Comments on: Freezing In The Moment http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/freezing-in-the-moment/529/ Sex. Relationships. Dating. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. Tue, 22 May 2012 09:23:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Ken E. http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/freezing-in-the-moment/529/#comment-15685 Ken E. Thu, 19 Jun 2008 02:11:33 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/?p=529#comment-15685 KS, I'm wondering how the two of you would (independently) define things like 100%, and serious... You said you're into actions and not words, but do his actions align with what you're looking for? Friends, short term dating, long term dating, serious, commitment, engaged; It is very possible that the two of you are using different words, but meaning the same thing. Just as it is very common for people to use the same words and mean different things. From the little you wrote, and what I'm reading into it ( I may be totally wrong), he sounds healthy from the standpoint: He likes you and is progressing, but not prepared to get ahead of himself. Isn't that dating? (Is serious moving in together? Is he pursuing others and you'd like to be exclusive?) Some might be concerned that he's pursuing you when he perceives that you want more than he can currently give. Do you feel he's needy? How fast would you like things to move? Why? KS,

I’m wondering how the two of you would (independently) define things like 100%, and serious…

You said you’re into actions and not words, but do his actions align with what you’re looking for?

Friends, short term dating, long term dating, serious, commitment, engaged; It is very possible that the two of you are using different words, but meaning the same thing. Just as it is very common for people to use the same words and mean different things.

From the little you wrote, and what I’m reading into it ( I may be totally wrong), he sounds healthy from the standpoint: He likes you and is progressing, but not prepared to get ahead of himself. Isn’t that dating? (Is serious moving in together? Is he pursuing others and you’d like to be exclusive?)

Some might be concerned that he’s pursuing you when he perceives that you want more than he can currently give. Do you feel he’s needy?

How fast would you like things to move? Why?

]]> By: KS http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/freezing-in-the-moment/529/#comment-15683 KS Thu, 19 Jun 2008 01:36:40 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/?p=529#comment-15683 ok, whats the best way to handle the 'I'm not ready for something serious right now- but we have potential' We have been talking for about 5 months, we became great friends, have been physical, but not since he told me he doesn't want anything serious. Yet he still calls, texts- wants to hang out, go to a movie - etc. So I finally told him that I can't be 'just friends' and I am not here for when it is convenient for him. His response was that sometimes he wants something more and then other times he feels he isn't ready. I then said well when you are 100% sure - then we'll talk. My thought is that if a man truly wants you then nothing can keep him away. I am also a firm believer in actions speaking louder than words. Did I jump the gun on this or did I maybe stand up for myself and demand a little more respect- if things end up working out later down the road. ok, whats the best way to handle the ‘I’m not ready for something serious right now- but we have potential’ We have been talking for about 5 months, we became great friends, have been physical, but not since he told me he doesn’t want anything serious. Yet he still calls, texts- wants to hang out, go to a movie – etc. So I finally told him that I can’t be ‘just friends’ and I am not here for when it is convenient for him. His response was that sometimes he wants something more and then other times he feels he isn’t ready. I then said well when you are 100% sure – then we’ll talk. My thought is that if a man truly wants you then nothing can keep him away. I am also a firm believer in actions speaking louder than words. Did I jump the gun on this or did I maybe stand up for myself and demand a little more respect- if things end up working out later down the road.

]]> By: JustMe http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/freezing-in-the-moment/529/#comment-15617 JustMe Tue, 17 Jun 2008 18:40:50 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/?p=529#comment-15617 Hi, this is very very interesting. From watching the little video clip I came to think of something. The very nature of flirting. I mean, when some guy flirts with me I feel like I'm the only one he's ever flirted with! That's when you know he's had a LOT of practice ;) Anyhow, it's really hard to come off as a good person with no hidden agendas behind the talking/flirting. I mean, from what I've experienced flirting is a sign of a "good player".. No? Hi, this is very very interesting. From watching the little video clip I came to think of something. The very nature of flirting. I mean, when some guy flirts with me I feel like I’m the only one he’s ever flirted with! That’s when you know he’s had a LOT of practice ;)

Anyhow, it’s really hard to come off as a good person with no hidden agendas behind the talking/flirting. I mean, from what I’ve experienced flirting is a sign of a “good player”.. No?

]]> By: Khiem http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/freezing-in-the-moment/529/#comment-15585 Khiem Mon, 16 Jun 2008 19:19:35 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/?p=529#comment-15585 The important thing is that the client needs to realize that there's no magic pill. Learning to be confident is a process. The process includes practicing not just talking to people but practicing the behaviors that makes you attractive until it becomes habit. Once it becomes habit, you internalize an identity that radiates attraction :) The important thing is that the client needs to realize that there’s no magic pill.

Learning to be confident is a process. The process includes practicing not just talking to people but practicing the behaviors that makes you attractive until it becomes habit.

Once it becomes habit, you internalize an identity that radiates attraction :)

]]> By: AP http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/freezing-in-the-moment/529/#comment-15576 AP Mon, 16 Jun 2008 15:29:58 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/?p=529#comment-15576 This blog post motivated me to make a balls-out cold approach in a train on the weekend. It was a country train, and with a 90 minute trip ahead of me I wanted to speak to someone to pass the time. Have ALWAYS had approach anxiety. Walking down the aisle with my bags and scanning those seated, a cute girl was giving me eye contact. Being within a metre of her I just sat down and started talking....was so incredibly easy and natural! Until she told me she was 16 (can't drive a car yet she said, and I asked why)......ARGH! It could have turned awkward but we kept up the conversation on a friendly non-flirtatious level for an hour or so until her stop came. Was actually very eye-opening - she told me about her best friend's secret pregnancy and later revealed that she had a secret abortion last month after a mistake with her boyfriend. This is something only he and her best friend knew about, and she was telling me because I opened her up with personal stories of my own. Didn't know what youth were up to these days....how often can you talk platonically to a teenage girl that isn't a cousin? HORRID luck on approaching a 16yo (NOT going to tell any of my friends....even though she looked very old for her age), but I'm glad I did it. Next time will be easy. In a tragic sidenote, as I left the train I counted three cute (and definitely legal aged) girls sitting alone at the back. I would have noticed them had I broke off 16yos eye contact and kept walking... Thank god this is anonymous! :D This blog post motivated me to make a balls-out cold approach in a train on the weekend. It was a country train, and with a 90 minute trip ahead of me I wanted to speak to someone to pass the time. Have ALWAYS had approach anxiety.

Walking down the aisle with my bags and scanning those seated, a cute girl was giving me eye contact. Being within a metre of her I just sat down and started talking….was so incredibly easy and natural!

Until she told me she was 16 (can’t drive a car yet she said, and I asked why)……ARGH!

It could have turned awkward but we kept up the conversation on a friendly non-flirtatious level for an hour or so until her stop came. Was actually very eye-opening – she told me about her best friend’s secret pregnancy and later revealed that she had a secret abortion last month after a mistake with her boyfriend.

This is something only he and her best friend knew about, and she was telling me because I opened her up with personal stories of my own. Didn’t know what youth were up to these days….how often can you talk platonically to a teenage girl that isn’t a cousin?

HORRID luck on approaching a 16yo (NOT going to tell any of my friends….even though she looked very old for her age), but I’m glad I did it. Next time will be easy.

In a tragic sidenote, as I left the train I counted three cute (and definitely legal aged) girls sitting alone at the back. I would have noticed them had I broke off 16yos eye contact and kept walking…

Thank god this is anonymous! :D

]]> By: Jay Mohr http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/freezing-in-the-moment/529/#comment-15547 Jay Mohr Sun, 15 Jun 2008 18:11:03 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/?p=529#comment-15547 I just came back from my second bootcamp in NYC and it was an amazing experience. Everything in this blog is enhanced a million times when you are with Dave and his coaches. They are great people that will change you in ways you have never imagined and he will get you to do things that you previously thought you weren't capable of. They will especially get you out of your deep freeze when you attempt to approach a good looking woman. Every bootcamp I get better and better and I can't wait for the next one. But as DW says, you need to practice everyday, everywhere you go. I just came back from my second bootcamp in NYC and it was an amazing experience. Everything in this blog is enhanced a million times when you are with Dave and his coaches. They are great people that will change you in ways you have never imagined and he will get you to do things that you previously thought you weren’t capable of. They will especially get you out of your deep freeze when you attempt to approach a good looking woman. Every bootcamp I get better and better and I can’t wait for the next one. But as DW says, you need to practice everyday, everywhere you go.

]]> By: Reynold http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/freezing-in-the-moment/529/#comment-15543 Reynold Sun, 15 Jun 2008 07:33:37 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/?p=529#comment-15543 decisiveness decisiveness........... gotta practice that! i pussied out today when some girls approached me, and i completely freeze up at that moment. thanks for the tip David so i know what to do next time : ) decisiveness decisiveness……….. gotta practice that! i pussied out today when some girls approached me, and i completely freeze up at that moment. thanks for the tip David so i know what to do next time : )

]]> By: Nick http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/freezing-in-the-moment/529/#comment-15542 Nick Sun, 15 Jun 2008 03:21:40 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/?p=529#comment-15542 Practice? Like just talking with people you see everyday? It seems like some people don't want to get into a conversation though...maybe I just don't come across confident I start talking to them, or do you notice some people aren't interested in keeping a conversation goin? Practice? Like just talking with people you see everyday? It seems like some people don’t want to get into a conversation though…maybe I just don’t come across confident I start talking to them, or do you notice some people aren’t interested in keeping a conversation goin?

]]> By: Taras http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/freezing-in-the-moment/529/#comment-15540 Taras Sat, 14 Jun 2008 20:04:46 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/?p=529#comment-15540 Great blog David! But I still can't get over the by the newbie's request that you mentioned. I think one of the key words there was PRACTICE. I've met too many guys around who want a magic pill for their woman problems. Other times they want to study everything under the sun and bag the first girl they see. Both very horrible mentalities to have. I would love to see another blog about this... Great blog David! But I still can’t get over the by the newbie’s request that you mentioned. I think one of the key words there was PRACTICE. I’ve met too many guys around who want a magic pill for their woman problems. Other times they want to study everything under the sun and bag the first girl they see. Both very horrible mentalities to have. I would love to see another blog about this…

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