oh, and he’s a LITTLE bit shorter than me :O (you hardly notice, but even so) how’s that for not wanting “perfection” (ref. to one of David’s earlier blog) he’s got a killer personality though..

thanks again!

It’s really about having an abundance mentality by knowing that you are good enough, just as you are, to attract as many people as you want. Not everyone will be open and receptive right away. Blame timing, blame chemistry, blame they are bitches… whatever. It doesn’t really matter because there’s always someone else that you may connect with.

For JustMe,

You didn’t blow it at all. I think you are overanalyzing and beating yourself up for something insignificant. What I read from your post is that he was flirting back with you and hinting at potentially hooking up with you. His comment on “if you wanna have children one day, give me a call” is his attempt at sexual innuendo. It’s his way of finding out how you’d feel about sex (with him).

There is something to remember with the idea of “Next” or “There are plenty of fish in the sea”. Do not get bitter. Maintain your composure.

I phrased that first comment badly.

What I meant was that although eveyone would likely want the SKILL of attracting every woman in existence off of an approach, I’m guessing that the actual reality of doing so would probably get pretty boring over time if it ever got to be that predictable.

As an example, think of gambling. You may go to the casino with a bit of cash and you’re EXCITED because you don’t know how things are going to play themselves out. It’s that very idea of risk and unpredictablity invloved that makes it all so much FUN. But if people won money every single time that they played the slots than many would likely quit their jobs and just go to the casino whenever they needed money. Than they’d eventually get bored with it altogether and probably start doing something else to amuse themselves. Thus, the actual ACT of gambling would likely become as fulfilling for them as doing laundry or washing dishes.

Like “Alright, I’m horny and there’s a girl, so let’s get this over with so I can go do something else already.” Achh!

Personally, I see getting rejected occasionally as all part of the fun, because it brings me back down to earth and makes it sweeter when I actually DO get the girl.

This probably isn’t what David was getting at all, but those were my own thoughts in response to it.

And that’s just me.

The easiest way to connect with people? Let go of your agenda. I don’t “date” anymore. All the expectations were just way too constricting. Now I am totally free to connect with anyone, anywhere, and be totally relaxed about it. A guy came up to me at a bar last night. He said “I don’t know why I feel compelled to talk to you. I only like blondes, I’m on a date (motions to the platinum blonde girl at the bar), I’m not hitting on you … there’s just something about you.” We had a really hilarious conversation and just enjoyed the connection in the moment. It was fun. It didn’t need to “lead” to anything. I spent all last week with another guy. There was intense chemistry and connection but we never even made out. We both had an amazing time and I received a beautiful loving email from him yesterday.

Everywhere you go, you meet yourself. Every single person crosses our path for a reason. When you let go of any and all agendas and are willing to just be, people will be magnetized to you.

I have a little bit of an issue here, i would really really appreciate it if someone had any comments to my funny/weird situation.. here’s the thing; there’s this guy i’ve been hanging out with lately.. two weeks ago we started having lunch together and we really hit it off.. great humour.. we both laughed at silly jokes etc etc. we also flirt with each other and have planned to watch movies together and so on..
and so yesterday i went shopping with him.. he had to buy something for his twin brother as well..
and so i helped him carry the bags and all.. i was being nice and all of a sudden as we’re walking side by side with bags and all he says: “we look like a married couple” and i laughed and agreed with him.. he repeated that when we got on the subway again..and i laughed again!

damn..it gets worse.. we passed two ladies with their kids.. and one of the ladies had her little toddler in a wagon, and the baby was crying really bad! so i was looking at him to see how he’d react to the noisy children.. he was all calm and smiling as we passed them by.. and so i asked a really stupid, innocent (in my mind a very GENERAL question with NO intentions at all) question: “so what do you think about kids?” a really really general question.. damn i’m soo stupid!! here’s what he said: “i want kids of my own one day… what do you think of me? of course i want to pass on my name how about you?” in a very casual way.. so i said: “yea, i do too” then he said: “but of course not now.. late twenties or something..what, did you think i didn’t children at all? i mean, who doesn’t?” i’m like: “i don’t assume anything about you, that’s why i ASK you right out”.. plain casually and laughing at the same time and THEN he says:”well, cool.. so if you wanna have children one day, give me a call”

?????????? Did i really blow it?? and what was that response?? is it usual for a guy to be this cool about such a stupid question? man, he must think i’m all ready to settle down.. NOW! which i am NOOOT at all..
i meant it as a general question..

i’m a little bit positive about this whole thing because we’ve been so open with each other that i feel like he must know how i am as a person to not be wanting kids this soon..

i’ve been having these monkeys in my head since yesterday! hope they won’t ruin my mood when i’m off for a house party tonight
anyone??