Don’t Be A Human Diaper
March 4, 2010 
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Never be looking for validation from other people. If you changed yourself every time someone said something about you, you would be nothing more than a human diaper.
The only people in your life who should prompt change in you are your close friends and family. Feedback should only be listened to in retrospect, and only from people you love and trust.
Strangers know nothing about who you really are. So when they pass judgment on you, they are doing so based on nothing but superficial things.
Think about this the next time you care about what a stranger things about you. Ask yourself, “On what are they basing their opinion, and since they don’t know me why do I even care?”
So many of us spend so much time really just obsessed with other people’s opinions of us. Think about how often you do this.
How many times when a person you’ve approached and with whom you flirted didn’t acknowledge you, did you think “God I must be ugly. I must be a loser. What did I do wrong?”
In life, the only people’s opinions you should care about are those that come from people you respect, know, love and trust. Otherwise you end up becoming a human diaper.
Ever time someone shits on you, you’re going to need to change. That is what a human diaper is: somebody who needs to be changed every day.
“Oh my God, that stranger on the subway didn’t like me. I need to change.” “Oh my God, that person said something mean to me. I need to change.” You’ll be changing your diaper so much, people will start to call you Pampers.
You don’t want to be a human diaper. You want to be someone who respects themselves, and only has a small circle of people whose opinions you respect. The truth is that the only person who can change you, and who should have the power to change or to influence you, is yourself. 
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Very well said I will humbly admit that right now I’m a human diaper:) and i need to change soon because I’m not getting the result I really want.
There is no worse place than getting stuck in your own human diaper.
its a crazy world, every little things want us to change, we always feel like we don’t belong, we are not enough, and all we want to do is change and change. That’s why self love is so darn important!
I want to share this cool quote from the movie fight club since today’s blog kind of pertains to it…..
Fuck off with your sofa units and strine green stripe patterns, I say never be complete, I say stop being perfect, I say let… lets evolve, let the chips fall where they may.
Nice quote Billy and a great movie as well.
This is a disease that’s going around and around, one of our biggest goal should be to get rid of this change attitude and love ourself.
Its so easy to say all this but very hard to do.
This is exactly how i feel David. Its amazing how lot of your blogs just hit the spot for me.
The MMS program is just mind-blowing love it!!!
It really explains how so many people think alike and so therefore so many people really succeed.
Anonymous
I think you meant so few people sexceed right:) ?
Clint
Have you listened to the whole program? Sounds like you’re really getting a great condense boost from it.
Billy
I love that movie and the message. The first time I saw It I was a bit confused but it gets better the second time. Is that also one of your top favorite?
Coach Jacob- i absolutely love and love that movie, its def. my top favorite. I saw it so many times that i lost count lol
Jacob:
I meant so few people SEXSEED:)
Its not a good feeling to always needing to change my diaper. So what is the best solution is it really more self love or what then?
I thought Fight Club was terrible. Babe Ruth…ever try simply not giving a shit?
Wow. That hit me right between the eyes, haha. I actually had a guy tell me to stop cutting my hair so it can grow longer. Plenty of other people have complimented me on the way I do it now. So, I told him, ‘You’ve never seen me with long hair, you don’t know what I look like. How can you be so sure it would be any better?’ He said, ‘I’m just trying to help you.’ Wha… what the? It’s times like that when I do feel like a human diaper, because I actually thought about doing what he said.
Amy..love your example. I’m glad you are doing the hair the way YOU like and feel good about it!
Babe Ruth–what fills your diaper? Empty it and pick a diaper that you like and are comfortable with and stop changing it! The answer is finding a diaper you like and can be content with then it won’t matter what other people fill it with:)
Amy, is it usually guys complimenting you on how you cut your hair, or girls? I can guarantee you that guys will find you more attractive if you have longer hair. It’s up to you to decide whether or not cutting your hair the way you do is important though.
As for being a human diaper, I used to be the biggest one you’ve ever seen. I’ve ruined probably hundreds of potential friendships and potential dating relationships by being a giant human diaper. A couple weeks before the new year started was when I started to change. It hasn’t been long, so I’m definitely still in process, but I had to figure out who I really wanted to be, what I considered important, my goals in dating, etc. It’s helped me with new relationships a ton, and improved some old relationships, but a lot of damage had been done by trying to please everybody. Fixing that shit takes a lot of time.
Back from an awesome date, we talked until restaurant closing (we do that often). Dave, I think I got that feeling you talked about. I smiled all the way back home. She inspired me and accepts me for who I am.
Human diaper…hmmm i know the feeling, I still am at certain parts in Life. I remember back in my teen years I was a human diaper, or as an ex-classmate recently told me that I was a ticking timebomb waiting to explode…lol. No wonder I kept hearing from my female classmates: “F, What do you care what others think of you?”. No wonder one of the things women find attractive is a man who does not care what others think of him.
Right now where I’m at in life I’m pretty much over the human diaper thing, still working on improvement though.
I read a quote somewhere, don’t remember from who it was, but it goes a little something like this:
“Never make what other people thnk of you more important than what you think of yourself”.
Peace out
Kevin-that’s too bad why you think it was terrible?
Another way of looking at this would be: are you internally movitated or externally movited, External means that your reacting to what everyone outside of you says or does and you react with various negative reactions. This means your either having a good day (being validated in a positive way) or a bad day because your reacting to negativity. This makes a tough life because one thing we know for sure is that humans are unpredictible. So in the long run it pays to work on internal validation (by yourself) to move though life.
Great blog i feel like this sometimes,i’m in need of repair i gonna try saying what’s on my mind for one day and see what happens.
Yeah you have to focus on what you put into something and not be dependent on the outcome.