Energy
April 27, 2009 
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Let’s talk about energy today. Energy is really important.
There are a few different types of people in this world. For starters, there are the people who don’t give a fuck about anybody but themselves. They don’t talk to anybody, and you can feel that attitude from them the second you meet them. It’s a very angry disposition.
Secondly, there are the people that give EVERYTHING to other people and lose a sense of themselves. When they ask you, “How are you?” you get the sense that they really care about your answer – possibly more than they care about themselves.
And then there’s the type of people that just doesn’t want to deal with conversations. They don’t think it’s fun to talk to someone about the bracelet that someone is wearing. They dread those little conversations – even though they can lead to bigger conversations – because they take so much energy.
But it takes so much energy from you to muster up the willingness to have those conversations. It’s not because it’s below you, it’s just exhausting when you know that you have to do it. You know you have to do it all day long to finally connect with the right person.
And then there is me. I go out and realize that life is fun and beautiful. Not to sound like Roberto Benigni, but life IS beautiful. Every day is an amazing gift. Every interaction I have, I can learn about somebody and leave behind a piece of me – yet always remain true to myself.
I’m never giving myself to somebody and then losing my energy; nor am I ever dreading my interactions with other people.
When I go over and ask someone how they are doing, I care about how they are, but I’m not losing myself in the process. Most people expend so much effort asking the person how they are and they just lose themselves in the process.
When I’m going and talking to people, I’m engaging them, I’m having fun, and I’m enjoying it. I’m giving a piece of me but I’m retaining all of my own energy. Nobody can take my energy from me. I don’t dread interactions with other people. I don’t leave them feeling drained or tired.
In fact, I’m being energized by my interactions with others because I know that it’s worth it. Deepak Chopra said that if you can just perform random acts of kindness to strangers all day long without losing yourself then you’ve had an amazing day.
Look at how animals do it. Daphne didn’t even know you, and I told you to take her downstairs, and you did. I did that on purpose. She sat with you, and she hung out with you. She’s a good dog. Dogs can give their energy to someone yet still remain intact, ready for the next thing.
Dogs have endless energy to do things for humans. Human beings get tired from interactions with others. Humans lose a little bit of themselves during each interaction, and they have trouble recharging. Interacting becomes exhausting.
I’ve observed this in so many bootcamps that I’ve conducted: after two days, the guys are totally exhausted. After the weekend, I’m tired; but I’m certainly not exhausted. I feel good.
When I coached all of the bootcamps by myself – and I don’t do the whole thing by myself anymore, my coaches are phenomenal and give my clients an amazing two of the three days – I would go literally from 9 in the morning with the guys until 2 a.m. And I was still invigorated by all of the interactions!
Most people are exhausted because they don’t retain who they are throughout the entire experience. If somebody is boring me or draining my energy, I dismiss them immediately. I just go on automatic pilot.
When I’m on automatic pilot, I realize that there is nothing I can do to change their life or their perspective. They aren’t going to take or breath in any part of me. I might be there physically, but I’m not really there. They think I am – but I’m only as present as they actually are.
Most people will let themselves get drained by that other person. I just walk away and shake the experience off as quickly as I can – because I never actually let them in. Most people let them in.
Do you know how some people just drain you? Some people invigorate you, some people drain you, and some don’t affect you either way. But those energy-suckers can really drain you. They can do this in very small doses throughout the day.
This happens throughout the day so that by the time they leave work or their world, they just can’t shake it off. They’ve been completely drained.
I know that there are times that people can do it to me throughout the day. I work with a woman, who I love, and she’s great, but there are times that she will just suck me dry.
So what do I do? I don’t answer her or I avoid her emails for 24 hours until I can gain back my strong sense of self and my perspective.
It’s really important to do that – otherwise, you’ll just allow people to get into you nonstop.
Are you following this?
Client: I’m trying. This is a new concept for me.
David: I know. It’s a deep concept, and it’s not something that I could understand at 23. At 23, I was running around in circles.
Client: Are you saying that there are some people who you have to avoid in some way?
David: Yeah. There will be people today that we’ll talk to who will just drain you. What you will do in that situation is try to make it work – you’ll think it’s YOU. You’ll think, why can’t I connect with this person? What did I do wrong?
But you really should just look at this person as a total mental drain.
Client: Is it a flaw in that person’s character?
David: It’s just who they are. This person is just an exhausting individual. They are not somebody that you will ever connect with – nor should you.
You know that in life you’re not going to connect with every single person. It’s impossible to connect with every soul.
A lot of guys will sit there, beat themselves up and think to themselves, ‘What did I do wrong here? What could I have done to get this person to respond to me?’
Some people will do this consciously and others will do it subconsciously. And throughout the day, these interactions will take place. The more that they occur, the more drained you become.
When you become drained like that, you lose a sense of reality and a sense of yourself. Then when you go home, you don’t know exactly what is bugging you, but you have this feeling that you’ve hit up against a wall somewhere. There is something wrong, and you hit a wall.
You don’t have anything left for yourself, and you certainly don’t have anything left for the people in your life who you care about – your family, your friends, whomever. It takes the whole night to recover from something that you really should have protected yourself from throughout the day.
This happens to so many people. They hit these emotional walls because people are basically stealing parts of your soul throughout the day.
Client: So there are ways of talking with tons of people and not being drained?
David: I don’t lose myself. Some people lose themselves. I don’t take it personally. If someone doesn’t respond to me, I say to myself, so they didn’t respond to me. That has nothing to do with me. It has to do with them, with their social skills, and the way that they look at the world.
I was not put on this earth to please people. I was put on this earth to please myself. And through doing that, I’ll make the world a better place. People are attracted to me because of my energy and who I am as a person.
Client: That’s definitely a paradigm shift!
David: Yeah, it’s huge! And it’s something that is so important to learn. This is a lesson where you give yourself to people because you enjoy it. But you walk away on your own two legs and leave it behind.
You leave a piece of yourself with everyone you connect with, but you leave completely whole. It’s the Law of Attraction, and it’s the reason that people are attracted to you in the first place.
The minute people start sucking energy from me I check out. It’s not me; it’s them! And I don’t owe them anything.
Thanks. This will help me as I do my daily approaches with people. It is something that I am NOW just beginning to understand. I will definitely print this one out. It helps to see what different types of people there are in this world. I am striving to have that perspective like you Dave wish me luck.
Sadly I can see a lot of myself in that third person that was described. I get exhausted pretty easily from arbitrary conversations about bracelets. So much so that I sometimes need to lock myself in the house for a week just so that I can regain my enthusiasm for meeting people. energy is definetly something I still need to work on.
Thanks, David!
This is a fun one, and also very challenging,
I know at different points of my life, my energy has ranged from giving to draining. At those times when I was the draining, I understand those who were not able to keep me around, but I am honored by those who were just there and those who told me what I was doing to them. Forgiveness is a very powerful thing.
First of all, I do not believe anyone can take energy from me unless I let them. Personally I view encounters with energy drainers/vampires or Human leeches as I call them as something positive. It’s an indicator to me that there is something unresolved inside me that I don’t have control off. I have to work on something.
I view myself as either in the Victim or the In charge categories. The latter is the state I am in when I have been completely(ok almost) in touch with my soul. Energy leaches can only affect me when I am in the Victim/not in touch with myself. It’s a conscious decision where I primarily have chose im my life to be in charge and not a victim. But not until recently have I quite understood how much you have to fight to stay in the In Charge state. Very humbling but also very expanding experience.
As with leeches, the human kind can only drain so much before my own survival instinct kicks in, it might take a while as they often prevent us from feeling them while they drain.
I believe we carry energies from previous experiences and lives and that human leeches really are the ones where fear have taken over their being. Life as we know it is merely a process/journey to relieve us of fears of previous experiences, so we can get as close to experience a free limit less spiritual existence in a human shell.
If we have enough handle on ourselves then I don’t believe just pushing/avoiding leeches is the way to go. Having compassion and love for another’s struggle, I don’t see as a negative. I can’t change someone, that’s up to them but often buy stating the as is/how someone have affected us, you just might give them a chance to stop up and hopefully at some point and understand what they have been doing. I believe the point of living is getting to understand and evolve ourself, but ultimately it’s also to be able to inspire others to start overcoming their fears. We are both one and all at the same time, being able to inspire change around us is my ultimate version of being an evolved soul.
Yes, this will be the text version of being a Human Leech…it just never stops
ok guys i have decided to take my pua name out, now on its just going to be howe
such a great blog today david, i notice that i am a huge energy sucker, and i am becoming better at controlling it, since i focus on giving.
where are my playboy bunnies today- yes i am talking about …..
horny sandra and marina the milf:)
I wanted to share this story with everyone here since today’s blog is about energy. Yesterday afternoon a 27yr old guy, really good looking approached me, the moment he said hello, I could see that he is really nervous, and he started to not open to me, and it made me nervous as well. Well I was being nice and asked him few questions….but he was so in his head, that after within a minute he left saying bye. I was ok, if he was not man enough to stay and listen then its too bad for him:(
I think all men should have a great energy when they first approach a woman, and we can see through the mask, so be honest!
david some reason i can’t see my first comments, is it b/c i changed my name.
I know sometimes I can feel drained out by some people, for instance guys that I have a thing for vice versa. But then, I still can’t figure out what they do exactly that drains me or a person. Can someone clarify that for me?
I’m told by my sister, that the last three years (as a teenager) I’ve changed and become a selfish person who only thinks of themselves. I see it as me learning how to love myself, give myself what I need and want, because the way I was raised taught me to give and give to others but not myself. And sure, I changed and went over the top but I’m toning it done and working on it. Just because I’m selfish materialistically does not mean I’m not a good person right? I have alot of love for my family and friends. But I’m the type of person that keeps my feelings inside…So only the negative actions have shown through. Though my family and friends do know that I would be there for them if they were in tough times.
Julia- that’s really too bad for him, what else did he say to you beside hello?
Today’s blog so resonate with me b/c 6 months ago, when I didn’t know the natural way to meet people, I forced my conversational skills with women, I lingered way too long, and almost all of them walked a way b/c of my weird negative energy.
Julia- I was just like the guy who approached you days ago. However thank goodness that I ran into David’s natural materials!
Diego-r+r- are you the diego from stylelife academy?
I am curious what is the best way one can consistently build a greater energy every single day?
Rick,
So know what you know now, if you were to encounter a girl acting the way you used to. How would you approach her and how would you have loved someone to have approached you back then.
Happy to hear you have come past that state.
Marina- thank you! It’s a relief to feel such a freedom, and I think everyone one needs to focus on creating a greater energy around them than taking it away from people. And it does make a huge difference, and like david mentioned it’s a paradigm shift!
howe great to see that you changed ur pua name:)
natural is the way to go my man, and I am sure that Rick would agree as well!
Rick- he just was too nervous, and after that he asked what magazine I was reading. After that, he had nothing to say, I could see that he almost was shaking. He was not in the moment.
thanks jimmipua
yes and you are so right about it, the MMS is really a powerful thing to have in your hands…….and
no marina- i wont use the MMS to get in her pants, even tough i am craving the pussy a lot lately:)
Julia- you gotta give him some credit for doing the first step right, what you think is the next step, or Marina what you guys think?
I think the next step is what David is talking about today, conveying a heartfelt interest in a woman, and be true to oneself.
great to hear that howe- keep it up my man!
Rick,
you probaly are cringing right now knowing exactly how the 27 years old that Julia meet was feeling.
As I asked before how would you if you had been Julia had approached you and how would you approach others knowing what you went through yourself.
It would be really hearing your opinion on this and to give all of us some insight of how to approach similar situations.
yes I totally agree with what Jimmi had to say, I had done some weird things in the past to pickup women, it just wasn’t me, it brought my energy so down to depression for months, to be honest, I almost killed myself once, thank goodness I found hope to not do it.
Think about it, everything around us is the nature man, there are no way to go but going with the flow, and the flow is the natural way of life.
Howe.
Yeah I believe you..
Jimmy
all he dropped was Pua…he’s still our Blog sex addict.
Julia,
He did try, but was very insecure. Some of the best ones I have ever meet was shy at first. It can also be a matter of breaking the ice and maybe tease him a bit. Shy does not mean he is not heartfelt, they can be more sincere than any one you have meet. It just takes some more time..but when they blossom..wow then you are really taken aback.
Marina- you so right about that, I can see myself do that weird approach that is not natural at all.
Btw…that is great question Marina! Knowing what i know now, how would i approach someone?
I would approach them with my nice personalty, sly smile, speak and walk to her with confidence. Great bodylangauge, and tonality.
I also wouldn’t care if she talk to me or not, because I am thinking that she had a sexual fantasy about me a night ago.
hope that answers your question Marina!
Glad to see this blog getting hot, will be back in an hour ladies and gents!
Rick,
Yes that answers one part, I am more curious about how you back then would have loved lets say you were in the same situation as the 27 years old with Julia. That Julia had approached you, as you already kind of maybe ackwardly had asked for a magazine but were not able to carry it on any further. Maybe your answer can help us girl deal with shy ones.
I have found that often when people does not respond right away but they had shown little interest, a bit of “poking” looses them up and then they talk.
Sometimes we reach out, in hope someone will catch on to us that we actually want the interaction, even though it might not appear clear to others.
Good to hear you brought yourself back and did not kill yourself. It’s hard when you are in such a dark place, but you came through it. Life is an awesome beautiful experience.
This is something I need to work on more personally. I was beating myself up over this because one day I would be all sociable, and the next I wouldn’t be.
I learned to apply the knowledge found in today’s blog before I met David. It came in the form of learning to respect, and eventually love the gifts I have been given and the work that I do.
When I first started getting paid for what I do, it started because I used a cocky, assured attitude to show that I was good at my career. After that attitude settled in, I started getting lots of work, but no recognition. I asked myself what I need recognized and I discovered that even though I love what I do, and I found a beautiful way to express that love, I still was not allowing myself to feel good about it, because I wanted the world to recognize the talents too. It’s been a strange lesson to learn, but now I understand that my energy is my own, how I feel about it comes from me, and that it I am the only one who needs to love what I do for it to resonate into others. (David, his personality, his business, his passion are all good examples)
Which I am now learning is the same thing as being happy with my soul, which is what the energy vampires conciously, and subconciously go after in others to make their own core being feel better.
Making sure others like what I do, well, that’s just a business decision now.
Great blog David!!
I enjoyed the blog today,
I really get what you mean by not losing yourself by trying to interact with an energy sucker. I will remember this blog for a long time.
howe -no, I’m not from stylelife academy. I’m from Los Traidores
There is an expression misery likes company. Has anyone noticed that one of your friends may be down and all of a sudden they are telling you all their problems and then it becomes draining in the long run. I have been around people that if you don’t like someone they don’t like then it is to hell with you. There was one friend that I actually told this to if I can not be happy then no one else is going to be happy. It seemed as though when I was in a good spirit and thinking of a certain male friend she would blow it away with something not positive. It only goes to prove positivity brings positivity and negativity will bring negativity..
Rick – clearly you are a twist from the school of thought that says if you’re afraid to talk to someone, to just picture the other person naked! But to picture them as having had a sexual fantasy about you the night before? Funny – but how about picturing that they will have one about you AFTER this encounter? Leave them smiling!
Nick–thanks for your honesty as I think many people struggle with this. Question…what makes it easy for you to be sociable those days? What goes on during that time? You might want to pay attention to this to see if there is a pattern which will help you be more consistent.
I find that many people find it is easy to fall into being asocial when their having a bad day and hide from others. But actually, being friendly and connecting with others will actually uplift you!
Marina:
>>>>>he’s still our Blog sex addict.
Wait a minute, I thought I was the Blog sex addict? Or is it because I am married I don’t qualify?
Kismet:
>>>>>….the way I was raised taught me to give and give to others but not myself.
Oh yeah baby give give give like a good Asian girl:-)
>>>>>>….the last three years (as a teenager) I’ve changed and become a selfish person who only thinks of themselves
The Asian teenager, after being brought up in the good Asian way, is off on her own and is time to rebel…it’s okay, it’s the (probably short-lived) stage of Asian bitchiness, you ‘ll get over it, and you will soon become a good Asian girl. As far as being materialistic, you can’t help it, it’s in your blood:-)
Julia: You are so cruel, give that guy a break! You sound like a blonde, an Asian girl would not do that, unless the approaching creepy guy was Asian:-)
sorry on my Asian fix today:-)
way too late, gotta run
Right, DTO, unless is was the usual WASP-y fetishist! Baaad, DTO!
K
Leave us WASP’s out of it..besides DTO is Greek… LOL
I really hope that you guys are getting these deep lessons we are teaching here. David, I love the way you put this lesson across. These lessons are constantly drilled into the clients on the bootcamps for the deeper understanding but nicely done here in writing. I had a client just yesterday out with me who now totally has changed his perspective on how he views attractive women…he no longer feels that debilitating feeling but now feels compelled to approach and interact instead. I love the shifts the clients make and even though Im about to turn 35, I love the fact that Im still making small shifts in the understanding. So many people sign up here expecting how to learn boy meets girl not realising that this is truely the cutting edge of personal development…Chat later David and I want to chat with more of you on the live chats….
Marina,
I was nodding my head in agreement while reading your first post. I agree that unless we allow it ,nobody can take energy from us. … and yes it really does depend on which state we are when it comes to how we deal with “drainers”. When I am in my “parent” state I choose to look deeper and try to understand the cause of this type of behaviour. The difficulty I have is how to raise this issue with the offender in a manner that won’t cause them to become defensive.
When i am in my”child” state, I am less tolerant of energy leeches… and will distance myself from them.
I’m not sure where i’m going with all of this ,but I wanted to respond to your post and to say that I felt inspired by your thoughts. It’s not difficult to see that you are deeply introspective and as you said an “evolved” person
Rick- great to hear about your new found confidence, I cannot be any less proud of you man! Your story is a blog inspiration!
Great article, D!
Adam, you are absolutely right about “boy meets girl” versus “personal development”. I happen to be the person who was being coached in this episode. David is brilliant. This happened a month ago, and I am still at the beginning of replacing a lifetime of learned behavior with new habits. There is hardly any aspect of my life that is not changing. It is a deep, slow, and sometimes frustrating learning process that impacts everything in one’s life.
I think it’s amazing how most clients during bootcamp realize that it’s really all about energy.
A lot of times, the clients start the weekend asking us coaches “what did you say to her?” but by the end, they realize… it’s really not what we said to her that mattered… but how we said it to her.
Did we say it with passion, with excitement, with enthusiasm?
People are always looking to be inspired
To K:
>>>>>>Right, DTO, unless is was the usual WASP-y fetishist! Baaad, DTO!
i thought that I was responding to you and only after I posted I realized it was Kismet, the OTHER Asian poster here and not you…
You did not disappoint me with your comeback though, it was expected:-)
I never saw myself as a WASP by the way…I was born and raised looking up at Mt. Olympus and had no idea what baseball was until I got here…I hate that sport where fat men can spit, scratch their balls and hardly break a sweet and still make millions!
So, tell us K, do you have a preference between Asian or white men? Who turns you on more? Talking STRICTLY physical attractiveness here, let’ s not get too deep ok?
DTO:
You thought me and K were the same? Haha. No, we were both on the same boat.
—
My guy friend treated me to Bdubs and I didn’t know anyone there except for a few. I was hesitant about even going but decided itd be cool to get free food and meet new people. So when I went, I was introduced and surprisingly it wasn’t awkward at all! I had good energy, they had good energy, we joked easily. Then there would be guys (and girls) who introduced themselves to me. After eating, one of the guy came over and said he noticed that I’m the only one he doesn’t know. We chatted a bit about where I’ve been and why he never sees me in the student center. I gave him a subtle compliment about his English, etc. In all, it was very good energy and not draining. I was not uncomfortable at all. Even when I’m with my good/close friends, sometimes I have nothing to say and it would feel weird or like I SHOULD say something. But here, it was easygoing. I’m glad to have met them today.
And my group of close friends are being social bums. They would rather not meet new people because 1) more people equal more drama 2) we all have eachother, no need for anymore. Its just excuses. And because of those excuses, we have been missing out on events. So now I’m taking initiative to go out and meet people.
DTO:
“Give give give”? LMAO. No.
I’m a good person with my own tendencies to be a bit narcisstic or self-centered. And yes I’ll come back down to earth but not to stereotypes. I’m much more of a radical person
About what you said to Julia:
I don’t know what she did. But as long as the guy is creepy in anyway, race doesn’t matter. Creepy is creepy.
Don’t feel offended by what me and K said to you. Its just our viewpoint. Maybe you’re not trying to understand it from our perspective. You read and comprehend but you still say its our monkey chatter. Part of it is, we know not all white guys who like asian girls are WASP or have fetishes ok? Its just the way they say it that sets them as that. Maybe you made a mistake in your wording.
But maybe Coach Khiem can offer some insight too? Regarding “asian fetish”?
Yo, Dan-Ohhh! My, it’s tough to get busted for a stereotype, isn’t it? I realize that we probably all look alike or sound alike or write alike even though we may be separated by decades…
I have dated the gamut of the rainbow coalition – both domestic and international – I do not discriminate. I have no preference apart from the usual western attitudes like women as equals instead of chattel, everybody counts – especially when they vote, sharing expenses with a man is a courtesy not an insult (but the ex bf would disagree), having different beliefs and opinions is normal and not a sign of mental deficiency, inferiority, or insanity.
Oops, you said not to get too deep. Too late! But those things are unknown until one gets to know the other person, right?
So, at the simplest level: I’m not attracted by blond hair or blue eyes but that is a superficial appearance in the minus column. However, as noted above, I do not discriminate and have dated some of both but it was in spite of not being superficially attracted to them. I grew up with a lot of different ethnic and racial minorities but Asians were rare. And in the interest of full disclosure, I should note that I am half Asian and I do have blue-eyed and/or blond-haired blood relatives that are over 6′ tall. Of course, I don’t date them… And being short, you really don’t care about height so that is also not an issue. It’s about who you are inside – if you have anything of value to show publicly – like a sense of humor, an interest in someone or something besides yourself, a flexible ego, and generosity of spirit. Et tu, Brute? How about those Greek women?
To Kismet:
>>>>>>You thought me and K were the same?
No, of course not…I just thought I was responding to her, no big deal.
>>>>>>No, we were both on the same boat.
Vietnam?
>>>>>>My guy friend treated me to Bdubs
Ok, what is Bdubs?
>>>>>>I’m much more of a radical person
Radical as in Yoko Ono?
>>>>>>>Don’t feel offended by what me and K said to you.
Offended? Not a chance!
>>>>>>>But maybe Coach Khiem can offer some insight too? Regarding “asian fetish”?
That would be neat…I bet he goes for the white girls because he wants to be like David:-)
To K:
>>>>>everybody counts – especially when they vote, sharing expenses with a man is a courtesy not an insult (but the ex bf would disagree), having different beliefs and opinions is normal and not a sign of mental deficiency, inferiority, or insanity.
kewl, I am starting to like you even more now:-)
>>>>>>>I grew up with a lot of different ethnic and racial minorities but Asians were rare. And in the interest of full disclosure, I should note that I am half Asian and I do have blue-eyed and/or blond-haired blood relatives that are over 6′ tall.
Aha, I knew you were not 100% Asian!
Way different than the stereotypical Asian like Kismet, lol:-)
You must be as beautiful as my daughter:-)
>>>>>>>It’s about who you are inside – if you have anything of value to show publicly – like a sense of humor, an interest in someone or something besides yourself, a flexible ego, and generosity of spirit.
Absolutely dear! Liked the last one!
>>>>>>>Et tu, Brute?
Ouch, that hurt. So whatdoyouwannaknow?
>>>>>>>How about those Greek women?
I left too young to get a first account. But they are far down my list IN GENERAL. Way too much attitude and image conscious for me.
And to think that you can’t get into baseball…they’re not all fat spitters…ever get a good look at Ichiro?
To Kismet:
>>>>>>You thought me and K were the same?
No, of course not…I just thought I was responding to her, no big deal.
>>>>>>No, we were both on the same boat.
Vietnam?
—NOPE
>>>>>>My guy friend treated me to Bdubs
Ok, what is Bdubs?
—Buffalo Wild Wings
>>>>>>I’m much more of a radical person
Radical as in Yoko Ono?
—NAH
>>>>>>>Don’t feel offended by what me and K said to you.
Offended? Not a chance!
–GOOD
>>>>>>>But maybe Coach Khiem can offer some insight too? Regarding “asian fetish”?
That would be neat…I bet he goes for the white girls because he wants to be like David:-)
—LMAO
>>>>>>>I grew up with a lot of different ethnic and racial minorities but Asians were rare. And in the interest of full disclosure, I should note that I am half Asian and I do have blue-eyed and/or blond-haired blood relatives that are over 6′ tall.
Aha, I knew you were not 100% Asian!
Way different than the stereotypical Asian like Kismet, lol:-)
You must be as beautiful as my daughter:-)
—I’m not stereotypical. I broke free of it. I define myself. I can be very far from my ethicity group sometimes because I don’t subject to the majority and mainstream.
———————
DTO:
Why does it sound like you’re turning the race issue into something you can make fun of [of me or asians]? For each thing I said, you’d place the stereotypical image/whatever after it. Seems like you’re trying to spite me in a light way.
Kismet – I think he’s just trying to make points with us since he married one…you know, a warped version of “We Are Family…”
Huh? I don’t understand it, especially the “We are Family.” Be more blunt? haha
It was a popular song from the 1979 (yes, well before your time) by an R&B group named Sister Sledge…good beat, girl singers, very hip for its day – I’m sure that you can find it on the web. You’ll understand when you hear it.
I’m just saying that I think that DTO is doing his version of bonding with us because his wife is Asian. So he just likes to mess with us, the flirt…
Hi my Asian bunnies:-)
You got one right, I do like to mess with you….like I do with everyone else.
>>>>>>>Why does it sound like you’re turning the race issue into something you can make fun of [of me or asians]?
Because it is so much fun!!!
Sister Sledge??? We are family???I don’t get it either…
see you at another more recent blog…trying to catch up again
Jonathon,
Thanks for your comments…this reallly helps others to realise what is truely possible.
keep on having fun…
Johnnylove,
Try engaging with everyone every single day. Engage with the guy who sells you the newspaper, the girl who sells you a ticket for the train…make everyone elses day just a little better and your energy will lift immediately. sad lonely people are that way because they dont engage with the world around them. You must make the first move..not just the cute girls but anyone and your energy will rise….enjoy