Comments on: Explain Yourself Sexually

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 05 Mar 2011 17:48:59 +0000

I’m a woman and I like sex but truth be told, I wouldn’t describe my sexual experiences even as average. And I’m talking about years of being in three different relationships and some one- or few-times encounters. I’m generally a patient person, too patient most of the times. I do tell what I like; I nearly draw a map to all my long-term boyfriends. The quality of sex didn’t even stay bad, through time it went to worse and worst. By that I mean that he came a few seconds after he took off his pants during the argument that at least some foreplay is necessary. (To that I was given an answer that he read in a book that it’s not, that I’ll become moist anyhow).

Telling what you like is great, gives awesome results (I assume so) but only if the other person listens.

By: a.movie

a.movie — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 21:14:41 +0000

Marina, if you believed that, you wouldn’t pull a fit when someone tells you that they are not interested in you as a partner, but more as a friend.

By: Khiem (DW Coach)

Khiem (DW Coach) — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 18:53:28 +0000

By nature, men are providers… we want to bring things to women… and it translates into the bedroom too. We want to provide pleasure and fun in the bedroom.

If the woman opens up, it makes thing so much easier.. and well… so much more fun.

I personally love it when a girl tells me what she likes.. b/c I’ll do it… but sometimes, I’ll show her a little bit more… if she didn’t know something

By: Sandra

Sandra — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 02:54:14 +0000

Being open about what turns you on is correct. But what turns off the mood is when the guy says: don’t be so instructive. Well if the guy knows then let him figure it out the best way he knows how. No one can get anyone off but themselves. I like to let the guy know where my sensual spots after I know that we are going in for a real relationship, but if it is one of those hey baby lets go to the boodwah and get it on. Then mister you wont get anything out of me.

By: Marina

Marina — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 01:06:11 +0000

This goes both ways, communication at any stage of the relationship is important.

Girls too want to know if we can get better. We all have to express to each others what pleases us, thats why sharing our fantasies before sex gives so many hints to both parties.

By: David Gideon

David Gideon — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 20:54:12 +0000

Another great way to increase a woman’s enjoyment is to have her verbally tell you what feels good to her during the act. Don’t just ask her if it feels good and let her say “Yes/No”. If she says “yes” the lead and tell her to say it.

This will turn her on as you take the lead, increase her pleasure as she verbally re-enforces her pleasure, and cause her to backwards rationalize that it was an amazing experience.

The act of verbalizing how amazing something feels actually amplifies the feeling. This is why it feels good to tell a good story and it feels bad to tell a depressing story.

Use the power of words to increase her pleasure.

David Gideon

By: Tony888

Tony888 — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 20:07:06 +0000

Exactly. If us men are not doing it right, how can we improve and please you more if you don’t tell us? Good, honest feedback is really the only way people improve at anything.