Comments on: How Does This Make You Feel? http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-does-this-make-you-feel-3/4576/ Sex. Relationships. Dating. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. Tue, 22 May 2012 09:46:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Chris http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-does-this-make-you-feel-3/4576/#comment-48617 Chris Wed, 27 Apr 2011 02:31:44 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=4576#comment-48617 You certainly don't want to be a victim. However, justifying someone lying to you is just making excuses for bad behavior. People who cheat lack the courage to be strong enough to end an unfulfilling relationship. Your podcast on lying shows you know this is true. Mature people breakup and risk being alone before moving on. There are no perfect partners, and all relationships are voluntary. You are correct in telling someone that you broke up because you were not right for each other. It is honest and there is no stigma. You certainly don’t want to be a victim. However, justifying someone lying to you is just making excuses for bad behavior.

People who cheat lack the courage to be strong enough to end an unfulfilling relationship. Your podcast on lying shows you know this is true.

Mature people breakup and risk being alone before moving on.

There are no perfect partners, and all relationships are voluntary. You are correct in telling someone that you broke up because you were not right for each other. It is honest and there is no stigma.

]]> By: Jim http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-does-this-make-you-feel-3/4576/#comment-43747 Jim Tue, 26 Oct 2010 19:17:21 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=4576#comment-43747 Wow David, this one was for me. I was cheated on too and am now divorced. I did major soul searching on the matter of why it happened. I did find that there were a lot of things that I could have done better, even though I thought I was doing everything right. Next time, I wont make the same mistake. Good tip on taking the high road, or keeping it a secret til the relationship has been established. Wow David, this one was for me. I was cheated on too and am now divorced. I did major soul searching on the matter of why it happened. I did find that there were a lot of things that I could have done better, even though I thought I was doing everything right.
Next time, I wont make the same mistake. Good tip on taking the high road, or keeping it a secret til the relationship has been established.

]]> By: Bob http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-does-this-make-you-feel-3/4576/#comment-41562 Bob Tue, 06 Jul 2010 04:49:25 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=4576#comment-41562 The fact that you have cheated puts you on the "wrong" end of this argument, and in a defensive mode. Their is NEVER an excuse for cheating on someone whom you are in a monogomous relationship with. If you were unhappy, and unfulfilled, you should have expressed your concerns to your mate, and if still not content, left before you cheated on her. It is your fault for cheating, not hers, and you are the one who was unfaithfull, and someone who could not control yourself or your impulses. You should be the one to "learn a lesson" from your unfaithfullness, not her. The fact that you have cheated puts you on the “wrong” end of this argument, and in a defensive mode. Their is NEVER an excuse for cheating on someone whom you are in a monogomous relationship with. If you were unhappy, and unfulfilled, you should have expressed your concerns to your mate, and if still not content, left before you cheated on her. It is your fault for cheating, not hers, and you are the one who was unfaithfull, and someone who could not control yourself or your impulses. You should be the one to “learn a lesson” from your unfaithfullness, not her.

]]> By: Lindsay Queenie http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-does-this-make-you-feel-3/4576/#comment-41528 Lindsay Queenie Sat, 03 Jul 2010 14:56:43 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=4576#comment-41528 I can understand how alot of 'cheating' situations are the result of something lacking in the relationship but in some cases, well..this isn't always the case. I thought something was wrong with me when I figured out my ex was doing doggy dog things. I took it personally and tried to make sure I was giving him everything he needed. I eventually was led to believe that he was some sort of sex addict. He chased stimulation nonstop. What a bummer. You're right about telling others about being cheated on. It's the last thing I want to talk about in a conversation with a new dude because I don't want him to think I am flawed. It's really easy to point the finger and play the victim, especially when we are so hurt. It's harder to take the higher rode, having the ability to do a 'self check' to see the role you had in all of it. I can understand how alot of ‘cheating’ situations are the result of something lacking in the relationship but in some cases, well..this isn’t always the case. I thought something was wrong with me when I figured out my ex was doing doggy dog things. I took it personally and tried to make sure I was giving him everything he needed. I eventually was led to believe that he was some sort of sex addict. He chased stimulation nonstop. What a bummer.

You’re right about telling others about being cheated on. It’s the last thing I want to talk about in a conversation with a new dude because I don’t want him to think I am flawed. It’s really easy to point the finger and play the victim, especially when we are so hurt. It’s harder to take the higher rode, having the ability to do a ‘self check’ to see the role you had in all of it.

]]> By: Babe Ruth http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-does-this-make-you-feel-3/4576/#comment-41526 Babe Ruth Sat, 03 Jul 2010 04:06:18 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=4576#comment-41526 I find it funny how when we know that things are not going too well, we still stay in the damn... relationship. After my past experiences I made a oath to myself that as soon as I can smell something not right, I'm out of there. I find it funny how when we know that things are not going too well, we still stay in the damn… relationship. After my past experiences I made a oath to myself that as soon as I can smell something not right, I’m out of there.

]]> By: Jimmy http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-does-this-make-you-feel-3/4576/#comment-41525 Jimmy Sat, 03 Jul 2010 03:55:52 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=4576#comment-41525 Tony- long time whats going on? Tony- long time whats going on?

]]> By: Jimmy http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-does-this-make-you-feel-3/4576/#comment-41524 Jimmy Sat, 03 Jul 2010 03:55:29 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=4576#comment-41524 oh this is a great reminder to no think like a needy boy instead tell it like it is. oh this is a great reminder to no think like a needy boy instead tell it like it is.

]]> By: anonymous http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-does-this-make-you-feel-3/4576/#comment-41523 anonymous Sat, 03 Jul 2010 03:53:40 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=4576#comment-41523 Honesty is a key in life. I think if we all just practice this daily, we can then begin to see new improvements in our lives. Honesty is a key in life. I think if we all just practice this daily, we can then begin to see new improvements in our lives.

]]> By: Clint http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-does-this-make-you-feel-3/4576/#comment-41522 Clint Sat, 03 Jul 2010 03:51:44 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=4576#comment-41522 I'm writing this one down I really like when you said, "Take the high road in everything. Anytime you take the road of a victim, it means that you don’t know how to communicate properly with anybody else." I’m writing this one down I really like when you said, “Take the high road in everything. Anytime you take the road of a victim, it means that you don’t know how to communicate properly with anybody else.”

]]> By: Tony http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/how-does-this-make-you-feel-3/4576/#comment-41521 Tony Sat, 03 Jul 2010 03:50:41 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=4576#comment-41521 The whole judging one another is so wrong if it goes on for too long. I seen relationships crumble fast because of being so judgmental. The whole judging one another is so wrong if it goes on for too long. I seen relationships crumble fast because of being so judgmental.

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