Hold off on texting. There was this one chick who works at the gym that i met and we’d talk and I never really asked for her number, but when I did she said, Finally, i was waiting for you to ask. So I texted her and she texted back and then i texted again and that was it. No response. I guess some girls don’t like to text a lot. So I called and she never answered. So I’m wondering what her deal is and leave a message saying I just called to say hi. I asked her once, Why is it that you never text me? And she was like, i don’t know. After that I don’t text her. Whatever, she’s not into me that way. A chick will text a dude if she likes him. So if she’s not responding, just let her be and in time if she is interested in spending more time she will call or text you. Don’t text her everyday. Wait a few days and see what happens. In the meantime, occupy yourself in meeting more girls and take them on recession dates: for coffee! Get more numbers and then you’ll be texting like crazy.

I had as many of us probably have the same problem of unreturned texts like you did. Firstly, one can get pretty attached to the outcome with just one girl as I’m currently am and with guys especially, we want something clear-cut. I’d suggest getting more numbers and dating more girls simultaneously, that would take away the sting from any one girl. More concretely, there are girls who are really busy and that’s a fact. There was one girl where it took me 2 months before I finally met her in person with long-delayed texts in between… when I finally saw her I literally didn’t recognize her anymore, thought it was an entirely different person.

Secondly, giving her a call may be best in this situation after all these texts. There was one girl where I texted her and she took days to answer each one with the last one unanswered for over a week, but when I called she answered right away saying she was gonna text me, we went out after that. What I’m saying is that each person is different and there’s no use second guessing these situations, just go in, be decisive, and keep playing!

MY SITUATION
I met this girl through a friend.
She’s 10 years younger (still in college).
It took me two e-mails before she answered.
The friend who introduced us told me she is always busy (two jobs and college).

We went out last week.
Wonderful dinner in NYC. Good time. She would’ve hung out longer; I put her in a cab. And she said she would see me soon. She texted me when she got home to thank me again and to say she had a great time.

I then texted her a day later asking for her schedule for the weekend.
She was all booked with work and bday party.

I responded that I had a good restaurant and movie picked out (movies and restaurants were part of our conversation at dinner).

She did not respond to that.

Then a day later I texted again commenting on a crazy story I read about her college. I injected some humor, and mentioned what I was doing for the day.

Still no response.

Would I hurt my chances by contacting her again before hearing from her?

My take on her personality:
She’s very pretty, but described herself as a nerd in hs.
Seems very mature and responsible.
Doesn’t appear to be very broken emotionally.
Seems independent; not needy.
Obviously busy schedule.
She seems to like nice weather – the outdoors; restaurants; movies; reading; art.

What are your suggestions?

Fortunately, we live in more enlightened times where we recognize that some women make more than men and we’re trying to be a little more considerate of each other. I’ve known guys who felt that only a wimp would let a woman pay so they over-extended themselves because it was really only their ego talking, not their common sense. For some, it was just what they were most comfortable with – for others, it was their expectation that the women “put out.” Sometimes, we pay for at least the parking or the tip – whatever – to make certain that we get to make some financial contribution. I guess for guys in large cities, “event”-type dates are the norm and that can get pretty pricey very quickly. I feel sorry for you guys who have to put up with that crap. Too bad that we can’t just be a little more honest about these things without offending each other so easily.