Comments on: Flirt On A Train-Plus Free Podcast Debate!!

By: James May

James May — Wed, 03 Aug 2011 13:22:36 +0000

Good luck to you. If some creep smiled and started asking me how my day was, I’d knee him in the bollocks and punch him in the face.

By: Nicky

Nicky — Sat, 05 Jul 2008 18:12:08 +0000

Wow, what a fantastic story Claudia! I would have never thought that the train may be the place to meet a guy!

By: Claudia

Claudia — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 04:48:00 +0000

I really liked this article… I met my fiancee on the train we will be getting married August 8th 2008. We worked in the same building and same evening hours. He took the train home in the same direction as I did. One day I was listening to some music and singing along (I have a habbit of singing out loud) he was sitting across the isle from me and asked me if I was talking to him. Since that day we started chating then we started dating. I am a single mother and at the time didn’t think anything of it since most guys don’t really talk to me. I am glad I was on the train that day and glad that my fiancee was brave enough to say hi. I liked the fact that he was non threatning in his tone and he didn’t seem wierd. He just smiled and asked if I was talking to him. It’s a great way to meet people..

By: David Wygant

David Wygant — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 17:18:03 +0000

taras

good to hear all of that ….when we first met you were all about the target.

now i have you thinking outside the box and i can see the changes in you!!!

keep up the great work

By: David Wygant

David Wygant — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 17:15:25 +0000

sean

that is all it takes!!!!

it really is that easy

By: Sean

Sean — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 05:14:25 +0000

Having grown up in NYC I guess I’ve grown desensitized to people on the train, especially since I am usually in the not so great mood that you speak of. However, when you stop and think of it, there are plenty of interesting things to comment on (and start conversations about). Like the conductor speaking FAR too loudly into the microphone, the wonderful smells that sometimes saturate the cars, or even performers that frequently roam through the train. Instead of just grinning for a second and then burying my head back in my book, or cranking up the music on my iPod, I suppose all it really takes is an interesting comment to the person next to me. I think I’ll try that next time!

By: Reynold

Reynold — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 02:53:30 +0000

or you can glare at the crying baby sitting in front of you and have a huge “sigh to show how annoying you are by crybabys, nah jk lol. But i think the main thing i learn from this post is the “big smile” because it disarms anyone you talk to if you have a “big smile”!

By: Taras

Taras — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 00:52:07 +0000

Hey David,

To answer your question, I’m not sure there was ever just one big “aha!” moment. I think it was more of a gradual realization that took place over a period of time.

I think the problem was that I kept looking for a magic “one-size-fits-all” approach when it came to meeting and attracting girls. Following this pattern of thinking, I would inevitably search for the perfect opener to use in every single situation. This in turn, got me stuck in a never ending cycle of searching for more techniques.

After a while though, I began to see that it didn’t matter what I said as long as I was in the moment and generally knew how to handle the situation. And unlike memorizing routines, this is something that only comes from experience.

I now believe that the initial few words you say to a girl matter very little, since you can usually fix whatever “mistakes” you made later on anyway. I also liked your “how’s your day” example, because I think it illustrates this point pretty well.

Keep the good stuff coming,
-Taras

By: Pete

Pete — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 00:42:12 +0000

And Pete the train traveler is here!

Y’know, David, we actually have more trains running above the ground ^^
That’s a good thing, unless you enjoy sitting in an iron tube in the dark for fifty minutes, of course. And who wants less than fifteen seconds waiting time? You could use the “you’re cute” opener. The underground will arrive precisely when you run out of things to say xD lol

Yakub! The magic word three times. I mean ‘enthusiasm’, not ‘Yakub’ well who knows :p maybe if you do it with Yakub it works even better.
You say just what I would. The moment I finally finally started talking with ENTHUSIASM, to that girl in the shoe store in Amsterdam, bing bing bing!! FUN.

I need some sleep. Great to see you all. How was your day?

By: Joan

Joan — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 23:42:18 +0000

Yacutie;

There ya go! I like the way you think

How are you in the land of the living in LA?

Where I am at now is absolutely breathtaking…so many years here and who knew? Well, this is a new area of development. I am just very fortunate to be able to see the Lake…I needed some water! LOL