I found Dave’s steps most useful as I, like many others on this blog, would like to date a friend of mine. We are very close and have some real deep personal conversations together. She has shown some very obvious signs over the last 3 months of wanting to expand our friendship, but being the ‘shy’ bloke that I am I have just fobbed these attempts off, even though she keeps trying. A few weeks ago we had another deep conversation about a rough emotional patch that she is currently going through. I reassured her that I would always be there for her should she want to talk, but I made the mistake of also saying that there are no hidden intentions/agendas in my offer of her being able to come to me at anytime. And also said that I was there for her as a friend. I didn’t say this in a serious or direct way, just matter of factly as a comment in our conversation. Well since then I have not heard a thing from her in two weeks. I contacted her a couple days after our chat via phone and said we should catch up, to which she responded by saying that she will call me, but I have heard nothing in two weeks. Is it possible that my ‘highlighting’ to her of there being no hidden intentions in our friendship has scared her away/spoilt her hopes of something happening? Any thoughts or opinions would be great. Thankyou all.

- I’ve never had a relationship (I am 25) but I’ve hooked up with a few women here and there especially when i was in college and most of them happened to have a boyfriend. The girl i like right now has a boyfriend too (they have a long distance relationship though and to my knowledge they have not seen each other in person for months now). I am currently on my longest “dry stretch” (over a year) and although it’s not bugging me as much as it used to say if i was in college but i’d still like to be able to do better with women. My friends have brought to my attention that i find a “love interest” and then get obsessed with that one girl which i agree with! Your expert advice would be much appreciated Thanks

I was wondering if you could help me with my situation. I and learning a lot from the videos and blogs and seeing a lot of things i need to change but i haven’t found a video to fit my situation.

I am not single but as of this past week i’m not really in a relationship either. My relationship is hanging on by a thread and i really don’t know how to fix it.

I can see and feel her feelings for me but she lies to my face about them. She says she was more in love with me for the sense of security and comfort, and the fact that i would always be there for her and take care of her, that was the reason she loved me, and she wasn’t exactly in love with me. We’ve been going out for over a year now and i don’t want to lose her. I don’t need/want to meet or be with other women i just want this one.

So how can i get her to fall in love with me again or for the first time like she never has before? I will keep reading as much information on your blogs as possible but if you could direct me to something for my situation or message me back that would help greatly.

Just last week she was saying how she couldn’t wait to spend the rest of my life with me and shouldn’t couldn’t stop thinking about me and how much she loved me and how much i made her happy. This week she doesn’t really care to see me or talk to me.

How can I restart this flame or start a flame that possibly wasn’t there (she says).

Thank You
Sincerely

Dominic

However,dirt talk would feel okay during an intimate encounter and after the initial stage of proper courtship…

No woman will give in immediately so then she’s extremely awkward because she works with you?