Comments on: How To Date Multiple People http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-date-multiple-people/2165/ Sex. Relationships. Dating. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. Tue, 22 May 2012 20:21:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Mike-Ro http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-date-multiple-people/2165/#comment-32200 Mike-Ro Thu, 08 Oct 2009 11:01:34 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2165#comment-32200 QUESTION!! When you say 'date' does it involve kissing and stuff or just getting to know that person better? QUESTION!! When you say ‘date’ does it involve kissing and stuff or just getting to know that person better?

]]> By: Bijan http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-date-multiple-people/2165/#comment-32065 Bijan Fri, 02 Oct 2009 22:29:16 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2165#comment-32065 How about a download of the podcast? I lost the page while listening and would like to fast-forward. How about a download of the podcast? I lost the page while listening and would like to fast-forward.

]]> By: charles http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-date-multiple-people/2165/#comment-32054 charles Fri, 02 Oct 2009 06:02:54 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2165#comment-32054 Hey David I just want to say that I freaking love you!! you have the coolest job in the world. I really hope I become rich BEFORE I get rid of my insecurities so I can hire you for private coaching :) Hey David I just want to say that I freaking love you!! you have the coolest job in the world. I really hope I become rich BEFORE I get rid of my insecurities so I can hire you for private coaching :)

]]> By: Mike-Ro http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-date-multiple-people/2165/#comment-32051 Mike-Ro Fri, 02 Oct 2009 04:32:31 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2165#comment-32051 Crystal it's weird.People who actualy get to know me think that I'm a player in a way. But the other ones don't have that kind of impresion,On the contrary...Not to date exclusevly highschool or college girls? But at my age who should I date? I've dated once a 20 year old but that's the max... Like I told told you, I don't have problems aproaching women where I'm confortable, but 99% of them look so serios,so unfriendly so thay cut me off, don't know maybe I should force myself to try and try till I do it out of reflex. Be back later. C'ya Crystal it’s weird.People who actualy get to know me think that I’m a player in a way. But the other ones don’t have that kind of impresion,On the contrary…Not to date exclusevly highschool or college girls? But at my age who should I date? I’ve dated once a 20 year old but that’s the max…

Like I told told you, I don’t have problems aproaching women where I’m confortable, but 99% of them look so serios,so unfriendly so thay cut me off, don’t know maybe I should force myself to try and try till I do it out of reflex. Be back later. C’ya

]]> By: Maria http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-date-multiple-people/2165/#comment-32049 Maria Fri, 02 Oct 2009 03:04:27 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2165#comment-32049 Thanks Jacob, that was my initial thought that he was flirting. Jeff - No, I haven't always dated multiple guys.. I'm more of a one-man women, and prefer long term relationships and would like to get married in the next few years. After my last relationship ended, I took a break to heal then decided to jump back in the game. I just think it's important to put yourself out there if you're single, either by going out and talking to people or through dating sites (the current 2 I'm dating are from such a site). I also feel I'd be missing out by getting to know just one guy and not giving others a chance. Honesty is essential for it to work. There are lots of people out there you can hit it off with, but it takes some effort and patience to find one that's really a fit with you and where you feel your life is headed. Thanks Jacob, that was my initial thought that he was flirting.

Jeff – No, I haven’t always dated multiple guys.. I’m more of a one-man women, and prefer long term relationships and would like to get married in the next few years. After my last relationship ended, I took a break to heal then decided to jump back in the game. I just think it’s important to put yourself out there if you’re single, either by going out and talking to people or through dating sites (the current 2 I’m dating are from such a site). I also feel I’d be missing out by getting to know just one guy and not giving others a chance. Honesty is essential for it to work. There are lots of people out there you can hit it off with, but it takes some effort and patience to find one that’s really a fit with you and where you feel your life is headed.

]]> By: Crystal http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-date-multiple-people/2165/#comment-32043 Crystal Thu, 01 Oct 2009 20:44:43 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2165#comment-32043 Wow, so you are in another country too. Crazy! I was taking your comments to mean that you had problems approaching and getting to know women. If that were your problem, than being percieved as a player would be something you shouldn't worry about. But also, what other people say is always outside of your control. If I were in your situation I wouldn't worry about people's perceptions were as much as I would concern myself with the truth of the situation. If you are behaving like a player other people will see it, but more importantly, you will feel it. One of the things David says oten is to be genuine. If it doesn't feel right to date a lot of girls then maybe you should just spend time in groups with a lot of girls. All the girls that you enjoy spending time with. And enjoy the time. You will learn about yourself and about women in general. Based on my personal experience I would tell people, as a general rule, not to date exclusively in high school or college. It limits your opportunities to learn and grow too much. And, as I said before, as long as you aren't leading the girls on or pursuing a lot of sexual relationships, I don't think you will be considered a player. However, it probably is a good idea to be dating exclusively if you are going to be having sex at your age. It's physically and emotionally safer. Wow, so you are in another country too. Crazy! I was taking your comments to mean that you had problems approaching and getting to know women. If that were your problem, than being percieved as a player would be something you shouldn’t worry about.

But also, what other people say is always outside of your control. If I were in your situation I wouldn’t worry about people’s perceptions were as much as I would concern myself with the truth of the situation.

If you are behaving like a player other people will see it, but more importantly, you will feel it. One of the things David says oten is to be genuine. If it doesn’t feel right to date a lot of girls then maybe you should just spend time in groups with a lot of girls.

All the girls that you enjoy spending time with. And enjoy the time. You will learn about yourself and about women in general. Based on my personal experience I would tell people, as a general rule, not to date exclusively in high school or college.

It limits your opportunities to learn and grow too much. And, as I said before, as long as you aren’t leading the girls on or pursuing a lot of sexual relationships, I don’t think you will be considered a player.

However, it probably is a good idea to be dating exclusively if you are going to be having sex at your age. It’s physically and emotionally safer.

]]> By: Mike-Ro http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-date-multiple-people/2165/#comment-32042 Mike-Ro Thu, 01 Oct 2009 19:56:32 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2165#comment-32042 Oh and by the way...what did you mean by "you may be worrying about something outside to the scope of your control at the moment"? Self confidence again? I just freak out and make instant excuses when I see a girl i really like. That's why I've always dated 'medium' girls not the one that I really like. Not that it's imposible, I just freak out and can't find an opener or something... And in my case, it really matters where I am in that moment, if I like and feel confortable in that place or not... Oh and by the way…what did you mean by “you may be worrying about something outside to the scope of your control at the moment”?

Self confidence again? I just freak out and make instant excuses when I see a girl i really like. That’s why I’ve always dated ‘medium’ girls not the one that I really like. Not that it’s imposible, I just freak out and can’t find an opener or something… And in my case, it really matters where I am in that moment, if I like and feel confortable in that place or not…

]]> By: Mike-Ro http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-date-multiple-people/2165/#comment-32041 Mike-Ro Thu, 01 Oct 2009 19:52:41 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2165#comment-32041 Don't be concerned. I want to learn :) That's all. Cause When I was 14-15-16 my friend already had girlfriend . I didn't till 17. I know that there's a gap between the generations. I mean I'm shocked with these 12 year old kids making out. It's true. So , concerning me, I've learned that what David teaches works and it's not early to start learning cause there things work for me. I'm kinda perfectionist and that's why I have so many questions and doubts. I had a huge ego, I needed validation from everybody. I grew a lot in the last months and my confidence as well. It's just that, I don't want to date girls and have fun by being an asshole or a jerk like most guys are at my age. True ,some guys didn't get at my curent 'level' even in they're twenties but I don't brag. I want to become better and better at it.It's that really a bad thing?That I want to become as David said, the best version of me? I respect your opinion and I will check it in the morning cause here it's 11 pm and I'm very sleepy :) . And have a good day in the US :D . Don’t be concerned. I want to learn :) That’s all. Cause When I was 14-15-16 my friend already had girlfriend . I didn’t till 17. I know that there’s a gap between the generations. I mean I’m shocked with these 12 year old kids making out. It’s true.

So , concerning me, I’ve learned that what David teaches works and it’s not early to start learning cause there things work for me. I’m kinda perfectionist and that’s why I have so many questions and doubts. I had a huge ego, I needed validation from everybody. I grew a lot in the last months and my confidence as well. It’s just that, I don’t want to date girls and have fun by being an asshole or a jerk like most guys are at my age. True ,some guys didn’t get at my curent ‘level’ even in they’re twenties but I don’t brag. I want to become better and better at it.It’s that really a bad thing?That I want to become as David said, the best version of me? I respect your opinion and I will check it in the morning cause here it’s 11 pm and I’m very sleepy :) . And have a good day in the US :D .

]]> By: Crystal http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-date-multiple-people/2165/#comment-32037 Crystal Thu, 01 Oct 2009 18:53:32 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2165#comment-32037 Wow Mike. Maybe date girls who don't go to your school. Something makes me doubt that going on date with a lot of girls -- especially if they all know you don't consider them your girlfriend -- can be a bad thing. If you're too scared to ask or hang out in the first place I think you may be worrying about something outside to the scope of your control at the moment. In high school and college there are a TON of opportunities ot hang out with the opposite sex without dating or being considered a player. Especially in a group. I'm also surprised that you are so worried about this at your age. I'm concerned. What do you really want to have happen (or accomplish) in your love life? Wow Mike. Maybe date girls who don’t go to your school. Something makes me doubt that going on date with a lot of girls — especially if they all know you don’t consider them your girlfriend — can be a bad thing.

If you’re too scared to ask or hang out in the first place I think you may be worrying about something outside to the scope of your control at the moment. In high school and college there are a TON of opportunities ot hang out with the opposite sex without dating or being considered a player.

Especially in a group.

I’m also surprised that you are so worried about this at your age. I’m concerned. What do you really want to have happen (or accomplish) in your love life?

]]> By: Mike-Ro http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-to-date-multiple-people/2165/#comment-32036 Mike-Ro Thu, 01 Oct 2009 18:29:44 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2165#comment-32036 It's not a small town. Check on google earth :)) It has aprox 260.000 people living here. Cause I'm in highschool, the last year and gossip goes around. I'm now a he-whore cause I'm most of the times afraid to start a conversation and be interested in someone that I really like. My case is the one that David talk about at the begining when he talks about that certain client. That's exactly me. I don't have the guts to do more (on the street or school) with someone I like . But when I'm at the dance course and I teach others, I could easy talk to miss world if you get what I mean... It’s not a small town. Check on google earth :) ) It has aprox 260.000 people living here.

Cause I’m in highschool, the last year and gossip goes around. I’m now a he-whore cause I’m most of the times afraid to start a conversation and be interested in someone that I really like. My case is the one that David talk about at the begining when he talks about that certain client. That’s exactly me. I don’t have the guts to do more (on the street or school) with someone I like . But when I’m at the dance course and I teach others, I could easy talk to miss world if you get what I mean…

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