Its Saturday and I thought all of you could use a great laugh to start your weekend!!!
Many times people who are dating on the internet are absolutely terrified to see the person in real life. You never know if the person is going to look like their photo. You hope that they do, but many times they don’t.
I have a rule of thumb about internet dating: pick out the worst photo of the four or five that they post, and assume that this is how they actually look. If they look any better than their worst photo, then that’s great. That’s better than being disappointed!
It’s tough getting really excited about somebody on the internet and then meeting them to find that they look nothing like their photo. So I’d like to introduce a new form of dating to you: drive-by dating.
Here it is: you met somebody on the internet, maybe you’ve chatted on the phone with them for ten or 15 minutes, but you’re not quite sure about them. Perhaps they’ve intrigued you a little bit, but you don’t really know yet.
So what do you do? You download one of their photos, you print it out and tape it to your dashboard. Make an agreement that the two of you are going to drive by each other and check each other out.
Pick a busy street – for example, in LA I live near San Vicente Boulevard – and then plan to drive by each other in an intersection. If you like each other, you make a U-turn and you hang out! If you don’t like each other, you just keep driving along.
It’s drive-by dating! It’s the hottest new thing. Now you don’t have to invest any time in a coffee shop talking to each other, and you certainly don’t have to waste any time at dinner swapping life stories that you’ve already told 100 other people.
In this way you can figure out if you are attracted to somebody. It always comes down to the carnal: are you attracted to each other or not?
So I think that from now on, when it comes down to internet dating, instead of coffee, suggest a drive-by date! Make a decision of where you are going to drive by each other. Text each other: “I’m at the intersection of San Vicente and Barrington, and I’m about to drive by you.”
You wave, you look at each other and you do a Siskel and Roeper: thumbs up or thumbs down. If it’s thumbs up, make a U-turn and go meet at Starbucks. If not, no time wasted!
So there you have it. That’s how I think you should conduct your internet dating. It’s called drive-by dating.
Todays video is the truth behind what women really think when they see you on the street.
Have a great Saturday!
Ha! Ha! Ha! Oh man – that is hilarious! Do people really do that? Ha! ha! Ha! That is so funny!
That’s being really safe!
This is the next step in the evolution of speed dating. Who needs to waste their time actually getting to know someone or having a real conversation when you can just drive by.
Just be careful David in CA you are telling people to do something illegal (texting while driving).
Hi David,
I sent you an email regarding a first date but I am not sure if you received it yet. Below is my situation.
I am currently making alot of friends in my college and whenever I show up in any class, everyone especially women are always willing to talk to me because I have been following your advice which you have mentioned in your Mastery series. Long story short. I am attracted to alot of women but there is this one girl who is very shy and always smiles whenever she see me around. She always stares at me and gets jealous a little bit whenever I talk to other women. When I see an opportunity to talk to this girl, she always seems shy and never gives me clear answers. She is currently a senior and majoring in Marketing. For example, when I ask her what made her decide to major in marketing. Her response wasn’t clear. She said ” I don’t know I just like selling things.” But to me there were no clear answers. I know she likes me and even my friend have noticed that as well. I don’t know if I should ask her out or not.
What is your advice?
Need some advice from girls or anybody?
ok there is this girl in my math class,….Today i saw her sitting alone waiting on the bench, as i was on the way to my class, i approached her and said ” Hey how u doing, waiting for some1 to pick u up?” she was like “yea” and i didnt know what to say next then i said “i have to go to class now so see ya later”, i know it was a bad approach lol…but i was wondering what would she, or any other girl, think about it?? and would she feel awkward when she see me again in class? because i barely know her, i only talked to her once, dont know if she’s attracted to me though. Will i have any chance if I’ve made a bad approach? cuz i feel awkward seeing her again lol.
Hi David,
I sent you an email regarding a first date but I am not sure if you received it yet. Below is my situation.
I am currently making alot of friends in my college and whenever I show up in any class, everyone especially women are always willing to talk to me because I have been following your advice which you have mentioned in your Mastery series. Long story short. I am attracted to alot of women but there is this one girl who is very shy and always smiles whenever she see me around. She always stares at me and gets jealous a little bit whenever I talk to other women. When I see an opportunity to talk to this girl, she always seems shy and never gives me clear answers. She is currently a senior and majoring in Marketing. For example, when I ask her what made her decide to major in marketing. Her response wasn’t clear. She said ” I don’t know I just like selling things.” But to me there were no clear answers. I know she likes me and even my friend have noticed that as well. I don’t know if I should ask her out or not.
What is your advice?
(David, it’s me Reva..revababy is my username when I log in…anyways)
wow! I have never thought of doing this new idea. Drive-by dating huh, cool… For me, I never send text messages while driving, even though I’m on a stop due to a red light. So I guess in my case, I’ll just make a phone call. lol. And true, we should all pick a very busy street to do this, otherwise, there’s a high chance an accident will happen if you drive in a 35 or 40 zone while risking our safety by checking out another driver. Oh and if busy streets couldn’t be located, residential areas are always available, the 25 zone.
Wow, that’s an awesome idea. Like that idea alot. However, you just have to play it safe when it concerns other drivers. Another thing, is there’s a risk of causing an accident while texting and looking for this other person’s car. Also, what if the other person doesn’t “show up” and you’ve wasted 30 mins driving and looking for this other person, although, you can call each other on the way to let each other know where you’re at.
Okay, I’m laughing and I really can’t think of anything worthy to say. You did make me laugh though, which today I needed, so thank you.
Mike
You panicked and hit the eject button. David has done several blogs on this topic, check them out. My guess is she wouldn’t feel awkward when she next sees you because all you did was say hi and ask a simple question, it was just a casual interaction. Next time make an observation and throw it out there, see how she responds. If you see her waiting on the bench again you could make a joke about how she’s always waiting around for you. or you could even buy two coffees and tell her that you thought you’d come keep her company while she waits cos she looks so sad and lonely on the bench
I will definitely try this idea. Although safety should be taken care of while doing this, i’d rather do this than think of an escape plan later on. hahaha..
Does anyone know if David has hinted about when the Forums will be up and running??
saffan:
You are forbidden to post here until you ask her out!
Great idea! I hate to waste time ha.
Carver..
I don’t think nobody knows at all about when exactly will the Forums be up and runnin. How i wish it will be not too long from today.
“Need some advice from girls or anybody?
ok there is this girl in my math class,….Today i saw her sitting alone waiting on the bench, as i was on the way to my class, i approached her and said ” Hey how u doing, waiting for some1 to pick u up?” she was like “yea” and i didnt know what to say next then i said “i have to go to class now so see ya later”, i know it was a bad approach lol…but i was wondering what would she, or any other girl, think about it?? and would she feel awkward when she see me again in class? because i barely know her, i only talked to her once, dont know if she’s attracted to me though. Will i have any chance if I’ve made a bad approach? cuz i feel awkward seeing her again lol.”
Thanks for sharing your flirting experience with us. I want to share a few things with you that might be very valuable in your interactions with the opposite sex: 1. What makes you feel like this interaction was horrible? I know a lot of guys that I take out on with me who have a hard time even saying anything with a woman. So great job on getting the conversation going! 2. Second, lets look at this conversation piece more as what can we learn from interaction. 3. One thing that David has guys do is first observe. So, if you haven’t read his Sunday assignment check it out! And get the notebook so you can start writing your observations down. Before and after is even more powerful especially if you know the person and she is in your Math Class. 4. Sometimes it’s a matter of starting the conversation with simple open ended question: How’s your day going? or Hey, your the cool girl in my math class! Wait for her reply. If you don’t get a lot of information you can always repeat back what she says! Then roll into how come she’s not at home studying versus chilling at the beach! There is no right or wrong for this. It’s more important to enjoy the process and to find a way to have fun with the flirting!
Jack and I don’t do drive-by dating but we definitely do drive-by checking out! Sometimes, we get really close to actually stopping and approaching these women.
One day, David… you’ll hear of me or Jack picking up a girl after stopping the car
@Saffan:
You should ask her out. If you like her, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t ask her out. If you want to make it natural and not weird, just find reasons to talk to her and hang out. Studying together could be a reason… or asking her for a favor (shopping for clothes… or asking her to use any of her expertise in something you want to do).
You don’t always have to ask her out officially. You can just start by talking to her and hanging out with her. By doing so, she’ll start getting more comfortable around you and as long as you are flirting and keeping things fun, you are only a short step away from going out on a date with her.
@Mike:
Most of the time, as long as you act as if what you did was not awkward, the girl won’t feel awkward. Obviously, for the next encounter, make sure to talk a bit more. Generally speaking, it feels awkward for most people to be approached and be asked one question only before the other person leaves.
It doesn’t really matter what you tell her as much as you listen to her and relate to her. She told you she was waiting on someone… you could have related to that… or you could have asked more questions and gone deeper.
“Really? don’t you have a car? It must be nice to have a friend who can pick you up like this”
Just talk… by talking, you build familiarity…. you build rapport… and eventually, maybe you can discover that you have a lot of things in common for you to build a true real connection