My bad, I cannot be a total hypocrite, I made the same guy wait for me for 8 minutes the first date, but I did call to say I was still down the street. Karma? Probably. Will I allow this to happen again? I sure hope not!

I can go on for another thirty minutes on this one. Regardless, I am glad the “be on time” words are getting out their and being discussed.
Thanks a bunch!

Sara

let’s see if anyone feels guilty after reading this blog he he

thumbs up
Markus

Thanks again… and yes, I probably chose the wrong spot to leave this question. I’m new to all this and it wasn’t a life or death question.

I’ve tried online dating services and blogs. I’ve traveled to 13 countries. I’ve joined clubs, volunteered for things, and have even asked people to set me up. I’ve even hung out at hardware stores and computer shops, but after awhile management begins to think I’m some stalker or casing the place. I’ve been told to stop looking, so I have recently tried that and haven’t been on a decent date in 3 years. Most people at 40 are married or coming out of a marriage. Younger men are great for a night out, but they aren’t thinking about long-term. And I’m picky, which doesn’t help matters.

So, can anyone please tell me where to go meet men who are in their 30′s or early 40′s; who aren’t married or hate women so much that they take it out on me?

Thank you.

So you’re in a relationship and your partner starts nagging. She tells you that you just don’t understand her, and that she really wishes that you would just do more “little things.”
(Actually, I don’t ‘nag’ that they don’t understand me… I nag that they act like assholes…if you can call it nagging.)
It’s not the big things that make her happy; it’s paying attention to the little details and showing you care that is really meaningful. (true, kinda.) She doesn’t necessarily need lavish gifts — she needs to know you’re thinking about her.(true)
Here are some ideas to get you started doing these “little things” she really wants:
1. Rub her feet instead of asking her if she wants you to rub her feet. Make it look like you want to do it.(This… this is good. ‘make it seem like you want to.’ Oh wonderful! I’m so happy you’re lieing to me about wanting to physically make me feel good!’ How about, you think about it for a moment. You love her, right? You like touching her, right? Do you like it better when she feels like shit or do you like it better when she feels appreciated? You dumbfuck. Of COURSE you like it better when she feels loved . Because then you’re both happy and harmonious together. Plus… a massage might lead to a massage for you… And/Or a deliciously fleshy tangle of hot sweaty love… And you’re always up for that, aren’t you?)
2. Make her dinner one night. Don’t ask her if she wants you to make dinner. Make her dinner before she gets home.(Good. But not just for ‘one night.’ Try every once in awhile. Like the same amount of times a month that she makes dinner for you. Say, if she makes a dinner for you for about three weeks of the month, you should try and get as many days as possible, since there’s only that one week where you guys go out or don’t eat or whatever. Or maybe offer to help make dinner while she makes it, or after she’s made it clean the dishes. Or split up the month evenly. You’re not stupid. You can divide, and so can she. She’ll notice if she’s doing everything… and she won’t like it being all one-sided.)
3. Light a candle so that she arrives home to a nice environment instead of coming home to the glaring lights of the television and other things.(I think males are too stupid to understand that. So I’ll make something clear. Make sure you light more than one candle-fire safe, of course- and DON’T leave all the appliances ..ward. Turn everything off, and then light your candles. Maybe clean the house a bit, too. Hey! She cleans up after your messy ass! Her mess is easy compared to yours. Don’t worry too much about putting things away in the wrong places. Unless she’s a bitch and/or you are ridiculously stupid and decide the most logical place for her clothing in a windstorm in on the roof, she’ll just be happy you thought of it and tried. Plus, she has a little less to do. I mean, all she has to do is replace the things you accidently put where they don’t go back.)
4. Send her a text in the middle of the day telling her “I miss your smile from this morning” or “Last night was amazing!” or “The conversation we had last night was great.”(This is nice– if you mean it, and if you don’t just want something material in return. Also, try and make it things that are meaningful, not a bazillion random things that make no sense–’thank you for putting your socks on.’ Unless she’s a hound dog and the you could follow it up with something silly like ‘thank you for putting your socks on… so I can take them off later when I make love to you after I give you the best foot massage you’ve ever had. I LOVE YOU.’ Now that’s sweet, and personalized, because depending on your female, you knw she likes it. Watch that it doesn’t appear like your stalking her, or texting ecause you’re too lazy to work, though.)
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5. Send an eCard in the middle of the day… something cute to remind her how much you really care about her.(This is fucking retarded unless you’re dating someone superficial. If you are, please don’t have children with them.)
6. If she’s going on a business trip, offer to drive her to the airport or pick her up to make her life that much easier.(No. you BETTER do this. There’s no just offering. This is an unspoken and unchangeable rule. Unless your mom is dying or something, you’ll do this.)
7. Let her have control of the remote control. Don’t monopolize it for a change. Just give it to her and let her actually sit there and enjoying watching one of her shows. Then you can share one of her interests by watching it with her.(Or you could maximize your time- and brain cells- together and just not watch t.v. Instead, you could save the t.v. money and go to dinner, or buy her something, or buy you both something to share, or save it to invest in your child’s future, or move to another country after saving for awhile. And, on top of having that money, you could go for a walk, or talk to each other, or just stare deep into each other’s eyes, or work on the house together, or play a game… endless possibilities.)
8. Offer to iron one of her shirts or take her clothes to the dry cleaner.(Only if she actually likes her clothes being treated like that. And only if you know what you’re doing. Don’t ruin her clothes. You could also offer to have her teach you how to do these things properly. I promise, she’ll be delighted to teach you girly things. )
9. Clean up the bathroom without being asked. Don’t just sit there and ignore the mess around the toilet. If you know it drives her crazy to see water splashed all around the sink, dry that area after you use it.(YES! Amazing! And put the lid down, and clean the bathroom the ‘correct’ way. That means her way. Remember everything is relative. But if you do this, I promis you’ll both be happy. She’ll still clean it most of the time, anyway, but she’ll recognize your efforts and be really happy about it.)
10. If you work out together, enjoy it with her instead of rushing through your own workout and then not letting her workout at the same time.(Same goes with everything that isn’t ‘working out.’ Like walking. And shopping.)
11. Take a shower together, then wash her hair, scrub her back, and give her a spa treatment. Do this and enjoy it!(Maybe not every shower. Probably would be best if this was a special thing. I mean, shower together every time. But save the spa treatment for special times. That means even times that you don’t consider special but you know she does. Also, the normal showers you can sav for study time. How does she wash her own hair and body? What does she prefer to use and in what order? If you do things more like she does when you give her the special spa treatments, she’ll feel more comfortable. In addition, she’ll notice you watch her… and that will turn her on.)
12. The next time she gives you a massage, give her a massage the next day. Offer it! Don’t just say you’ll give her a massage…do it!(Or how about giving her a massage right after, or even at the same time? Geeze this guy thinks he knows women and relationships? Please! You’re barely tapping the iceburg. Nice try. But we wanna enjoy things together, not separately, most of the relationship time.)
13. Surprise her by making plans. Tell her, “We’re going out tonight honey.” You can even just go out for a drink or dinner somewhere. It’s taking the initiative that’s important.(And try not to make it drinks more than a few times. Also, spice it up a little. Plan something sweet and extravagent, but still personal. Like post-it notes leading to a candlelit dinner on the roof. Or a blindfold car trip to the mountains, to see a sunset and have a picnic. Or surprising her with a new dress and then taking her out to eat in it.)
14. Decide on and set aside one night a week as date night. Have a date like when you first started dating.(You can also do this randomly. Go up to her and ask her out, act shy, hit on her in a convincing way. You could go to a party and make it a game there, like you just met at the party.)
15. Call her in the middle of the day and just say hello. Don’t wait for her to call you.(But make sure she won’t be in a meeting or somewhere important as best as you can. People forget to turn their cells on silent. If you don’t, she may be angry at you for making her boss pissed at her. Otherwise this is an awesome idea! The ‘hello I love you just wanted to say that’ call is wonderful. You probably like those, too.)

It can be simple to keep her satisfied. It’s not necessarily about what you give her financially or what gifts you give her. That’s a cop out. It’s the little things. The guy who makes the biggest mistake is the one who ignores their significant other then all of a sudden give them an expensive gift to make up for it. That doesn’t make up for it at all.
(Its true,but I think you’re missig allot of things, as I listed above. Nice try, but all these little things can also be a cop out. Some jackass might read this and think as long as he make sure to do one of these little things at least once a month or so, he won’t have to do anything else. And he might be right, at least for a little while. I think a guy who’s reading this should really be reading a guide on how to actually care, how to actually try. If they only care about sex and avoiding a breakup, they aren’t ready for a relationship. They should also go get themselves tested and invest in condoms and just fuck around until they figure out how to have feelings. If they’re 30 and haven’t figured it out at least a little, I think they should seriously consider a vasectomy. and maybe I am being a little harsh. but honestly, you can’t expect to just have a list of 15 easy and simple ways to have a relationship. It’s just like a full time job, only the pay is better, because it pays in something lasting. If not in lasting love, it pays in experience, and that is worth everything.)

>>>>>I look at my life like a TV.

Hey, I did not know that transvestites frequent the blog here!

just pulling your leg:-)