One day, David… you’ll hear of me or Jack picking up a girl after stopping the car

@Saffan:

You should ask her out. If you like her, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t ask her out. If you want to make it natural and not weird, just find reasons to talk to her and hang out. Studying together could be a reason… or asking her for a favor (shopping for clothes… or asking her to use any of her expertise in something you want to do).

You don’t always have to ask her out officially. You can just start by talking to her and hanging out with her. By doing so, she’ll start getting more comfortable around you and as long as you are flirting and keeping things fun, you are only a short step away from going out on a date with her.

@Mike:

Most of the time, as long as you act as if what you did was not awkward, the girl won’t feel awkward. Obviously, for the next encounter, make sure to talk a bit more. Generally speaking, it feels awkward for most people to be approached and be asked one question only before the other person leaves.

It doesn’t really matter what you tell her as much as you listen to her and relate to her. She told you she was waiting on someone… you could have related to that… or you could have asked more questions and gone deeper.

“Really? don’t you have a car? It must be nice to have a friend who can pick you up like this”

Just talk… by talking, you build familiarity…. you build rapport… and eventually, maybe you can discover that you have a lot of things in common for you to build a true real connection

ok there is this girl in my math class,….Today i saw her sitting alone waiting on the bench, as i was on the way to my class, i approached her and said ” Hey how u doing, waiting for some1 to pick u up?” she was like “yea” and i didnt know what to say next then i said “i have to go to class now so see ya later”, i know it was a bad approach lol…but i was wondering what would she, or any other girl, think about it?? and would she feel awkward when she see me again in class? because i barely know her, i only talked to her once, dont know if she’s attracted to me though. Will i have any chance if I’ve made a bad approach? cuz i feel awkward seeing her again lol.”

Thanks for sharing your flirting experience with us. I want to share a few things with you that might be very valuable in your interactions with the opposite sex: 1. What makes you feel like this interaction was horrible? I know a lot of guys that I take out on with me who have a hard time even saying anything with a woman. So great job on getting the conversation going! 2. Second, lets look at this conversation piece more as what can we learn from interaction. 3. One thing that David has guys do is first observe. So, if you haven’t read his Sunday assignment check it out! And get the notebook so you can start writing your observations down. Before and after is even more powerful especially if you know the person and she is in your Math Class. 4. Sometimes it’s a matter of starting the conversation with simple open ended question: How’s your day going? or Hey, your the cool girl in my math class! Wait for her reply. If you don’t get a lot of information you can always repeat back what she says! Then roll into how come she’s not at home studying versus chilling at the beach! There is no right or wrong for this. It’s more important to enjoy the process and to find a way to have fun with the flirting!

I don’t think nobody knows at all about when exactly will the Forums be up and runnin. How i wish it will be not too long from today.

You are forbidden to post here until you ask her out!

You panicked and hit the eject button. David has done several blogs on this topic, check them out. My guess is she wouldn’t feel awkward when she next sees you because all you did was say hi and ask a simple question, it was just a casual interaction. Next time make an observation and throw it out there, see how she responds. If you see her waiting on the bench again you could make a joke about how she’s always waiting around for you. or you could even buy two coffees and tell her that you thought you’d come keep her company while she waits cos she looks so sad and lonely on the bench