Honey Where Are You?
June 2, 2008 
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Social Proof By David Wygant
Women want what other women have. It’s like the ultimate version of social proof – you could be sitting in a restaurant and you know the waitress. So you go in alone to the restaurant that you eat at every Saturday and there is the waitress that you know.
So what do you do? You remember things about her. Not only do you have to be memorable, but you also have to remember things about people so you are able to bond with them again.
The best way to bond with somebody is to go back to the conversation you initially had with him or her. So if your memory is not good, I always suggest buying a little Blackberry Pearl and there is a memo pad in there and write down the name of the restaurant, the name of the waitress, and something personal about her.
Let’s say the waitress is “Ski Girl” – I do nicknames for everybody. Nicknames give instant intimacy. You want a woman to be calling you by a nickname, because she connects with nicknames more often than with regular names! It distinguishes you, but it also shows the playful side of your personality.
So you go back into that restaurant, and there’s Ski Girl right there. So you sit down and say, “Ski Girl, how are you? It’s a bit too warm to ski right now, isn’t it?” And she’ll laugh, and now you have her laughing. You can talk to her a little bit more.
Next thing you know, three women will sit down at the table across from you. The waitress is paying you attention – talking to you, laughing with you. The other women start looking at you and they wonder who you are. Is that her boyfriend? Who is this guy? The waitress comes over and treats you nicely all the time, but the waitress just goes over to her and treats her like a customer!
So immediately the women across from you start wondering about you. So what happens is that they become attracted to you based on the energy that you’re conveying with the waitress. So all of a sudden you see the women looking at you, and you can say to them, “oh man, what are you going to order? Everything here is phenomenal – it’s hard to decide!” Or, “have you been here before?” or “I was curious, what’s your favorite dish? Have you been here before?”
If they say no, you can say, “well let me tell you what is really good here, do you want to know?” And that’s how you share with them. Or if they tell you that they’ve been there before, you can say, “I’m curious, what’s your favorite dish?” – remember to use the ‘I’m curious’ approach to get them to start engaging you.
All of a sudden they start talking, and then the waitress comes back over and she’ll get a little jealous and starts talking to you, and that’s how the whole thing snowballs! It’s instant social proof.
In stores, it works the same way. A client and I went into the store Paul & Joe, and immediately I asked, “so where’s Paul, where’s Joe?” – or whatever it was. It doesn’t make a difference, it was an observational opener based on what was going on.
What happened then was that one girl started talking and laughing and showed us the whole book of all the fashions that were in the store. So then, all of a sudden, one of the other girls came over and started talking. Then another one – the manager – came over and started talking to us.
It works every time. If women see another woman smiling at you, laughing, and having a good time, they want the same thing. Most guys are not memorable, and most guys are boring.
And it is all about the voice tone. It is never what I say – because everything I say is just based on observations – but my voice tone is so excited during the whole process – “oh no way, you like to ski?” It’s just like I’m very excited about them.
Women want you to be excited about them, and women want you to be interested in them. Women want you to be so excited about them, because then they will get excited about you – because you’re being the exact opposite of every other guy that they ever see.
Totally true. A lot of us do want what we don’t have. I used to be that girl. I would see a not so good looking guy with a gorgeous girl and wonder, “Hmm what’s so great about him?” I would have to find out. The next thing you know, I’d be flirting with him wanting him to like and want me. Now I’m happy with what I have
Naughty….. Is that how you and David Hooked up?
Jim: Of course not! David is great looking!
If I would have seen David out with a hot girl, I would have wanted him. If I would have seen him out with an ugly girl, I would have wanted him. If I would have seen him out with a blue martian, I would have really wanted him!!! HA! So any other guesses?
I’m a guy… and even I want David!
Is it a fight getting on here??
Do most of the girls think like that, Officer, or is this just yours and David’s observation???
The “I’m Curious” approach is genius. I have used it multiple times and women love to stomp your curiosity about them. I was in a supermarket one time and I opened a women with, “I’m curious why you like this kind over another kind of whatever.” She loved it. We went on talking for 20min in the middle of the supermarket. I got her number and I’m going to see her this weekend. GENIUS!!!
David must have had some kind of run-in with the law, probably not what we would think though. Maybe you were being memorable at the coffee shop with the waitress and officer naughty felt the tug of attraction. Perhaps she waits for our young David to leave and pulls him over for what must have been anything but a routine traffic stop. Just a guess ! LOL
David , it all seems so simple, natural and genuine. I think i do ok with listening and observing …. I get into trouble sometimes trying to be playful. Something in your post hit me though, maybe it’s the tone of my voice.
Did you ever suffer from “foot in mouth disease” as you evolved ?if so how did you overcome it?
Khiem: No need to say you want David, its seen in the videos.
I am a guy..and I want Khiem and Daphnee:)
Jeff
I of course had foot in mouth disease.
It was simple to overcome….I worked hard at it everyday to get rid of that feeling.
As with everything in life you need to work hard everyday and make small gains and embrace them everyday.
That is the start of it.
LOL Jim, don’t get jealous. We can share him.
Jay, I’m glad my infallible “I’m curious” opener did you good. Good luck with your date!
Neil… You can have me but you can’t have Daphnee. She’s ALL mine. David knows that there’s no way you can break her affair with me ;p
There is only one guy that Daphnee wants the most ….I think he is from Virginia. So Khiem you lose I win:)
I am a guy and I want Khiem…..this turning into a gay post or what….lol
Ok now you girls & guys are I’m sure my sons age so maybe that makes me your daddy here. LOL
Oh let me introduce myself how rude of me! My name is Michael I’m from charleston, sc, humid as hell down here.
I need a big favor now check my web site address thats my profile and I’m a newbie there. ooo please feel free to give me your opinion. I’m going to show you some cross letters I”m getting. I’m looking for US prime.
I’m with Yakub on this one. When did this turn into a boys battle over David?
I think we all know that David isn’t in to guys! Don’t make me throw you in jail to keep your paws off of him. 
I have dibs on him and Khiem and Yakub too! What can I say, I’m selfish and greedy! As for Daphne, she’s basically a slut (it’s a good thing) and likes everyone but it’s clear that David is her true love.
As for the “I’m curious” I love it probably because I am curious about everything. I’ve seen it work in action. It’s cute and it gets the job done. Just like a pink pocket rocket! Give it a try!
I love the fighting over me…but daphne gets me all the time:)
And all this time I thought Daphne was a B…
Daphne is a slutty bitch:-)
That she is…..and damm proud of it!!!