Comments on: Don’t Be Joe Jerk

By: It’s Time To Walk Away | Dating Tips and Dating Advice by David Wygant

Thu, 05 Aug 2010 16:33:31 +0000

[...] we talked about guys who act like an ass in the bar. For any of you who didn’t catch that other blog, I talked about how to deal with the annoying guy (who we’ll call “Mr. Attitude”) [...]

By: chris

chris — Sun, 28 Mar 2010 00:21:28 +0000

thats so true guys at bars always do that

By: Kev

Kev — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 16:12:14 +0000

David couldn’t you use the power of the walk away, find her later, and say “wow! that guy was an asshole, am I right?”

By: Coach Kimberly

Coach Kimberly — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 05:30:14 +0000

Ben–I agree with Khiem. It’s all in your delivery and confidence. It has nothing to do with your looks. In fact, if a good looking guy said whispered the same thing in an insecure way that would be a turn off! It’s all about confidence and sex appeal.

Dare ya to try it and get back to us!

By: chevon

chevon — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 04:00:38 +0000

quick question why u call it joe the jerk?

By: Khiem (DW Coach)

Khiem (DW Coach) — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 01:03:28 +0000

Ben,

Why do you feel that the whisper approach can only work with really confident or really good-looking guys?

The whisper approach shows tact and social savviness. If you see a girl is not into a guy, you CAN be her savior…. but you have to do it in a charming way… which doesn’t compromise her “reputation” with the current guy she’s talking to.

More importantly, it’s about your delivery. Can you talk to the girl in a casual and fun and playful way? If you do it right, a girl will give you a chance.

By: Nathalie

Nathalie — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 21:41:42 +0000

I’ve come across this “Joe Jerk” type of guy many a time. Honestly, there a couple of different ways to handle this (and I have done them).

1. If I was talking to a guy and Joe Jerk came over to act the way described above, I would look over and say “Do I know you??” or “Are you still talking?” Trust me when I say, they walk away with their tail between their legs.

2. If I was unfortunate enough to be stuck talking with Joe Jerk, I would a) Walk away on my own
b) Start looking around and make eye contact with some guy hoping he’ll come over to rescue me. Once, he’s looking, I do the head nod of come here. Mr Nice guy comes over and I all of a sudden exclaim “Billy, I didn’t see you walk in”…introduce him as my boyfriend. “Goodbye Joe Jerk”
c) Look around see a guy or group of guys and say to Joe Jerk “Gotta go, my boyfriend is right over there waiting for me” then walk up to the guy/guys and say “sorry to bother you, just pretend you’re with me so I can get rid of that guy over there”

So my advice to any man out there, is do not just walk up to some woman who you “might” think needs your help. You will definitely know the signs of a girl in trouble. Even with a guy in front of her acting like a moron, she will make eye contact with you and probably do a head nod of come here or like the above picture she will be basically bent over backwards trying to keep herself away as far away from him without being too rude.

By: jimmy

jimmy — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 20:34:53 +0000

Jacob: totally agree about believing in ourself, because in the end its all about what you think about you not what some other guy who you don’t know well thinks.

By: Coach Jacob

Coach Jacob — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 20:33:47 +0000

Tony

Its really about believing in yourself. When you really believe in your abilities no jerk will have any power over you. Were ever in a situation like this?

By: Tony

Tony — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 20:32:47 +0000

This is powerful you show us to stand up for ourself and not care what other thinks of us.