Comments on: His Other Excuse

By: Anil Kumar

Anil Kumar — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 11:14:11 +0000

i would like to thank all of you…ur advise helped me find a friend last weekend. I was out for a movie and the show was to start little late. I noticed a beautiful woman sitting at the corner of a waiting hall sipping coffee, i looked at her twice or thrice. I noticed her texting on phone every two three nminutes and thought she is waiting for someone. I also was alone for a movie. Many guys were hitting on her and the first question that rose in my mind ” am not handsome she will not talk to me”.
Second: she is possibly waiting someone.
So, I also took coffee and found a place at another corner bcoz was trying to avoid a direct contact but she was so beautiful that i could not stop my self and was looking at her every now an then.

Like Kevin said very few had the ball to approach no one did in 30 minutes of time when she was sitting alone.
Then i thought I spent 24 years of my life in the same fashion fearing beautiful ladies, its time to change. I rose to my feet and started walking to her looking into my coffee thinking how to start discussion. When i reached her I said Hi with a big smile and asked if i can join her and you know i never thought i would be able to talk to anyone like that. I said i actually was getting bored sitting alone would you mind if we can chat until movie starts.
the we sat for 1 hour and had a good conversation. I did not ask her for her number instead i said whenever you are free, alone or bored buzz me ..will see you around.

After the show i walked down with her to her home and when i said good night and bye ….she said “Anil am MARRIED” I was blank for the moment but said thats really nice…and said i dont have your number can I have it too….she gave me a buzz i kept it. because she is married and happy we are just friends…but i got to know how to make a start.

it ws a good experience i now know that i can talk to women.

many thanks to you people who are helping people like us …

By: Max

Max — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 20:26:46 +0000

Zandra-thanks for adding that comment. The more I hear this the more my negative belief is changing. This is why I really like this blog, everyone is so helpful and real!

I will be out this weekend meeting some people, and approaching women whom I never thought I would have a chance with.

By: Zandra

Zandra — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 19:48:20 +0000

Max, i definitely agree with Kim. Even if she does have men approaching her all the time, maybe shell see something different in you than in those other guys. Unless she’s already with someone, maybe you’re what she’s been looking for.

By: Kevin

Kevin — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 19:44:06 +0000

Just about every time I approach some woman with an opener,they always look at me and laugh…Wondering if it’s the whole “OMG! Someoen approached me!” thing goin on.

By: Max

Max — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 18:58:13 +0000

So thank you for the advice.

By: Max

Max — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 18:57:42 +0000

Coach Kim: That is eye opening for me b/c I thought hot women are tired of men approaching them. I feel now more motivated to walk up to them.

By: Kevin

Kevin — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 13:45:24 +0000

Anyone wanna know what my biggest excuse was for the longest time? (yes, years) Here it goes…”Why should I bother? She probably already has a boyfriend” This past year I’ve discovered that hot women are the easy ones to approach cause no one seems to have the balls to approach.

Little story,I was in the mall sitting at a table next to Starbucks,This drop dead gorgeous women start going through her bags and I look at her feet but her jeans were covering up her shoes. I said…
“Nice shoes”
“Thank you” as she continues to look through her bags
“You can’t even see them!!!!! I said.
She busted out laughing,and walked away.

The better opener would have been for me to ask her What’s in the bag and can I see it.

But the point is that if she’s going to walk away,send her away with a smile

By: Collin

Collin — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 06:46:54 +0000

Okay, let’s say the management does have a rule about the girl giving out her number. If you’ve laid the groundwork the previous couple visits of being confident, making her laugh, and building rapport, she already likes you. If she says she can’t give you her number, just pull out a piece of paper (preferably not your account balance), write your number down, give it to her, smile, and say, “Alright then, here. Call me when you get off,” and walk away.

Not letting her initial rejection bother you shows a ton of confidence and control of the situation. For all you know, she could have been testing you and she’ll be impressed. Either way the ball is in her court then and you have nothing to lose.

By: Coach Kimberly

Coach Kimberly — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 06:20:53 +0000

ok guys…they are checking each other’s butt!!!! No matter what your sex is, we have to have the mindset of being confident and knowing what you want! Max—that is the key. Who cares if she’s pretty…if you want to talk with her… talk with her! As I’ve said before, the pretty ones often don’t get talked to because of what you are saying so they are usually flattered when someone does!

By: jeff a

jeff a — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 05:54:46 +0000

Coach Khiem,

A better mindset is thinking that “you are THE man”