Comments on: Don’t Be A “Yes Man”

By: Miguel

Miguel — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 13:21:40 +0000

Great post today David! Brilliant picture too. I knew you’d have that in your blog!

I gotta agree with you there. There has to be a balance of saying yes and saying no. Just like what Terrence said at the end of the movie that :No, that’s not the point. Well, maybe at first it is, but that’s just to open you up to it — to get you started. Then you’re saying yes not because you have to, to because a covenant tells you to, but because you know in your heart that you want to”

So yeah, saying no is good too because it enforces in giving us identity! I mean, how can I grow as a person if I keep agreeing to everything? In life, not everyone will like you for who you are. So stick with those who do tolerate your bullshit and love yourself!

Great post again David.

By: Cathy J

Cathy J — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 00:59:10 +0000

Markus, I like your comment and agree.

In today’s world the younger generation (late teens and 20 somethings) have this concept of everything being equal including in a marriage and even parenting.

Working with this age group just last week (which included people from Europe and Asia) it was not until we did a big role/responsibility table on the whiteboard that they could actually see that men and women are different. Women naturally nurture whereas men naturally command more authority. Women will cover their men (and their weaknesses) while men protect their women.

In trying to get this group to see that two heads can often lead to heading in two different directions, I compared it to the man as the head and the woman as the neck (remember the scene from ‘Big Fat Greek Wedding’). A woman can use her influence with her man, but I do strongly agree that it is up to men to lead.

By: Markus

Markus — Sun, 29 Aug 2010 00:01:54 +0000

Thats a great concept, David, and I would even take this one step further. Don’t be a yes man, and even be a person that gets “yes” from other people. If you get a woman to say yes to your suggestions, she wil feel you are a leader. And this gives you enormous attraction value. So don’t say yes to her proposals all the time, but make the proposals or decisions yourself and make her say yes to them and thus lead her.

By: Cathy J

Cathy J — Sat, 28 Aug 2010 00:57:21 +0000

Perhaps the “yes” at the seminar was to motivate the procrastinators into action….. hmmm

Regardless, being a ‘yes’ man or woman AKA ‘People Pleaser’ does not get you far in life. In this scenario you are giving away your power and letting others control you and your happiness.

Why not develop yourself – work out what your values are and what you stand for? Then if need be fight for that, then let everything else wash over.

Choose your battles. Enjoy life!

By: Collin

Collin — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 05:47:24 +0000

It’s so much more rewarding to earn the agreement of somebody than to just have them say yes all the time, and when they say it, you know they mean it.

By: Farley

Farley — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 18:59:49 +0000

Hahaha, genius one.

Ask the a yes man/woman if they are gay…..I would bet that 9 out of 10 times they will say No.

I used to be “yes man” around women whom I find attractive. I did not want them to dislike me. By doing this I was putting value on them instead of putting value on myself.
Nowadays, I sometimes still drift off into this bad habit, but I snap myself out of it as soon as I sense this.

Speaking your mind gains respect from people, even if they don’t agree with you. Being a “yes man” does not.

I personally tend to stay away from “yes people” and those who play “hard to get” to the point of no return.

Again, great blog