. Most likely, if you don't remember, she might not remember you either. So you have plenty to talk about. Talk about what interests you... and what interests her! Rob,

If you don’t remember the girl, treat her like you’ve never talked to her before. Most likely, if you don’t remember, she might not remember you either.

So you have plenty to talk about. Talk about what interests you… and what interests her!

]]> By: Pete http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-keep-the-conversation-going/677/#comment-29876 Pete Sun, 26 Jul 2009 19:21:23 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=677#comment-29876 hey rob yeah im on msn atm :) hey rob
yeah im on msn atm :)

]]> By: rob http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-keep-the-conversation-going/677/#comment-29875 rob Sun, 26 Jul 2009 19:05:59 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=677#comment-29875 hey pete u online in msn right now? hey pete u online in msn right now?

]]> By: rob http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-keep-the-conversation-going/677/#comment-29874 rob Sun, 26 Jul 2009 19:03:38 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=677#comment-29874 wow guys thanks a lot wow guys thanks a lot

]]> By: Pete http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-keep-the-conversation-going/677/#comment-29873 Pete Sun, 26 Jul 2009 19:01:43 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=677#comment-29873 Hey Justin!! Nah man, I'm still at uni but im around London for a few months if you fancy doing something until September. Definitely would love to hang out again, drop me a fb message or email or something Pete Hey Justin!!
Nah man, I’m still at uni but im around London for a few months if you fancy doing something until September. Definitely would love to hang out again, drop me a fb message or email or something

Pete

]]> By: Talia http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-keep-the-conversation-going/677/#comment-29872 Talia Sun, 26 Jul 2009 18:58:23 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=677#comment-29872 Justin, Thanks a bunch for your input and breakdown of the subject. I especially like #4, upping the playfulness. That's been something I've been a bit worried about. Mainly, trying to keep a guy in that risque flirty banter range, rather than have him slide into his well tread platonic conversational default. Thanks again, Talia Justin,

Thanks a bunch for your input and breakdown of the subject. I especially like #4, upping the playfulness. That’s been something I’ve been a bit worried about. Mainly, trying to keep a guy in that risque flirty banter range, rather than have him slide into his well tread platonic conversational default.

Thanks again,
Talia

]]> By: Justin http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-keep-the-conversation-going/677/#comment-29870 Justin Sun, 26 Jul 2009 15:29:24 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=677#comment-29870 Talia, How to open up a shy guy. I used to be shy, so maybe I can give you some good advice on this. Shy guys' main problems are: 1. they don't share stories, experiences, information and feelings to others 2. lots of them don't ask how people are, what they've been up to, did they enjoy it, etc... 3. they don't give complements 4. they're not plaful So for each of these points you need to counteract them, as shy guys don't lead the conversations, that means you will have to. 1. Tell them stories, experiences you've had, things about yourself and your associated feelings. And after each one, ask them to reciprocate. Put them on the spot and ask them to tell you a story, tell you about somewhere they've been, about what they like and dislike, and how they feel about what is being discussed Letting them know that you liked hearing about what they've told you will encourage them to do it more often... and change their behaviour for the better. 2. Instead of just asking them "are you all right/ how are you?" when you see them, try telling them a little bit about your day... then asking "what have you done today/this week then?". They are more likely to tell you something, rather than saying "fine, thanks". 3. Again you need to lead. Giving complements (for some reason) does actually require qutie a bit of confidence. Give him a complement on something, several times... see if he starts to give them back. If not you can ask him what he likes about things... eg "How much do you like my coat?, how much do you like my ass?" to force one. And then act pleased when you get one. This will start to give him the confidence of giving complements more often. 4. You need to be playful with him first. The main reason he will not be playful with you is that he feels it would be inappropriate and get him in trouble. Let him know you like a bit of playful behaviour. Ask him silly questions, slightly erotic questions, dare him to do things, say things which are obviously not true to get a funny reaction. Have childish fun. Over time doing these four things should change his behaviour so he becomes more comfortable telling people things, giving complements to people and making them feel better, taking an interest in others and being more playful. Hope this helps Talia,
How to open up a shy guy. I used to be shy, so maybe I can give you some good advice on this. Shy guys’ main problems are:
1. they don’t share stories, experiences, information and feelings to others
2. lots of them don’t ask how people are, what they’ve been up to, did they enjoy it, etc…
3. they don’t give complements
4. they’re not plaful

So for each of these points you need to counteract them, as shy guys don’t lead the conversations, that means you will have to.

1. Tell them stories, experiences you’ve had, things about yourself and your associated feelings. And after each one, ask them to reciprocate. Put them on the spot and ask them to tell you a story, tell you about somewhere they’ve been, about what they like and dislike, and how they feel about what is being discussed

Letting them know that you liked hearing about what they’ve told you will encourage them to do it more often… and change their behaviour for the better.

2. Instead of just asking them “are you all right/ how are you?” when you see them, try telling them a little bit about your day… then asking “what have you done today/this week then?”. They are more likely to tell you something, rather than saying “fine, thanks”.

3. Again you need to lead. Giving complements (for some reason) does actually require qutie a bit of confidence. Give him a complement on something, several times… see if he starts to give them back. If not you can ask him what he likes about things… eg “How much do you like my coat?, how much do you like my ass?” to force one. And then act pleased when you get one. This will start to give him the confidence of giving complements more often.

4. You need to be playful with him first. The main reason he will not be playful with you is that he feels it would be inappropriate and get him in trouble. Let him know you like a bit of playful behaviour. Ask him silly questions, slightly erotic questions, dare him to do things, say things which are obviously not true to get a funny reaction. Have childish fun.

Over time doing these four things should change his behaviour so he becomes more comfortable telling people things, giving complements to people and making them feel better, taking an interest in others and being more playful.

Hope this helps

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