Like TheWildMind said, women don’t get the privilege of checking out if we don’t get the “good girl”. We get punished for it. By our men, and by the rest of society.

It’s why I’ve always hated housework. People only notice it if it doesn’t get done.

And women are the only ones punished when it’s *not* done.

Also, Charles, women are punished when we “just speak up”.

I’m sure you’ve heard this axiom — and probably just dismissed it — “When a man speaks up, he is called an aggressive go-getter. When a woman does it, she is called a b*tch.”

So in conclusion, Khiem/Ken, I would say that we all need to be encouraged to ask that question, but men need to be encouraged to ask it *much more* than women do. We’re already punished for it — in addition to all the other things I’ve mentioned above — when we don’t do it.

So ask yourselves, how are you showing appreciation for your partners every step of the way?

I agree with Marina. Women don’t get the privilege of copping out of relationship just because we didn’t get a “good girl” and a pat on the back..side. We take care of the kids, do the laundry, shop for groceries and pretty much hold it together without getting the benefit of coming home and kicking our feet up and unwinding for a few before starting dinner and taxiing kids. We also often don’t get a “good girl” and we need it just as much.

And then the world wonders why we go sideways when our birthdays, holidays and other special events are overlooked. It’s not because we are hormonal. It is because we’ve just spent every waking moment pulling off life for those around us including The Man and making sure they are happy and cared for but when it comes time to give back…there’s no one there giving back.

It’s the disappointing realization that he’s just not that into us that makes us go ape, not the hormones.

Try again. Needing positives strokes isn’t just a guy thing. And our manual isn’t all that long either. I can sum it up in a sentence, “What’s good for the gander, is good for the goose too.”

I am fine with compliments about how you look and sex which is quite natural and if someone has done something, but to expect praise if you have taken care of the kids or the house…please it’s insulting to us and brings up a lot of resentment towards you.

Never Never use the word babysitting if you are with your own kids…it’s a huge no no.

I am not one of those PMS girls that go freakish, but I have seen plenty of girls that do. come on get a grip girls stop this pathetic acting up, you know you get it every month not like it’s a surprise. Just take a deep breath nothing will make it go away…I more have fight with whoever thought getting it 12 times a year makes sense…a genetic malfunction I would say.

So guys don’t suck up for compliments if you have done things we normally would have done alright…just do them with no fuss we do it all the time and believe me we really appreciate someone who truly understand teamwork with everyday things.