Ten years ago I made a fan site for a cheesy movie and I included my real name on the site somewhere. I had a job interview and had the potential employer ask me about the site.

I call myself “Mack Tight”. Maybe it is a silly nickname. I am not trying to be “phony” or be arrogant. I am simply protecting my identity using a fun and unique alias just as Mystery did. Many of the pickup gurus who have names that sound real are actually using alias too. If I was making enough money that I could be self-employed I wouldn’t be concerned about using my real name but that is not the case at this time.

I am going to digress rather than continue, because I am not sure at this point if the fact that your response don’t seem to be specifically related to the EXACT words I wrote, is a result or your not reading closely enough or my not writing clearly enough. Either way I agree with what you both say for the most part, so we really have no difference worth disputing

That is great advice for Simon.

Simon you need to dial it back and gain that confidence.

The mind is a very powerful thing and right now you are thinking too much and not just reacting to what is going on.

The magazine woman is exactly what i am talking about.

If that is your favorite magazine you should have plenty to talk about with her. You need to start talking and stop thinking so much.

Anything interesting in the magazine.
You could have said that and if you said it with a smile and confidence the conversation would start rolling.

Its all the way you say things….with your voice tone and everything.

I cant begin to tell you that you need to look into some private coaching.

One hour with me on the phone will really help you out.

I also record all the coaching calls so you will be able to listen to what we discuss over and over till you can understand how simple i will make this for you.

As why i posted that video…..I want people to understand the powerful difference between being real and being a show.
Writing this blog is a passion for me and putting out great products and coaching as well.

I am glad you are here.

David’s ‘tactics’ as I see them, (and I’m not his spokesperson or anything, I’m just voicing my opinion here) are designed to assist the people who for one reason or another find conveying THEIR OWN thoughts and personal traits to other people very hard to do. Like drawing it out with a sponge. Its already there, but the social phobias and often just lack of knowledge about how to go about it, hold the person back. I see it as like the spark that ignites the fuel that has been lurking within.

Let me tell you from years of experience dealing with my own fluctuating levels of confidence and self esteem, these things are NOT “tactics or any other thing you care to call them.” These things go right to the core of your existence, and when you have no confidence in yourself, you essentially have nothing.

Forget picking up chicks and being the life of the party for a moment. Confidence and a belief in yourself affects everything you do, be it career, social life and personal life. I think you are on the right track in your post about learning the skills to approach people and start conversation, no one denies these things must be learned. But its the bit before that, before you even approach another person, when you’re comfortable within yourself that needs to be addressed first.

what I am saying is this, and this is a difficult concept for me to convey at 6 in the morning from Maryland, since I am just waking up, but I will do my best. What I am saying is that no one comes into life with any personality traits or socially learned means of communicating to anyone, whether of the opposite gender or not. They are all learned. My basic premise, therefore, is going to be that all life is a method or tactic. I know those words sound potentially bad, but hear me out. Lets say you are a man who sees a woman in a bookstore who is reading, Foreign Policy Digest, your favorite magazine, and you would like to talk to her, what do you do? Before you answer, suppose you had never learned that you could approach a total stranger in a bookstore and talk to them. Your mother never told you this, your father never did, your 6th cousin 7 times removed from Senegal never did. Nor did your super successful with the ladies best friend ever tell you. You want to engage her in a conversation, but you need a way to do it. Well from a purely analytical point of view, what do we need here. We need tactics, which if you look up the definition, are simply means of accomplishing a task successfully. So we call up David Wygant and tell him about the situation. He and he gives you the tactic, which is to walk up to her, notice that she is reading your favorite magazine, and make a comment to her about it to open the conversation.

And it is my take that this is all of what life is, at its fundamental core. We have something we need to accomplish, so we learn a proper means to do it. Even saying “I love you” is just a way to express our emotion and convey to another person how much you care about them. Think about it, you don’t tell them, they smell funny, or have poor posture. You learned this particular means, long ago, for properly expressing this one very deep feeling. It is a tactic. It is not manipulative, it is real, it is genuine, but it is a learned way to accomplish something you otherwise would not know how to do.

And too, being confident and all the things you mentioned in your post are tactics, we just prefer to call them other things, like exuding confidence and living life without fear of rejection.

David,

I have never thought of you as part of the pickup community either, even though you have Heartwork, who is a PUA working for Vin Dicarlo and SargeNation, which is a pick up community website on your blog roll, and have appeared on David DeAngelo and Pickup Podcast products.
I simply call it ‘game’ because I have not been clever enough to think of a better word.

I really enjoy your Mastery Series and the blog, I just wonder is a post like this doesn’t have underlying it, just a bit of the marketing of differentiation to try to avoid being lumped into the seduction community, since that community is not looked at so favorable by the mainstream? It would be fine if it was, as while I am aware of the community, I don’t consider myself a part, even though I do do some stuff in it.

So I have read your linked blogs and the one you attached and I am unsure what you where trying to get me to see. I just see natural game from your perspective, which is completely congruent with the style of the schools I mentioned in my first post. This is great. The purpose seems to be to communicate and have fun with woman we meet just as those schools would have us do and to create social proof, as those schools would have us do as well. Is there something I am missing?

Oh, I agree and respect your decision not to use a nickname. Whenever I have spoken to a person about Charisma Arts, I alway call the guy who started it Wayne Elise, not his nickname, Juggler.

Another great post today……..the comments keep getting deeper and deeper.
Thanks for your posts today.