Over the years I’ve been probably as whiney, anxious and frustrated over finding Mr. Right as they come. I would have benefited from this blog long ago, and most likely taken advantage of David’s products, and even stepped out of my comfort zone and gone to a bootcamp. We can always learn about relationships, they are the most complicated thing ever. Between my difficult marriage, crazy dating senarios, and now finding a wonderful place with a loving man to land with every day, I would encourage people to listen and learn from David’s advice and experiences. He is so dead on right. Sometimes dead-on blunt, but we all need to hear it at some point. When my life was at it’s lowest, and I was completely falling apart, my best friend and I were driving somewhere. I was talking 80mph with gusts up to 120, a total wreck. She punched me in the arm (really hard!) and yelled, “get over it!” Then suggested we go to church on Sunday. She just wanted to help. She’s been there for me since kindgarten, and I needed to hear (and feel) what she had to say. It was my wake up call, and I thank her for it. (please don’t everyone start beating on their loved ones, it was a girl punch thing; think Elaine from Seinfeld) Seven years later I’ve transformed myself and life is great. If I can motivate anyone here to not give up and be honest with themselves, change will come if you truly follow your course and see yourself as you honestly are, then I’ve been of some help. To have David’s input here, and programs, are great tools. Take baby steps outside of the box, and start with yourself. Work the plan and enjoy the journey. And pay it forward whenever you can. You’ll discover a whole new side of yourself, and perhaps notice that your special person is right there in front of you, but now you have the clear vision available to see them.

I’ve been learning that the best way to open a conversation with someone, even if it’s while on the errand run, is to comment or ask a question about them. Everyone likes to talk about themselves, me included! We have a customer that always wears these huge, quite eclectic hats. My first impression was, “e-gads, how rediculous”. But then, she pulls her outfits together in her own little way, and the hat tops it all off, and she is so confident. So, now everytime I see her I comment on how nice her hat looks, and she just beams with delight that someone noticed. I think you can apply that strategy to many situations. If a guy appears to be single, and (when I was single) I wanted to confirm things, I would make a comment like “bet your wife is glad you do the shopping”, or “looks like someone’s cooking romance for dinner”. If their single, usually you get a big response like, “oh no, not me, I’m a single guy”, and then you can go from there. And if things get akward, whatever, you can just move along and try again. It’s really fun.

Great topic again David.

You are still grieving and it’s a process, you need to take it one day at a time and give it time…I have dealt with a very painful loss in my life and have dealt with clients who have lost spouses and sons and I know how difficult it is, believe me. There has not been a day I have not thought of the person I lost and it has been almost 11 years now!!! But after a long time of grieving you will realize that life has to go on. I hope you have close family and friends for support,just their presence helps!

My work revolves more around Wall Street than IRS for a while now…and I have had many heart attacks the last six monts, it appears with all the mayhem going on…In this business we are all trying to hang on to clients and hang on!

I am no Bible carrying religious Christian fanatic, but, in my own private way, I just want to say I am very sorry for your loss and I am praying for you to come back better than ever….

Marina: The best is yet to come….you just don’t know it yet.

We got to keep going!

Best,

Dan

To me a good interaction is one in which the two of you feel better after leaving it. It could just be as simple as having a joke, making someone smile and walking away. That is an interaction and he/she feels good because they good a good laugh and you feel good because you made some laugh.

Any interaction where there is positive gain on both sides, I believe is a good interaction.

When you go out there, you out to have fun, of course, but you’re also out to bring positivity to other people’s lives as well, when you can. The more you do that, the more people will want to have those interactions with you.

Thanks for noticing, don’t expect anyone to answer anything, but it’s nice when someone shows empathy when you share such a personal story..That is whole idea about noticing the small cues people give you and respond to them. I do that ever day, and on a lighter note Bangle Boy I’m a NYC girl at heart when I go too far..Fu that’s enough…that will quiet me down.

I more do this writing for my own help, very recently last October with as massive heart attack, two weeks before we were to move to a new house, new school just so many things to deal with in such a short time.

Yes he was big character, 6′ 4″ but at at heart of a teddy bear. To give you an idea he had people phenomenal people skills like David but not much into shopping unless I was getting lingerie…I was chuckling when I saw the enliven routine, I lived with it for 16 years and this way of living makes every day an adventure in life.

He made his money on Wall Steet by being able to just get what people wanted, even before they knew it them selves..But you could put him anywhere and they would realate to him, a true Mans man, truckers, powe brokers did not matter to him. Enough of that but nice you noticed, yes he is missed I am really using all these tools to get my feet back on the ground full speed. Alright talking too much again..well I am girl what do you guys want.

Now Dan-well you better use some real creativity to try to enliven paying taxes…that’s an easy one..Don’t go too crazy working

It’s the little thing in life that makes a huge difference!