Comments on: How To Insulate Yourself From Rejection http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-insulate-yourself-from-rejection/3645/ Sex. Relationships. Dating. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. Fri, 10 Feb 2012 02:15:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Mike-Ro http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-insulate-yourself-from-rejection/3645/#comment-37368 Mike-Ro Tue, 09 Feb 2010 19:16:43 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3645#comment-37368 Gerardo Saldana: It happens naturally...I mean I don't just randomly start talking about a girl, maybe if I'm with a friend and he see's a girl, he sais she's hot and if I know her and she was at sometimes into me I tell him that. Bail out....because some girls just won't respond, in my case I can't go and talk to women , I talk to girls because I myself am 18. You know what I found weird?I connect almost every time with girls over 20 but not so much with girls under 20. And once a 31 year old woman asked me out and she said I'm cofindent, interesting and so on and I didn't ask that.I just asked why me?18...31...big difference. My point is that I connected with her.It was much more easy than a girl around my age or under. Maybe I had the right mindset all the time. Could a 31 year old woman really be interested in a 18 year old guy like me? One last thing.When I go out with friends(girls) they always say...wow you're so confident.You could have any girl.All guys should be like you. But I know, the truth is that I get sometimes intimidated too. Is this good or bad? I with I could really be that guy the think I really am.I act confident around them cause I feed of they're energy in a way and I don't have nothing to prove.The minute I talk to a girl I really like , I kinda give my power away.I know all the theory in this area, but I "panic" and ....you know what I mean.Only when the conversation is over I know how it should have been done:). Gerardo Saldana:
It happens naturally…I mean I don’t just randomly start talking about a girl, maybe if I’m with a friend and he see’s a girl, he sais she’s hot and if I know her and she was at sometimes into me I tell him that.

Bail out….because some girls just won’t respond, in my case I can’t go and talk to women , I talk to girls because I myself am 18.

You know what I found weird?I connect almost every time with girls over 20 but not so much with girls under 20. And once a 31 year old woman asked me out and she said I’m cofindent, interesting and so on and I didn’t ask that.I just asked why me?18…31…big difference. My point is that I connected with her.It was much more easy than a girl around my age or under. Maybe I had the right mindset all the time.

Could a 31 year old woman really be interested in a 18 year old guy like me?

One last thing.When I go out with friends(girls) they always say…wow you’re so confident.You could have any girl.All guys should be like you. But I know, the truth is that I get sometimes intimidated too. Is this good or bad? I with I could really be that guy the think I really am.I act confident around them cause I feed of they’re energy in a way and I don’t have nothing to prove.The minute I talk to a girl I really like , I kinda give my power away.I know all the theory in this area, but I “panic” and ….you know what I mean.Only when the conversation is over I know how it should have been done:).

]]> By: Gerardo Saldana http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-insulate-yourself-from-rejection/3645/#comment-37347 Gerardo Saldana Tue, 09 Feb 2010 18:01:49 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3645#comment-37347 Raj: Boy its been quite a few amounts of posts since you spoke up. I hope you are still around to read this and restart conversation ;) I think that Travis brought up a lot of good points. Are you connecting with these girls (or everyone around you for that matter)? Pick-up lines and routines are great for entertainment purposes, and sometimes they are good as a prop to introduce yourself. But as you have found out, they don't lead to anything deeper (specially nowadays when everyone can recognize "pick-up" from miles away). The guys you mentioned (specially Style) use "pick-up" as a way to add value to themselves, but then try to actually start up a conversation and get to know the people they are talking to. That is the real key to connecting and attracting people, and that is exactly what Wygant and his team teach: How to be a conversationalist, be in the moment, become the best version of yourself, and how to enrich the lives of everyone around you :). And yea, try not to use too much pick up lingo around here please ;) Not many people are familiar with it here, and some frown down upon it (matter of opinion). Either way, let us know more about you and your thoughts on what has been posted here, we'd love to know more about you and your story man! :) Raj:

Boy its been quite a few amounts of posts since you spoke up. I hope you are still around to read this and restart conversation ;)

I think that Travis brought up a lot of good points. Are you connecting with these girls (or everyone around you for that matter)?

Pick-up lines and routines are great for entertainment purposes, and sometimes they are good as a prop to introduce yourself. But as you have found out, they don’t lead to anything deeper (specially nowadays when everyone can recognize “pick-up” from miles away). The guys you mentioned (specially Style) use “pick-up” as a way to add value to themselves, but then try to actually start up a conversation and get to know the people they are talking to. That is the real key to connecting and attracting people, and that is exactly what Wygant and his team teach: How to be a conversationalist, be in the moment, become the best version of yourself, and how to enrich the lives of everyone around you :) .

And yea, try not to use too much pick up lingo around here please ;) Not many people are familiar with it here, and some frown down upon it (matter of opinion). Either way, let us know more about you and your thoughts on what has been posted here, we’d love to know more about you and your story man! :)

]]> By: Gerardo Saldana http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-insulate-yourself-from-rejection/3645/#comment-37346 Gerardo Saldana Tue, 09 Feb 2010 17:48:16 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3645#comment-37346 Mike-Ro: Also, why bail-out? It would probably be easier and much more powerful to create a moment out of that situation by starting conversations with other people around you ;) note: I'm not saying go and ignore her, but rather, use some some of the info she gave you to ask someone else a question and see if you can get a new conversation out of that. Doing this will get rid of the awkwardness, will put her at ease, will make you look like a very confident and easy to talk to person, and will create more topics for you guys to restart conversation ;) Hope it helps :) Mike-Ro:

Also, why bail-out?

It would probably be easier and much more powerful to create a moment out of that situation by starting conversations with other people around you ;)
note: I’m not saying go and ignore her, but rather, use some some of the info she gave you to ask someone else a question and see if you can get a new conversation out of that.

Doing this will get rid of the awkwardness, will put her at ease, will make you look like a very confident and easy to talk to person, and will create more topics for you guys to restart conversation ;)

Hope it helps :)

]]> By: Gerardo Saldana http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-insulate-yourself-from-rejection/3645/#comment-37344 Gerardo Saldana Tue, 09 Feb 2010 17:40:33 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3645#comment-37344 Mike-Ro: I have a few thought in mind about your question, but first I think I need to hear about how it is that you sharing this info? Is this a topic that just happened naturally in conversation? Mike-Ro:

I have a few thought in mind about your question, but first I think I need to hear about how it is that you sharing this info? Is this a topic that just happened naturally in conversation?

]]> By: Gerardo Saldana http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-insulate-yourself-from-rejection/3645/#comment-37343 Gerardo Saldana Tue, 09 Feb 2010 17:38:40 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3645#comment-37343 Wow, what a great post this turned out to be! :D Thank you for sharing your stories guys :) Wow, what a great post this turned out to be! :D
Thank you for sharing your stories guys :)

]]> By: Mike-Ro http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-insulate-yourself-from-rejection/3645/#comment-37195 Mike-Ro Mon, 08 Feb 2010 15:20:01 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3645#comment-37195 That and how to bail out of some situations like being stuck in the same tram or something with a person that doesn't respond.It's pretty akward. And my other issue is that I keep sharing with people my experiences.Sometimes I sound like braging or maybe I just tell them to..."let them know" that I have my "share" ...After that I feel bad that I've told them even some intimate stuff. Am I looking for they're aproval or what's the matter? :| That and how to bail out of some situations like being stuck in the same tram or something with a person that doesn’t respond.It’s pretty akward.

And my other issue is that I keep sharing with people my experiences.Sometimes I sound like braging or maybe I just tell them to…”let them know” that I have my “share” …After that I feel bad that I’ve told them even some intimate stuff. Am I looking for they’re aproval or what’s the matter? :|

]]> By: mario http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-insulate-yourself-from-rejection/3645/#comment-37188 mario Mon, 08 Feb 2010 13:40:18 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3645#comment-37188 Mike Ro. I feel the same way. If you tell girls they think its really weird getting self help. Some people however are really opened so there cool with it. But yea David how do you go about telling girls that we get advice from someone else for our dating life??? Mike Ro. I feel the same way. If you tell girls they think its really weird getting self help. Some people however are really opened so there cool with it.

But yea David how do you go about telling girls that we get advice from someone else for our dating life???

]]> By: Mike-Ro http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-insulate-yourself-from-rejection/3645/#comment-37187 Mike-Ro Mon, 08 Feb 2010 13:08:22 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3645#comment-37187 Hey guys! Haven't posted in a while. Anyway I had an interesting encounter the other day.I was waiting for the tram and when I got in I saw a girl from my highschool who I liked. DOn't know what got over me we didn't really know each other I said hi ,what's up? and then sat down in front of her.I wanted to make a conversation but she gave me straight answeres. After getting her name ...I didn't say have a nice day I just turned around and put my handfree into my ears and put on music. She got off the tram at the same station, she smiled , I said bye and she said bye too. The thing is...how to "bail" in these situations? You have nowhere to go. Ohh yeah and another thing about what KJK said in the first posts.I don't brag but sometimes I tell people that I aproach girls and what David teaches. All the reactions I get are bad.They say I'm weird. I live in Romania....I know it's different from the US but is it that much of a difference in mentality? Should you or should you not share with people your experiences, with women(good/bad things) and your knoledge? Thanks..Mike Hey guys! Haven’t posted in a while. Anyway I had an interesting encounter the other day.I was waiting for the tram and when I got in I saw a girl from my highschool who I liked. DOn’t know what got over me we didn’t really know each other I said hi ,what’s up? and then sat down in front of her.I wanted to make a conversation but she gave me straight answeres. After getting her name …I didn’t say have a nice day I just turned around and put my handfree into my ears and put on music. She got off the tram at the same station, she smiled , I said bye and she said bye too.

The thing is…how to “bail” in these situations? You have nowhere to go.

Ohh yeah and another thing about what KJK said in the first posts.I don’t brag but sometimes I tell people that I aproach girls and what David teaches. All the reactions I get are bad.They say I’m weird. I live in Romania….I know it’s different from the US but is it that much of a difference in mentality?

Should you or should you not share with people your experiences, with women(good/bad things) and your knoledge?

Thanks..Mike

]]> By: mario http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-insulate-yourself-from-rejection/3645/#comment-37156 mario Mon, 08 Feb 2010 04:28:40 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3645#comment-37156 Yea man. That exactly thing happened to me. I felt the chemystry with this girl. I had my chances with her, well I tought. I mean I still see her in school and we talk and she laughs. She's that cool girl, the one that laughs at everything you say, the one that flirts with you, the amazing one, beutiful too. However, I called her for a while and she never answered. I asked her if she got my message and she would laugh and say yes. This is were I realized that it wasnt gonna work. I mean she heard my voicemail and she didn't call me back? That was proof that she just wasn't interested. However, if you talk to anyone and have the mindset of abundance in women, it won't matter that one girl rejects you. Since you will have plenty to talk to. Just try with her, dont be needy, be confident, and just be natural man. Don't worry if it doesnt work with her just never ever stop talking to women. Just do it, overtime you will get better. This is something that I bearly realized that I have to do. If it doesnt work with some girls theres always plenty. I have to do this everyday even though somedays I don't. So Drew I hope this helps and just don't sweat about it. Without More, Mario Yea man. That exactly thing happened to me. I felt the chemystry with this girl. I had my chances with her, well I tought. I mean I still see her in school and we talk and she laughs. She’s that cool girl, the one that laughs at everything you say, the one that flirts with you, the amazing one, beutiful too.

However, I called her for a while and she never answered. I asked her if she got my message and she would laugh and say yes. This is were I realized that it wasnt gonna work. I mean she heard my voicemail and she didn’t call me back? That was proof that she just wasn’t interested.

However, if you talk to anyone and have the mindset of abundance in women, it won’t matter that one girl rejects you. Since you will have plenty to talk to. Just try with her, dont be needy, be confident, and just be natural man. Don’t worry if it doesnt work with her just never ever stop talking to women. Just do it, overtime you will get better.

This is something that I bearly realized that I have to do. If it doesnt work with some girls theres always plenty. I have to do this everyday even though somedays I don’t. So Drew I hope this helps and just don’t sweat about it.

Without More,
Mario

]]> By: Drew http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-insulate-yourself-from-rejection/3645/#comment-37132 Drew Sun, 07 Feb 2010 23:41:06 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3645#comment-37132 David Thank you, sir. Your honestly have a natural gift for inspiring people. I know I won't be able to see now, and thank youfor recognizing and understanding that. The movie analogy helped as well since I plan to be a writer/filmmaker. Travis She isn't really actively rejected me. Hell, she probably just lost her phone. She might just be scared. As long as I relax now, the date is probably still on. I've done worse. I just have to wait and see. I don't believe she's trying to end anything. Mario I know, this isn't this first girl I've gotten wrapped up in. What bothers me is that I have a better chance with her than I ever did with the others. Thanks, guys. I know she won't forget me or reject me just like that, though. I resurfaced in her life when we were both having a very rough time after we lost a mutual friend. We truly are friends. If I work on myself and continue to gain confidence, maybe I will have something real to show her and other girls in a couple months. David
Thank you, sir. Your honestly have a natural gift for inspiring people. I know I won’t be able to see now, and thank youfor recognizing and understanding that. The movie analogy helped as well since I plan to be a writer/filmmaker.
Travis
She isn’t really actively rejected me. Hell, she probably just lost her phone. She might just be scared. As long as I relax now, the date is probably still on. I’ve done worse. I just have to wait and see. I don’t believe she’s trying to end anything.
Mario
I know, this isn’t this first girl I’ve gotten wrapped up in. What
bothers me is that I have a better chance with her than I ever did with the others.

Thanks, guys. I know she won’t forget me or reject me just like that, though. I resurfaced in her life when we were both having a very rough time after we lost a mutual friend. We truly are friends. If I work on myself and continue to gain confidence, maybe I will have something real to show her and other girls in a couple months.

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