Comments on: Excite and Intrigue http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/excite-and-intrigue/925/ Sex. Relationships. Dating. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. Sat, 21 Nov 2009 09:04:02 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: niecey http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/excite-and-intrigue/925/#comment-28667 niecey Sat, 13 Jun 2009 14:03:49 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=925#comment-28667 This has happened to me more than once and more than twice. I really like a guy and want some form of a relationship. However, I never hear from him again after the second or third date. After talking about it and maybe even crying over it, I grow strong and say f&@# it. Maybe it wasn't meant to be. Maybe the man was married or in a serious relationship and just playing me for a#@ on the side. Maybe he did me a favor instead of stringing me along for a year or two then really breaking my heart. We as women have to realize that every man who we meet is not our future boyfriend or husband. Some of them are just stepping stones leading to something better. This has happened to me more than once and more than twice. I really like a guy and want some form of a relationship. However, I never hear from him again after the second or third date. After talking about it and maybe even crying over it, I grow strong and say f&@# it. Maybe it wasn’t meant to be. Maybe the man was married or in a serious relationship and just playing me for a#@ on the side. Maybe he did me a favor instead of stringing me along for a year or two then really breaking my heart. We as women have to realize that every man who we meet is not our future boyfriend or husband. Some of them are just stepping stones leading to something better.

]]> By: Heartburn Home Remedy http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/excite-and-intrigue/925/#comment-26037 Heartburn Home Remedy Wed, 15 Apr 2009 12:05:29 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=925#comment-26037 If you want to hear a reader's feedback :) , I rate this article for four from five. Decent info, but I have to go to that damn google to find the missed pieces. Thank you, anyway! If you want to hear a reader’s feedback :) , I rate this article for four from five. Decent info, but I have to go to that damn google to find the missed pieces. Thank you, anyway!

]]> By: Deb http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/excite-and-intrigue/925/#comment-20031 Deb Fri, 28 Nov 2008 16:58:03 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=925#comment-20031 The first time I was stood up for a first dinner date, I went through the initial self-blame game (what did I do wrong? Maybe he saw me waiting and ran the other direction...etc.) Then I decided, always have a plan B. He backs out at the last minute, doesnt show, whatever... I do something nice for me. Go to a movie, have some self-pampering I never make time for. I have what guys hate to hear, I have "me time". I realized that to let someone I hardly know ruin my day was just silly. So, I can't control the "why's" of the situation or the "guys", but I can do something nice for myself as a plan B. And if he calls for another date, usually I am just a flakey chick with a very busy schedule. In this age of cell phones, if a person can't call you and "flake" out, then that is just a bad sign of things to come. He just did me a favor by being his flaky little self. No harm done. The first time I was stood up for a first dinner date, I went through the initial self-blame game (what did I do wrong? Maybe he saw me waiting and ran the other direction…etc.) Then I decided, always have a plan B. He backs out at the last minute, doesnt show, whatever… I do something nice for me. Go to a movie, have some self-pampering I never make time for. I have what guys hate to hear, I have “me time”. I realized that to let someone I hardly know ruin my day was just silly. So, I can’t control the “why’s” of the situation or the “guys”, but I can do something nice for myself as a plan B. And if he calls for another date, usually I am just a flakey chick with a very busy schedule. In this age of cell phones, if a person can’t call you and “flake” out, then that is just a bad sign of things to come. He just did me a favor by being his flaky little self. No harm done.

]]> By: Adam http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/excite-and-intrigue/925/#comment-19987 Adam Wed, 26 Nov 2008 00:58:06 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=925#comment-19987 Dragonclaw - Good point. No matter what the reason, I think ultimately the point is not to worry about it. People flake for all kind of reasons and trying to figure out why is an exercise in futility. If someone flakes on me without even having the courtesy to call then I'm just not going to worry about their movivation (or lack thereof). I'll just move on. Dragonclaw – Good point. No matter what the reason, I think ultimately the point is not to worry about it. People flake for all kind of reasons and trying to figure out why is an exercise in futility. If someone flakes on me without even having the courtesy to call then I’m just not going to worry about their movivation (or lack thereof). I’ll just move on.

]]> By: DanielTheConversationalist http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/excite-and-intrigue/925/#comment-19978 DanielTheConversationalist Tue, 25 Nov 2008 19:36:27 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=925#comment-19978 I don't think people flake because they are nervous. Lacking in motivation would be the same as not being excited or intrigued about that person, because if you were excited or intrigued about that person, you would be motivated to meet with that person. I admit, I have flaked on a few people, because I personally was not too intrigued with those people. I agree with the tease and intrigue. You want to keep that "mystery" and that element of surprise. You give the other person small doses of information and gradually build to the date. I don’t think people flake because they are nervous. Lacking in motivation would be the same as not being excited or intrigued about that person, because if you were excited or intrigued about that person, you would be motivated to meet with that person. I admit, I have flaked on a few people, because I personally was not too intrigued with those people.

I agree with the tease and intrigue. You want to keep that “mystery” and that element of surprise. You give the other person small doses of information and gradually build to the date.

]]> By: Dragonclaw http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/excite-and-intrigue/925/#comment-19976 Dragonclaw Tue, 25 Nov 2008 11:37:11 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=925#comment-19976 So are you suggesting that the reason why people flake on you is because you have failed to captivate them enough? Have you ever considered that maybe the reason people flake on you is because they themselves may be nervous? Or lacking in motivation? It seems logical enough. I think blaming yourself about the indecision of others is unhealthy. I am not suggesting that it is always their fault I am simply saying that you should look on both sides of the picture. So are you suggesting that the reason why people flake on you is because you have failed to captivate them enough? Have you ever considered that maybe the reason people flake on you is because they themselves may be nervous? Or lacking in motivation?

It seems logical enough.

I think blaming yourself about the indecision of others is unhealthy. I am not suggesting that it is always their fault I am simply saying that you should look on both sides of the picture.

]]> By: Jenny http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/excite-and-intrigue/925/#comment-19973 Jenny Tue, 25 Nov 2008 10:22:09 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=925#comment-19973 Ouch. Harsh. Ouch. Harsh.

]]> By: K http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/excite-and-intrigue/925/#comment-19970 K Tue, 25 Nov 2008 05:53:22 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=925#comment-19970 Sometimes you don't have to be the "star" interesting person (aka 'show and tell' - which often turns into show-off and tell all) - you just have to be interested in getting to know the other person (tell me about YOU). There's nothing so interesting to a man as a woman who is interested in him, right? Well, back at ya! Sometimes you don’t have to be the “star” interesting person (aka ’show and tell’ – which often turns into show-off and tell all) – you just have to be interested in getting to know the other person (tell me about YOU). There’s nothing so interesting to a man as a woman who is interested in him, right? Well, back at ya!

]]> By: Infinity http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/excite-and-intrigue/925/#comment-19969 Infinity Tue, 25 Nov 2008 04:14:16 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=925#comment-19969 You have to know how to be an exciting and intriguing person. A part of that is building anticipation. When you can get someone to be excited about doing something with you, it's really attractive and that kind of attraction is viral... It's all about having fun and letting her know that when she goes out with you, she will get an experience. The kind that would make her foolish for passing up. Fun. You have to know how to be an exciting and intriguing person. A part of that is building anticipation. When you can get someone to be excited about doing something with you, it’s really attractive and that kind of attraction is viral…

It’s all about having fun and letting her know that when she goes out with you, she will get an experience. The kind that would make her foolish for passing up.

Fun.

]]> By: Taryn http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/excite-and-intrigue/925/#comment-19968 Taryn Tue, 25 Nov 2008 03:50:41 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=925#comment-19968 This is so true...I have become "flaky" when it comes to guys because I have limited time and I dont want to waste it on someone I am not that excited about. I would rather do spend it with friends or even alone. But if a guy is fun and exciting Im all for making time. This is so true…I have become “flaky” when it comes to guys because I have limited time and I dont want to waste it on someone I am not that excited about. I would rather do spend it with friends or even alone. But if a guy is fun and exciting Im all for making time.

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