No, it’s not. Sometimes people need a lot more help…if willpower was enough by itself everyone would not be smoking, be suicidal and just live miserably. Yes we help a little but quite often that is not enough!

Ok, this one will go off the main blog page so I am not coming back to it…I am sure Mike will be around again.

As far as my humor….I realize these issues are very serious and deep…trying to put a light “wrapper” around them could help IMHO.

What annoys me is your ‘trying to be funny’ with subjects that aren’t.

Anyways, professional help…we dont know if he chose to stop, if they thought he’s well enough to stop or because of financial reasons.

All I’m saying is, he’s welcome here. No discrimination whatsoever.

His problems may be deep, but I had deept personal troubles too, and gone through alot as a young person. I believe that if a person is aware of themselves enough, knows how to prevent themselves from falling deeper into their troubles, knows how to change themselves for the better, then professional help isn’t all that its cracked up to be. Its all about willpower. And how well one connects with themselves, people around them and their environment.

yes we disagree, but I have personal experience to back up what I’m saying. Its not false hopes. Life is all about understanding and LIVING.

Yes we can and it can help IF he also receives competent professional help. From what Mike stated, he stopped seeing a therapist and he instead posts here and he thinks that will help him deal with his problems…which I find ludicrous!

We are not professionals and neither is David…It is our fiduciary duty to refer to competent professionals when we are over our heads….Oops, there I go again wearing my professional hat:-)

Actually, help from sites such as this that focuses on improving one’s self is really helpful, and if done with professional help, results will be better. Sometimes, even pyschiatrists don’t help because they only listen. They may have a degree, but they may lack experience. (For example, they don’t understand pua stuff and try to make it systematic more than it really is.)

We may not be his support group, but we can offer support or advice just as we have done for everyone else.

You speak so much of dying that we are beginning to think that you are the leader of the Suicidal Tendencies band:-)

Dude, we are not your support group, you need to find one where you can spill the beans by looking at their eyes, not hide behind your keyboard in your room alone. I think not going with a hooker is a big mistake. Go instead and find a high class escort and tell her exactly where you are coming from and you want the experience to be worth it and she can likely make it worth it for you….a super fuck session may change your perspective in life.

Again, you should get some professional help, the advice you get here is worth what you are paying for it!

It would be fun to guess what you do…..writer of some sort in LA media “circles”

Yes. I was trained as a kid to not show my emotions and yes that is what I am dealing with.

Yes. I understand that making connections is a huge part of being human but I think the path I took created that in my passion for what I do and now it is hard for me to see the same benefit from a human becuase of how strong my bond is with my own passions. I rival all of you out there with kids for how intense my work makes me feel.

Yes. I understand that I seem like a scared whiny fat kid, but that kid has been dead for ten years. I am what happened next and what happened next was comlicated but now I have a source of advice where I can share my thoughts and my emotions, even if it is in limited cyber space and I don’t know anyone that is commenting personally.

I make remarks about sex because yeah it looks fun, but at the same time I think it is not necessary to live a full and complete life especially when you don’t have the emotional intelligence like me to honor the gift that people give when they expose themselves that much to another person. I have had plenty of opportunities but every time I get exposed to my own fears (something I am learning to handle) and often I would feel the other person’s fears. The fear comes from them not understanding their own gift and that always makes me panic. I got so far removed from my own emotions that it is very easy for me to pick up on other’s emotions.

Dan, I’m not seeing a hooker.

Kismet, death is also part of life, but how many people scramble to understand it before they try it out.

And if you want a less melodramatic analogy. When you don’t know something but you imagine that it would be fun, how many adults (and I am not talking about sex between kids) block themselves because of how hard it will be and never try it? How many failed writers are out there? How many failed artists, actors, musicians? etc… I have my art part down but now I am back at the start of a creative beautiful life and I am scared to pick up a paint brush because I think the canvases I want to be with are trying to make me a one gallery man and I want to show my work in all the museums of the world.

This is something that needs to be corrected in the stream of knowledge that we all draw from. Men shouldn’t have to feel the need to be scared to share themselves for fear of being thought of as less of a man. That is wrong. Women are in tune with that and look at the world that they have created. They bond easily, they share easily, they enjoy each others stories easily. Men don’t share, they compete and we are trained by our fathers to suck it up and deal with it inside. Dealing with my emotions inside is what led me to where I am today and I am trying to correct that. I’m like a factory recall. They can’t put my car model back out on the road until they find out what is causing the engine to burst into flames when the car reaches 60 mph. I am fixing my defects then I am going back out there and of course I’ll be scared and intimdated but it will feel like I paid attention to myself and my needs and not to the whim of the nation or the pulse of common thought.

Something like that.

I could go on all day.

Of course, women have a failed belief too in their common knowledge. I’m not a woman so I can only base this on observation. But women tend to want to plant their roots and create a tree with every social connection. They think a tree (long lasting connection) is the pinnacle of what they can create with their own ideas and connections and they go and seek that in their mates. I know that this idea is changing but I used to keep attracting the kinds of women that are so not in tune with themselves and what makes them happy and creatively challenged that they think if they find a life long partner that action can validate them. Both sexes have something they collectively need to fix for both sides of the connection equaiton to work so both sides feel happy and blessed to recieve such an amazing gift of our selves to another person.

Thanks for listening. You are all my support group.

about sex, thats part of life. something you eventually learn to accept.

now about the therapist part, if I was one, I’d send all the “troubled” kids to self help coaches because I believe thats the root of all the “mental” illnesses.

The fact that your therapist sent you means you should be more open to what you are learning/being taught from david.