How To Insulate Yourself From Rejection
February 5, 2010 
80 Comments
Here is a great question a reader just asked me. He asked, “David, how do seem open to people and be yourself if they reject you?”
Here is the answer: Who cares about what someone who rejects you thinks about you?
The only question that matters is asking how you feel about yourself. When you wake up in the morning and look in the mirror, how do you feel about yourself as a person?
We’re not in this world to please other people. Sometimes people just don’t connect with you. Sometimes people don’t resonate with what you said. Sometimes there is just no chemistry with another person.
So if you really love who you are, you practice a lot of self love, and believe in who you are as a person, then you will never feel rejected. If all you ever do is admire and respect yourself, then you will never walk away from a rejection feeling rejected.
I never feel rejected. If someone doesn’t like what I have to say or isn’t into what I have to say, then I’m fine with that.
Why am I fine with that? It is because there are so many other people with whom what I say does resonate, and I still love myself regardless.
So it all comes down to how you feel about yourself. If you are someone who spends their time trying to get approval and validation from others, it means that you do not feel secure enough about who you are as a person.
So you need to spend the time really getting to know yourself, respecting yourself, and loving and admiring yourself. Call it mental masturbation or, for those of you who are fans of Saturday Night Live, “Stuart Smalley” yourself.
What ever you call it, do it every single day. Do it and you will never be rejected again.
thanks david this really helped me out with,what happened yesterday. i wouldn’t mine getting your two cents on what happened to me.
KJK
Tell me what happened yesterday.
thanks for taking your personal time.okay here what happened:okay i finally talk to this girl that i have been seeing around at a church revival meeting.i talk to her for about 5 minutes then a security guy comes over tells me to beat as nicely as he can,before i leave i ask how contact her so i get her facebook now i look at her facebook and this is what i see:
woooow.would have never expected to get hit on by a complete stranger at an awakening service…praise the Lord for security.
Courtney
I’m so sorry I abandoned you!!!! I didn’t know what was going on. Praise the Lord for Eric.
Sara
hahah it’s ok. he just went on and on about Jewish feasts..and to top it off “How can i contact you?” this is where lying is acceptable in my book.
Bri
I could tell you some pretty good stories about getting hit on in the sound booth…
Talia
Lying to guys who are hitting on you is always okay in my book. Always.
Micah
that dude needs to get saved…or the presence of God knock him down
Elizabeth
…knock him down so he can’t talk and bother you, and will totally forget about you.
now i wasn’t hitting on her just wanted to start a conversation nothing more or less. i would like to go back there my number one priority is g-d first.but i find out is word of mouth seems to spread quickly there.
so then youre saying that everyone knows that you hit on her??
The girls there are saying how stupid you were? So what? Fuck it. Like david says theres too many people out there. If you don’t connect with some so what. Theres a bunch of chiks out there for us. If we all realize that failure is neccessary for success then everything will be okay.
For example today I’m going to the mall, I know David doesn’t call it Pickup but I don’t know any other name, so yea I’m going Pickup today, hopefully.
I know that I’m not that good but its good cause you are getting exprience. Even if i get rejected it doesn’t matter cause its the small steps in life that get you to the big ones.
Hopefully this will help you,
Mario
Another great post, David. It all comes down to being in touch with yourself.
Wow, kjk. That was really evil of her (and especially her friends – “presence of God knock him down”??). You should be glad you didn’t get sucked into her world, that could have messed you up worse than her rejection ever could.
Great post! Self-confidence, it’s so important everywhere.
mario on her facebook she put that on there, only one of her friends there knew.thanks mario
michael your 100% right,people like that would really mess me. i see nothing wrong with what i did.
This goes hand-and-hand with approaching attractive girls, I feel i could approach and talk to literally anybody with no hesitation nor anxiety because im not outcome on those interactions..
but when i see a girl that im attracted to, i feel as though its a guarantee she’ll reject me, the monkey chatter begins and i start second guessing on talking to her because i know deep down theres a high possibility that i’ll be rejected so why even bother approaching
I could have all the confidence in the world apporaching her but it dosent matter
KJK dude don’t worry about it. I was a bit like you even know in some ways I still am like that. But what we have to remember is that “Every 60 seconds spent upset is 60 seconds you won’t get back”.
KJK
I am not a religous person at all but isnt one of the things you learn in church is to embrace and be kind to all people?
You just saw this girls true character and you should be happy that she exposed herself as heartless and mean.
So what you hit on her or whatever you tried to do that is not an issue that is what people do and if was not interested she should have just said no.
Women who do this are last in my book.
Just say no.
do you realize the guts it took for the guy to approach and when the women give out contact info the guy gets all excited that she may actually like him
A quick no is always best.
That way the guy can walk away get over it and move on right away.
Add me as your facebook friend I want to see this posting.
Just remember the feeling. Did you feel any diffiferent after aproaching. Did it change you in any way?
NO so there you go just try it with different people. Approach girls at watever time of the day. Just do it. You got to do what you got to do.
I agree with what Mario had to share, keep on moving forgetting that one interaction, that girl have no class!
KJK she and her friends were way out of line. Don’t analyze the situation further, you’ll drive yourself crazy. If you know you’re being respectful and your intentions are good, then chock it up to an experience, albeit a weird one, and nothing more.
KJK-
She loves to get attention from her facebook friends, very immature behavior.
You don’t need a woman like that, you deserve better man!
Good point will.
They basically were mean people…..to post something like that on facebook….out of line,
Next time you see her I would just smile and say nothing but hello.
Be the bigger man and show her that this does not effect you at all!
MARIO
I like how you are staying focused on the bigger picture.
Its just one of many girls that he will have to approach and speak with till he finds mutual chemistry/
So many guys quit at the first attempt
Jacob
You have had this type of thing happen to you when you first got to this country.
Share some of your mishaps and how you blasted past them.
kjk- her reaction was over the top, thats why i don’t deal with girls from church, some of them are just freaks and props to you for having the balls to approach her.
Jacob-i am always curious to learn how you made it man your story is crazy, so tell us man?
I had this same things happen to me on facebook. I just called her out the next time i saw her and called her a cunt.
She then slapped me and i fucking threw her lame ass to the ground and spit back on her.
My friends had to hold me back.
I could have killed her but did not.
This was a huge lesson for me, since that day i realized that i am responsible for my happiness.
Look i am not proud at what I did but really learned from it.
Thanks David.
Plus Dave is right most of the time they are either realllly religious or are really weird. Just do the same thing but now with every girl you like. ill be right back
And I only shared this with all of you because i wanted to be honest I am not a guy who beats up his girls friends,
Ned
I was going to react and get really angry with you. I was about to say how dare you even thunk of hitting a woman,
But i took a deep breath and realized how things like this can happen.
But is Charle Sheen your role model?
Ned that’s crazy story man. She is a crazy bitch. I am surprised that you threw her on the floor and spit on her.
Ned
How old are you?
That is a crazy story and I do not think violence of any kind is going to solve anything at all.
Mario
I have found the over religous ones to be really weird to me.
But I am not a very religous person so i am sure they found me weird
kjk-
That really sucks man, but people do things based on how they feel and are. Her venting to her friend on facebook had nothing to do with you…she barely even had a chance to see the real you. Probably her way of trying to overshadow her own insecurities, and ‘prove’ to herself that she is sooo desirable by venting to her friends. Honestly i think you dodged a bullet. Cant let one experience ruin your game. Keep putting yourself out there and youll find someone worth the wait.
David-
You say to always brush off rejection and try not to think about it too much. I agree its not healthy to dwell on negative thoughts, but if you constantly approach and are rejected, wouldnt it be helpful to rethink your game instead of just moving on to the next? And you always say to be yourself and approach with confidence, but what if what comes ‘naturally’ is a turn off to most people? Im saying a very confident, unafraid you, but you just rub people the wrong way. Would that mean you would have to force yourself to be someone other than the real you? Just playing devils advocate.
KJK, Dave
Some of my mishaps. I hated myself when I couldn’t get a girl to go out with me, never get a returned call and I hated this line the most “i have a boyfriend sorry”
Its painful to hear those kind of things when you are starting out, but persistence pays off man. The thing that helped me the most was self-love. I realized when I started to embrace myself, really love myself, accept myself, all the puzzle started to put in the right places, and women started to react to me so much more powerfully!
One more note, if you miss the bus there is always a new one in 10 minutes:)
Agreed. Her reaction was over the top, although you have to understand that her friends are just being her friends. They may not necessarily be bad people (except the one who wanted you knocked down), but she is probably not pleasant herself. Consider how boring her day must have been if all she had to post as a status was you.
I have to ask, though, why were you talking about Jewish feasts at a Church event?
Ned-
I appreciate your honesty on the blog!
This is one of the craziest thing I heard so far today, I am with David on this one, violence really doesn’t solve it all.
I believe every situation in life offers us a lesson to be learned.
In my experience, the ones who seem like they are ladylike and are angels, actually are the craziest ones sexually. One was very S&M while the next one I dated practically jumped on me for a French Kiss. So, not everything is what it seems.
Jonathon: If you are rubbing people the wrong way, it is likely you are rubbing some the right way, or else you would be completely alone without any friends. There obviously are some redeeming qualities you have. If you don’t like how you’re interacting with women, you can change it. “Act natural” doesn’t mean “don’t improve yourself.”
Jacob: Thanks for sharing, I get motivated when i hear your stories and how you are so persistence no matter how tough it gets.
Jacob
David said be honest and i think that blog really helped me come clean with this
It was tough man to admit that I could have hit her. I flet like i should be on Jerry Springer.
Ned
When we really open up and be true to ourself and others, it feels a lot better.
I bet it was very tough for you to admit it.
Jerry jerry jerry jerry
Dave-
you are very welcome man anytime!
Thanks Jacob, have you ever had this feeling of being so lost inside after you did something so fucked up?
Ned-
Yes there were times in the past where i felt so lost inside after doing something really fucked up. Its like you lose touch with who you really are and easily confused.
Ned-
are you feeling really fucked up inside now?
Ned- I think Amy has a question for you?
Jacob- how is the weather in D.C.?
Yes jacob i do feel a bit fucked up inside right now. Thsi happened a year ago and whenever i think about i feel horrible
Hi,
I will try to wrap up my life story as short as I can. Ever since grade two I have been rejected. I still remember how there were a few groups of girls who used to hate me. Other than that every one around me just seem to love me for who I was. I have always been the funny one with the smartest remarks. I used to get the instant ewwwws. Well now with me its different. I have more information in my head on this subject that no one else around me has. Yet I can not find a girlfriend. I can easily approach and get them hooked. I am the kind of guy who girls love to be around but would never see me as a potential boyfriend. And now that I know so many routines and tips on body language I see myself doing great in a few months maybe.I was always playing the game.Now I am playing it right. Lets say over the last 1.5 years I have approached more than 1000 people and I could not get a single f-close. In my university I have alot of female friends. You will probably tell me to work on sexual escalation but I am the biggest flirt ever. David Deangelo , Nick Shane and Style are in the nearest part of my head. I still cannot geta girl to be sexual on me. Girls will want to get to know me because they want to be entertained.
I thought my virginity was blocking me. Even though I had promised myself that I would never pay for it. I just did it and lost it to some whore just to find out how BAD i was in bed. Now the only good thing that I got out of this is self-confidence. I never give up. Actually there is another good thing. Everyone on my campus has seen my with alot of HBs and I get alot of attention from the girls around and thats because I open sets of people all the time. My school is a real small community. How can I put that to my advantage?
Last thing I would say is my dependence on canned routines are 90%. I can not not say them. I have alot of NLP routines and canned DHV stories that I use.
Thankss
You know, though, I have to say that I talk to strangers all the time and strangers approach me all the time. Even when I know they’re “hitting on” me, it’s not something that is all that upsetting. It’s sort of flattering, and I know how to enjoy it and handle it. Younger women are giddy yet confused with their new power, and they’re also sort of scared. And some of that fear is reasonable. Young women are more likely to be victims of all kinds of nastiness — and they do get a lot of attention that is creepy. I don’t get attention from men who are too much younger than me; younger women get guys their age and on up — when you’re young and at all cute it can feel like predatory male eyes are on you all the time. (And I like men a lot; I’m just talking about what it’s like to be a young woman.)
The whole Facebook thing was over the top, but I do think it could be instructional regarding how hard it can be to approach women in a way that makes them think, “Ooo — this cool, interesting guy is talking to me” vs. “This guys is hitting on me, and I’m a little nervous.” A big church crowd is probably as intimidating as a dance or club.
Ned man its alright to feel fucked up. It would be almost impossible to be happy all the time. We all have down days. What we have to learn from them is that if you let a down day ruin your whole day its going to ruin your chances with meeting gorgeous women. Think about it
If you go around on a bad day and you see a girl you really wanted to talk to but you didnt cause you were so pissed, you missed on a possible date.
I do that sometimes but then I look around me and see all the miracles that are going on. The air, birds, grass, you alive.
Think about all the people that died at Haiti,dont you think they would have loved to live one more day. To say I love you to that one person. To do that one thing before the died. We take life for granted because we no longer see it as a miracle we have gotten used to it. We say “oh today I have time to waste”, when in reality we shouldn’t. Be happy with what you got and just leave the past behind. Don’t think about it cause you are wasting valuable “NOW” time.
Jonathan just cause people say “act natural” it doesnt mean that you can’t improve your game. BY BEING natural David means to not use pickup lines and just use OBSERVATIONS around you. Thats being natural cause you won’t have lines to memorize. Plus girls would be more attractive and you build yourself inner confidence. Something that pickup lines wont do.
Without more,
Mario
Coach Jacob,
I went through the exact thing! But I was born here…shits fucked up. Anyhow I used to hear “I have a boyfriend” all the time. When I was 20/21 I used to run around the restaurant where work with my dick in my hand and only flirt with the waitress I was attracted too. Then I’d wonder why none of them wanted to go out with me..was it my age? not good looking enough? What was it? I was nice and I was funny,but nobody wanted to hang out,not even the guys! I wasn’t connecting with anyone,and was just running around a horney 20 year old. What’s funny is that women don’t tell you what’s wrong with you,they don’t tell you “Your acting all horny and you need to get to know us first on a deeper level” Fortunatley it only took me 10 years later to learn all this stuff..grrr David where were you back in 97???
Raj: You won’t find too much love for canned routines and pickup acronyms here. Sounds like you’re putting a high value on sex and not caring about much else. I would give up random sex in a second for a great relationship, especially since the sex in the latter is much better than the former. I am guessing you are subliminally projecting this to everyone you meet. Try to drop the lines and routines, you’ll connect with people a lot better that way. Do you have a big social network? Do you talk to everyone or just the girl you’re interested in?
Kay: I agree. It seems like it could be a self-esteem issue and she was blowing it way out of proportion. I’m not sure when talking about Jewish feasts translated to “being hit on.” Although I am curious as to why the security guard removed him and why he was talking about Jewish feasts at a Christian gathering…
travis the one reason i was talking about jewish feast is she asked do i go there i said no i’m a messianic jew so that started the jewish feast part of the conversation.why my religions different.her friend got the sercurity guard as i was leaving the he starting talking to me and i won him over cause i opened up to him.
thanks jacob for sharing that means a a lot.
david i can give her name in a message because she blocked her wall.i’m curious why you want she the post?
yes i i’m a believer in g-d but in no way i’m religious to the point were i’m narrow minded and i always will stay humble,also remind myself of peoples struggles. cause of what happened i understand why these people are narrow minded its the doctrine and they dont have friends outside of the church there going to.
on the same night i had a great conversation with a guy there for 20 mins and i said i have to go i’ll be sitting over on the other side guess what later he comes over and we have another conversation.thats when i truly new the power of being confident in myself and dont think of others think of you.because thats what i was dealing with in my life,always having people telling me who i am,i realized thats not who i am,and so i have been coming into my own my friends see how i’m changing for the better of myself.
thanks to every one for sharing it means a lot and this is one of the best discussions i have had.
KJK – wow, I didn’t know they can just put it up in facebook and suddenly, they start to talk at your back. David’s right, brush it off and move on.
I believe David’s right when he says you can’t always connect to every person you see. It’s all chemistry.
Jonathan – listen to mario there. So what if people don’t like you? You keep going. It’s the only way. Being you is what counts in our world, in our life. I have a friend all right, who wears merchandise of his idols (I’d like to keep his personal info withdrawn. I respect his privacy). When I’m with him… oh, a lot of people like to shout and mock him for what he wears. Hew is ignored when he speaks of his true self, and shows of his true self. Sure, he gets ignored, or some people don’t like his attitude, but he kept pushing in meeting people and today, he has a lot of friends who like him for who he is.
So take it from me: be YOURSELF. Don’t mind what people say about you. Pretending to be someone else won’t make you any happier. And remember: LIVE IN ABUNDANCE. Have an abundance mindset! Believe that you will meet people, girls, be successful or whatever it might be. If you get rejected for what you are, then it’s not your fault. It’s their loss they don’t know what a great person you are.
That’s all I want to say.
BE YOURSELF, LOVE YOURSELF.
i think it comes down to being able to actually becoming desensitized to rejection. When you get rejected YOU are NOT getting rejected, you’re approach is. It has nothing to do with you as a person. Never take anything to heart.
Kay–thanks for your input…well said. It’s interesting the whole attention thing. I have friends who flirt just to get attention so they feel good about themselves…not because they are interested in the guy necessarily. David is right in that we have to feel good about ourselves so we don’t have to rely on the constant validation from others. This is also the dynamic that gets guys confused and frustrated as they think the girl might be interested!
i have been rejected,but nothing like that.that was brutal.now the way i look at it is if i can take that and roll it off my back any other rejection is nothing.hey i have a good story to build up someones confidence up.
at least i had the balls to do it and talk to who i wanted to talk to.now if i can find someone mature.
I wouldent say though that you will never feel rejected, rater you will feel like it is simply their loss loss. To come off as open it simply has to not genuiny bother you.
When the girls says stuff like “Do you think I’m pretty” or just a sentance that starts with “Do you think I’m… It’s a red flag that means she’s looking for validation. Website address should be http://www.davidisright.com.
kJK-
You are very welcome.
Glad to hear you have a better perspective on this now.
Kevin
Its funny so many of us were in the same situation in the past. There is nothing worse than walking with a dick in our hand all the time, Women can smell that from miles away. To look at this from a women’s perspective, if I was a women, and I saw some guy walking around with the dick in his hand I would run as far as I can:) That is why changing our approach is really necessary.
When she says stuff like that tell her, the answer to that question is YES, as long as it gets me somewhere:)
Awesome post, David. Hey, guys. I need some help…
And I’m sorry if this isn’t the most appropriate place to do it. I just don’t know where to go.
drew
share all with us!!
Drew- what kind of help do you need man?
Thank you guys. You’re the best. Basically, this girl who is 2 years older than me (I’m 17) is driving me crazy. I love her, and she knows that. Anyway, I asked her recently if fhere was a chance we would ever be more than friends. She hasn’t answered and I asked this quite a while ago. It’s a cery odd situation. She use to live around here and have mutual friends, but we havn’t seen each other. We’vee known each other for over a year. She wwants to meet next month, and we’re doing a date/hangout thing. She recognizes that I’m confident and loves the new me. I’m just afraid that it’s bad news if she takes this long to answer a question. It’s been about a week.
Am I being too anxious? Or does she not care?
Drew: Probably doesn’t care or might just want you to lead. I would recommend going on that date and going about it like you would any other, just make sure you be the man and lead the interaction. Don’t do anything else that could be considered needy, and don’t bring up the question you asked, just pretend it never happened.
How can you love her? Do you really know her? If you haven’t seen each other, you can’t possibly love her. She might have horrible habits in person. When you meet her, you need to see if she interests you, not the other way around.
Rejection is ok, we’ve probably all rejected someone during our lives, not always because we think there’s something wrong with them, we’re just not interested at that point in our lives.
She hasn’t answered me at all. I feel terrible.
Drew
Ah to be 17 and so full of emotions you are bringing me back to my days in high school when i would fall in love with someone i barely even knew.
Now 30 years later i realized that what i was feeling was not love at all but a crush.
An infatuation with that person.
A feeling of want and desire that i did not ever have before.
And no frame of reference to the reality of what I was feeling.
This is why being 17 can be so hard at times.
We feel that its the end of the world when someone does not respond…our heart and mind can not stop racing and thinking about that person and the pain that it caused.
I know right now you are feeling so lost and hurt but let me tell you something.
If i could show you a movie about your life this would not even make the final cut.
Thats right this moment will be so forgotten by so many other real and powerful moments.
Right now you cant see that…..and neither could i at your age.
But trust me my friend…….you are going to be fine.
Feel that and relax and enjoy the game today with friends and family.
Drew: Did you contact her again? If you did and she hasn’t responded, then consider the date off. Move on and forget about her. If she sets up a date with you and then blows off all further communication, that doesn’t speak too highly of her.
Drew man hit me up on Facebook or give me your email.
Listen I’m 16 so I understand you. I went through the same stuff last year. I was so caught up with this girl I gave her an expensive gift for xmas, lied to her, wrote her a song, and geave her my necklace. I swear man she liked me I felt the chemistry but I tried to hard and she felt that. The flare eventually turned off.
Cause the age were at all we get are crushes, little flares. There not that important, just remember that thres too many girls out there. SOme are not going to like you. Its a fact. However don’t ever stop trying. If you keep on being fun, natural, you will eventually attract someone to you.
If the girl doesnt call then shes not interested you cant change that. What you could change though is how girls perceive you, how they look at you. If you are natural they will come to you, and you will stop chasing them.
What I learned from my time reading the blog. Girls are everywhere man. IF you spend your time out there out your comfort zone you will eventually find someone. Whatever you do though dont spend time caught up on failed approaches or conversations because if you do you will find that all that time spend thinking about them is time wasted. All the time wasted could have been spent on another conversation with a future date.
Just relax man and dont worry about it. Thats whaT I learned that helped me the best. If you worry then you will only attract negative energy. Although right now it feels bad think about it as an opportunity to do better next time, to improve yourself. Every bad situation is an opportunity to go out there and be better.
Just remember how it feel right now and don’t ever feel like this again. Keep improving yourself and you will get someone. Remember it takes time its not gonna happen over the next day.
Without more,
Mario
David
Thank you, sir. Your honestly have a natural gift for inspiring people. I know I won’t be able to see now, and thank youfor recognizing and understanding that. The movie analogy helped as well since I plan to be a writer/filmmaker.
Travis
She isn’t really actively rejected me. Hell, she probably just lost her phone. She might just be scared. As long as I relax now, the date is probably still on. I’ve done worse. I just have to wait and see. I don’t believe she’s trying to end anything.
Mario
I know, this isn’t this first girl I’ve gotten wrapped up in. What
bothers me is that I have a better chance with her than I ever did with the others.
Thanks, guys. I know she won’t forget me or reject me just like that, though. I resurfaced in her life when we were both having a very rough time after we lost a mutual friend. We truly are friends. If I work on myself and continue to gain confidence, maybe I will have something real to show her and other girls in a couple months.
Yea man. That exactly thing happened to me. I felt the chemystry with this girl. I had my chances with her, well I tought. I mean I still see her in school and we talk and she laughs. She’s that cool girl, the one that laughs at everything you say, the one that flirts with you, the amazing one, beutiful too.
However, I called her for a while and she never answered. I asked her if she got my message and she would laugh and say yes. This is were I realized that it wasnt gonna work. I mean she heard my voicemail and she didn’t call me back? That was proof that she just wasn’t interested.
However, if you talk to anyone and have the mindset of abundance in women, it won’t matter that one girl rejects you. Since you will have plenty to talk to. Just try with her, dont be needy, be confident, and just be natural man. Don’t worry if it doesnt work with her just never ever stop talking to women. Just do it, overtime you will get better.
This is something that I bearly realized that I have to do. If it doesnt work with some girls theres always plenty. I have to do this everyday even though somedays I don’t. So Drew I hope this helps and just don’t sweat about it.
Without More,
Mario
Hey guys! Haven’t posted in a while. Anyway I had an interesting encounter the other day.I was waiting for the tram and when I got in I saw a girl from my highschool who I liked. DOn’t know what got over me we didn’t really know each other I said hi ,what’s up? and then sat down in front of her.I wanted to make a conversation but she gave me straight answeres. After getting her name …I didn’t say have a nice day I just turned around and put my handfree into my ears and put on music. She got off the tram at the same station, she smiled , I said bye and she said bye too.
The thing is…how to “bail” in these situations? You have nowhere to go.
Ohh yeah and another thing about what KJK said in the first posts.I don’t brag but sometimes I tell people that I aproach girls and what David teaches. All the reactions I get are bad.They say I’m weird. I live in Romania….I know it’s different from the US but is it that much of a difference in mentality?
Should you or should you not share with people your experiences, with women(good/bad things) and your knoledge?
Thanks..Mike
Mike Ro. I feel the same way. If you tell girls they think its really weird getting self help. Some people however are really opened so there cool with it.
But yea David how do you go about telling girls that we get advice from someone else for our dating life???
That and how to bail out of some situations like being stuck in the same tram or something with a person that doesn’t respond.It’s pretty akward.
And my other issue is that I keep sharing with people my experiences.Sometimes I sound like braging or maybe I just tell them to…”let them know” that I have my “share” …After that I feel bad that I’ve told them even some intimate stuff. Am I looking for they’re aproval or what’s the matter?
Wow, what a great post this turned out to be!
Thank you for sharing your stories guys
Mike-Ro:
I have a few thought in mind about your question, but first I think I need to hear about how it is that you sharing this info? Is this a topic that just happened naturally in conversation?
Mike-Ro:
Also, why bail-out?
It would probably be easier and much more powerful to create a moment out of that situation by starting conversations with other people around you
note: I’m not saying go and ignore her, but rather, use some some of the info she gave you to ask someone else a question and see if you can get a new conversation out of that.
Doing this will get rid of the awkwardness, will put her at ease, will make you look like a very confident and easy to talk to person, and will create more topics for you guys to restart conversation
Hope it helps
Raj:
Boy its been quite a few amounts of posts since you spoke up. I hope you are still around to read this and restart conversation
I think that Travis brought up a lot of good points. Are you connecting with these girls (or everyone around you for that matter)?
Pick-up lines and routines are great for entertainment purposes, and sometimes they are good as a prop to introduce yourself. But as you have found out, they don’t lead to anything deeper (specially nowadays when everyone can recognize “pick-up” from miles away). The guys you mentioned (specially Style) use “pick-up” as a way to add value to themselves, but then try to actually start up a conversation and get to know the people they are talking to. That is the real key to connecting and attracting people, and that is exactly what Wygant and his team teach: How to be a conversationalist, be in the moment, become the best version of yourself, and how to enrich the lives of everyone around you
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And yea, try not to use too much pick up lingo around here please
Not many people are familiar with it here, and some frown down upon it (matter of opinion). Either way, let us know more about you and your thoughts on what has been posted here, we’d love to know more about you and your story man! 
Gerardo Saldana:
It happens naturally…I mean I don’t just randomly start talking about a girl, maybe if I’m with a friend and he see’s a girl, he sais she’s hot and if I know her and she was at sometimes into me I tell him that.
Bail out….because some girls just won’t respond, in my case I can’t go and talk to women , I talk to girls because I myself am 18.
You know what I found weird?I connect almost every time with girls over 20 but not so much with girls under 20. And once a 31 year old woman asked me out and she said I’m cofindent, interesting and so on and I didn’t ask that.I just asked why me?18…31…big difference. My point is that I connected with her.It was much more easy than a girl around my age or under. Maybe I had the right mindset all the time.
Could a 31 year old woman really be interested in a 18 year old guy like me?
One last thing.When I go out with friends(girls) they always say…wow you’re so confident.You could have any girl.All guys should be like you. But I know, the truth is that I get sometimes intimidated too. Is this good or bad? I with I could really be that guy the think I really am.I act confident around them cause I feed of they’re energy in a way and I don’t have nothing to prove.The minute I talk to a girl I really like , I kinda give my power away.I know all the theory in this area, but I “panic” and ….you know what I mean.Only when the conversation is over I know how it should have been done:).