Comments on: How Does This Make You Feel http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-does-this-make-you-feel/544/ Sex. Relationships. Dating. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. Tue, 22 May 2012 10:30:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Joely http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-does-this-make-you-feel/544/#comment-15608 Joely Tue, 17 Jun 2008 14:32:43 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/?p=544#comment-15608 “A good opener is not based on what you are thinking, but rather on connecting with her inner reality... I was going to write this anyway before I read that the quotes were yours David : But I can get what you mean, this IS what you teach. Infact this is the OPPOSITE of these 'canned openers' which the more 'The Game' type community teach. When you make an observation, and open a person based on that observation, you're immidiately connecting with what SHE is thinking. Not you. When you open with "Hey I just saw this funny thing outside, I want your opinion", you are taking her away from what she is thinking, and the odds of having an interesting, connecting conversation with her are a lot lower. “Picking up women is an action. Attraction is a state of mind that defines who you are. It is a state of being. Which one would you prefer to be?” Once again, seems very sort of 'eastern philosophy' when you put it that way, but its all very connected to what I believe David teaches. Its not about 'OK its friday today, and I'm going to try my pick up thing tonight, I wonder how my new routine will go", but more about just being the attractive person ALL THE TIME. “A good opener is not based on what you are thinking, but rather on connecting with her inner reality…

I was going to write this anyway before I read that the quotes were yours David :

But I can get what you mean, this IS what you teach. Infact this is the OPPOSITE of these ‘canned openers’ which the more ‘The Game’ type community teach.

When you make an observation, and open a person based on that observation, you’re immidiately connecting with what SHE is thinking. Not you. When you open with “Hey I just saw this funny thing outside, I want your opinion”, you are taking her away from what she is thinking, and the odds of having an interesting, connecting conversation with her are a lot lower.

“Picking up women is an action. Attraction is a state of mind that defines who you are. It is a state of being. Which one would you prefer to be?”

Once again, seems very sort of ‘eastern philosophy’ when you put it that way, but its all very connected to what I believe David teaches. Its not about ‘OK its friday today, and I’m going to try my pick up thing tonight, I wonder how my new routine will go”, but more about just being the attractive person ALL THE TIME.

]]> By: Kate http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-does-this-make-you-feel/544/#comment-15599 Kate Tue, 17 Jun 2008 03:18:24 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/?p=544#comment-15599 Coby - I agree with your sentiment ... but I just don't hear the quote saying that :) I think we're on the same page ... just not feeling this quote the same way :) Coby – I agree with your sentiment … but I just don’t hear the quote saying that :)

I think we’re on the same page … just not feeling this quote the same way :)

]]> By: Coby http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-does-this-make-you-feel/544/#comment-15598 Coby Tue, 17 Jun 2008 02:56:56 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/?p=544#comment-15598 Kate - It shouldn't have to be a 'state of mind,' and if it is, you're working entirely too hard. It should roll out of you like four-letter words roll off of your tongue in heavy traffic. If you have to get your game face on, then that's it, it's just a game. Sure, there are fun parts of it. Certainly! But it's not a game for points and glory. Kate – It shouldn’t have to be a ‘state of mind,’ and if it is, you’re working entirely too hard. It should roll out of you like four-letter words roll off of your tongue in heavy traffic. If you have to get your game face on, then that’s it, it’s just a game. Sure, there are fun parts of it. Certainly! But it’s not a game for points and glory.

]]> By: Kate http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-does-this-make-you-feel/544/#comment-15564 Kate Mon, 16 Jun 2008 03:03:37 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/?p=544#comment-15564 Coby - I'm curious why you had that reaction. When I re-read the quote ("Picking up women is an action. Attraction is a state of mind that defines who you are. It is a state of being. Which one would you prefer to be?”) I had the same reaction that I did the first time I read it, ie, that it conveys the opposite mindset of men who "hunt" women. To me it made the distinction that attraction is created and felt inside you ... Not something "you do." Coby – I’m curious why you had that reaction. When I re-read the quote (“Picking up women is an action. Attraction is a state of mind that defines who you are. It is a state of being. Which one would you prefer to be?”) I had the same reaction that I did the first time I read it, ie, that it conveys the opposite mindset of men who “hunt” women. To me it made the distinction that attraction is created and felt inside you … Not something “you do.”

]]> By: Coby http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-does-this-make-you-feel/544/#comment-15563 Coby Mon, 16 Jun 2008 02:48:46 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/?p=544#comment-15563 That second quote makes me want to throw things. That sounds like a womaneater or a constant hunter; someone who's in it to hunt only, forget the rest of it. Bah. That second quote makes me want to throw things. That sounds like a womaneater or a constant hunter; someone who’s in it to hunt only, forget the rest of it. Bah.

]]> By: Yakub http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-does-this-make-you-feel/544/#comment-15519 Yakub Fri, 13 Jun 2008 05:34:15 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/?p=544#comment-15519 Right on John! Oh yes its deep and it takes understanding. Not all quotes are meant to be understood in a second, you really have to think about it and experience it or feel it. See ya in NYC:) Right on John! Oh yes its deep and it takes understanding.

Not all quotes are meant to be understood in a second, you really have to think about it and experience it or feel it.

See ya in NYC:)

]]> By: John http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-does-this-make-you-feel/544/#comment-15518 John Fri, 13 Jun 2008 05:31:28 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/?p=544#comment-15518 Great quotes David!! It takes deep understanding to get it. And it totally makes sense to me. Great quotes David!! It takes deep understanding to get it. And it totally makes sense to me.

]]> By: Khiem http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-does-this-make-you-feel/544/#comment-15511 Khiem Fri, 13 Jun 2008 00:04:37 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/?p=544#comment-15511 I like the first quote b/c if you really get it, it tells you to open people based on where they are at emotionally, based on the environment/context they find themselves in. I guess that's what some people in the PUA Community call situational relevance. As far as the second quote, I agree best with "Attraction as a state of being". Attraction is not JUST a social skill. You can learn to be social... but you can't learn to be attractive until you change certain beliefs about yourself and the world around you.... until you learn to trust yourself on a deep level. I like the first quote b/c if you really get it, it tells you to open people based on where they are at emotionally, based on the environment/context they find themselves in.

I guess that’s what some people in the PUA Community call situational relevance.

As far as the second quote, I agree best with “Attraction as a state of being”.

Attraction is not JUST a social skill.

You can learn to be social… but you can’t learn to be attractive until you change certain beliefs about yourself and the world around you…. until you learn to trust yourself on a deep level.

]]> By: Kate http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-does-this-make-you-feel/544/#comment-15502 Kate Thu, 12 Jun 2008 18:21:02 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/?p=544#comment-15502 David - I think your quotes would actually resonate not only with those who have ascended beyond the "monkey chatter" in their own head, but also with those of us still hearing that "monkey chatter" in our own heads but working to be like the people you describe ... So cut a little slack for those of us folk who want to become that kind of person ... but just take a little longer to get there :) Again, amazing blog and keep your eyes peeled for me to eventually join you in this great state of mind ... I will be joining you soon :) David – I think your quotes would actually resonate not only with those who have ascended beyond the “monkey chatter” in their own head, but also with those of us still hearing that “monkey chatter” in our own heads but working to be like the people you describe …

So cut a little slack for those of us folk who want to become that kind of person … but just take a little longer to get there :)

Again, amazing blog and keep your eyes peeled for me to eventually join you in this great state of mind … I will be joining you soon :)

]]> By: David Wygant http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-does-this-make-you-feel/544/#comment-15501 David Wygant Thu, 12 Jun 2008 16:51:38 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/?p=544#comment-15501 This was a great blog....we all stayed on topic and really dug deep into what was posted. The quotes were mine for those of you that did not know. I had lunch with my friend Adam Gilad and we were talking about living life on a higher level without the noise that clogs most peoples thoughts. The monkey chatter!! So this was really interesting to see who this resonated with. I have been doing this a long time and life is really easy right now......once you learn the cycles and the patterns of people and dig deep into who you are you will no longer need any of the pickup stuff and realize that you pocess the power to meet and be with anyone. This was a great blog….we all stayed on topic and really dug deep into what was posted.
The quotes were mine for those of you that did not know.

I had lunch with my friend Adam Gilad and we were talking about living life on a higher level without the noise that clogs most peoples thoughts.

The monkey chatter!!

So this was really interesting to see who this resonated with.

I have been doing this a long time and life is really easy right now……once you learn the cycles and the patterns of people and dig deep into who you are you will no longer need any of the pickup stuff and realize that you pocess the power to meet and be with anyone.

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