Does Size Matter?
September 1, 2007 
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A post about our acceptance of genitals in modern society by David Wygant
I get this question from men all the time: “David, does size really matter to women?”
Ladies, I expect some amazing comments on this blog today. I don’t have a vagina the last time I checked, and the last time I looked down below I was pretty adequate.
There seem to be a lot of guys who carry around the stigma of having a small penis. Seemingly there’s a woman at some time in these guy’s life that made them feel tiny and insignificant.
Before we dive deeper into this, I’ve never once in my life heard women have similar complaints about their vagina. I never hear women ask me what they can do about these kind of problems:
“My vagina is so wide, it’s like the Lincoln Tunnel during rush hour.” or
“My vagina is so tight that it’s like being stuck in a West Virginia coal mine.” or
“My vagina is so shallow that it just spits a penis out the minute it comes in.”
You just don’t hear women really bitching about their vagina. The reason why women don’t bitch about their vagina is because that vagina gives them many orgasms.
I’ve been with women who are very orgasmic, and at the end of a great sex session I get a little vagina envy. I’d love to have one one day to see what it’s like . . . I’d blog about it and call it “My Day With A Vagina.” That, however, is a blog for another day . . .
Whatever equipment you possess, whether it’s a small penis or a wide vagina, you need to learn to use the equipment with which you’re blessed. If you have a small penis, I suggest you become a master at foreplay so that by the time you use you’re small penis you’ll be able to work wonders with Underdog.
Women have told me time and time again that it’s not the girth of your swollen member, it’s the way the swollen member massages the walls. There’s nothing you can do if you have a small penis.
Sure, you can buy some of those penis patches they sell on the Internet, but the bottom line is that it’s not the size of your Johnson that matters. It’s the way you use it.
You must learn how to be a better lover in every which way, so that when you insert your penis into her body she’ll feel like the Statue of Liberty is entering her. It’s all about playing into your strengths so your weaknesses don’t show.
It’s time you stopped thinking about “does size matter? Instead, it’s time you started becoming an amazing lover.
LOL! Kudos on this blog David! Your “brain” is in full gear on this one;)
Well, since I am such a penal professional, lol let me be the first to comment here.
I had many years of a well endowed penis available to me; did it work well? Hell ya! That is one area there was never problems.
Experience with others? Wouldn’t you like to know!!?!;)
Let me just ditto you here David. If you have your foreplay skill down, and don a smaller than you’d like penis, let me inform you;
SIZE DOES NOT MATTER! When you penetrate and you know how to “work it” there is no reason not to be able to please a woman.
If you are on the smaller side, your best method of effective penetration is bring it from behind when you are ready for insertion;) We have discussed the G-Spot here more than once on this forum. It “hits the spot” when you are coming in from that angle–big or small. The G-Spot is so so close to the entrance point, you don’t have to have an extension pole to please! You are right there, so do what you know how to do! It is about the in and out tease that continually stimulates that hot spot and YES—causes a woman to orgasm. You also have easy access to “other” stimulus points in this position.
Guys, we have different levels of feeling an orgasm. It can be full on, muscle tightening pleasure, and it can also be wave after wave of just as intense pleasure, just in waves and not one big burst of explosion.
Soooo, DO NOT delude yourself into believing because you don’t have “the big 10,” you are not worthy enough to please a woman. I am sure (NO, not from experiece) there are men who are king kongs who don’t know thing one how to use their dongs:) Be encouraged oh ye of smaller size!
Like David said, know your foreplay, put in INTO play, and you’re gonna be ok! Don’t blame your penis size for the inability to please. You are in control of the “joy stick,” so know the rules of the game and play until you win!!!
All the nifty nerves that cause all that pleasure are in the first inch or so of the vagina. Plain and simple size really doesn’t matter. I’d say any woman who was obsessed with finding a humongous member isn’t doing it right in the first place. Then you hear all the arguments about how it stretches for babies ad nauseum, but I really don’t want to have a baby every time I have sex. As I recall birth, it was painful. Foreplay is really what its all about. Simple insertion might get you off, but the real fun is in finding what makes your partner giddy, squirm, and excited beyond belief. Its like taking a hike….yes you get your exercise which was the point of going, but you enjoy the scenery, sometimes the company (if you’re lucky), and the way being where you’re at makes you feel.
Bertie:
Could not have said it better myself! How are you BTW?
The first inch! So hey, if you got 2 1/2″..no exuses! Now, I don’t think the creator of man has short changed in such a manner, but if so—it DOESN’T matter!
I addition to all this, a little enlightenment–OMG–No pun intended–really it just came out this way, lol promise:)
If there is problem in getting a full erection and keeping it, there is a natural supplement you can add to your daily doses called L-Arginine. I call it, “L-Arge nine” lol just because I think—it is funny;) When I worked in the gym, guys boasted of the effectiveness of this product. You would have thought I had a penis the way some of them talked around me, but when you work in that environment as a woman, and they know where you stand, you BECUM one of the guys! lol Thats ok though. I just walked away when the respect factor was ignored.
So, if thats the problem, don’t go for the Viagra, unless absolutely necessary! Get the supplement, do your homework on certain exercises you can perform, and go have some awesome relations!
you’re right Joan, L- Arginine or AKG and also l listine 2grams each before you workout and before bed time are supposed to increase growth hormones levels…as well at increase nitro -oxide. widening blood vessel and getting more blood in nutriences into the muscles.
cheers,
Joe
I’m actually quite good! I had a delicious date last night! A nice younger man…30, so I’m on the right side of the island (My daughter strong armed her little brothers into voting me off the island of anything younger than thirty) I’m absolutely giddy with the memory! Well, honestly there isn’t an excuse about the equipment because there is a fit for everyone don’t you think? Yeah I know what you mean about being one of the guys. Most of my hobbies aside from the occasional scrapbooking which has never found its niche with men, are guy things, offroading, fishing, and target shooting(decidedly un-girly stuff) . So even though your chest is prominently larger than theirs they seem to forget you’re a female. I’ve noticed that also in my job with the air ambulance with the talkie patients. They get to talking with my partner who is often a man and suddenly I’ve become part of the monitoring equipment. Tis ok, though, I rather enjoy listening to them.
darkpoet;
You go boy! Yes you are right on there with the gammit of natural supplements. I don’t think a whole lot of people know about these, and they really do work.
Maybe this will be of help today in huge ways–ok–no pun intended there either! OK I am going to stop before I get my foot so far in my mouth it is stuck there! LOL Have a great day all. I am off work, and have been invited to an awesome event! Woo Hoo. Movin on up!
Have a good day Joan! I’m just putting off the laundry which never seems to end around here.
So the two inch killer (TIK) rules once again!!!
Personally, I’ve always felt like I was throwing a hot dog down a hallway… but that’s just me…
LMFAO
Oh, and the L-Arginine… it’ll make your pepi hard enough to HUNT WITH (Okay, no more Ron White references)…
Did you know Viagra was initially supposed to be a heart medicine… but during the clinical trials… they noticed some “interesting” side effects.
Actually one of its off label purposes is to dilate the vessels of the heart and it has been used that way in those who have low blood pressure. Same thing with the Rogaine….it was a blood pressure medicine but they noticed how people grew hair. Interesting accidents like peanut butter in my chocolate….isn’t it?
OK. Here is my opinion. Are you ready?
Size matters! The bigger the better. Period.
Hey Jessica,
Do I smell “bait”….
All I have to say is that David is right. If the man is smaller and can please me in other ways than intercourse, then there isn’t a problem. I have also had the problem, that if the man is larger, it can hurt. But hey, this is my opinion. I would never not date a man because of his size, as I said earlier, if he could still please me.
OMG I am sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo happy to be home!!
So much for the”awesome event.” Dear Lord, i thought it would never come to a halt!
Actually my friend who took me was the girls aunt whos Quincenera it was. that is spanish for 15. It is a girls 15 year old “coming out” party. Coming out of puberty into woman hood. Sure the hell cost a shit load of money for that transition on the party giver, even if there are sponsers. This is like a wedding!
Anyway, the girls father, my friends brother, was the most annoying sob to walk planet earth!!! Guys, let me say something here. Women love to complimented, so I am by no means complaing in that aspect, BUT stop at once or twice.
This guy was so enthralled with my eyes, he came to sit by me, started trying to man handle me and would not shut up and keep his hands to himself! I finally told him, (seriously these are my EXACT words,”Look, either go sit down over there(pointing across the table to his chair) take your arms from around me and hands off, or I swear you are going to wonder how the hell you ended up on the other side of this dance hall plastered against the wall.”
WOW! That would have made me get away And think I was a bitch—no it didn’t work:( Everybody at our table was telling this fool to stop and get away. Did he listen—No stupid dick head did not!
Our only solution—-thank God—we left—his ass following me all the way to the car. ARRRRRRRRGGGGG! get a clue—duh duh duh!
I wasn’t impressed with al the drunks aboard ship at 6:00 in the eve to begin with, but they were more tolerable combined than this one numb skull!
I think all the guys on this forum have more savvy sense than to be this annoying, but if not–remember this formula;
Drinking+over complimenting to annoyance+touching without any indication you are wanted to do so=coming close to getting your flubbing butt kicked by a pissed off female. NOT A TURN ON!!!
Sorry, but I had to;
1. Vent my frustration (cats only listen so much, doggy sleeping;)
2. Clue in any clueless as to what NOT to do if you want to impress. Pretty much common sense—one would think anyway?
Ah Joan! Sorry the quincienera was no fun for you! If everyone’s drinking to such excess how can it be very fun for the girl who’s party it is? Probably not such a good thing to be attemtping to meet others when you’ve had too much to drink…Not exactly putting his best foot forward now was he?
Joan
Ay, Madre Santa del Dios! That event certainly sounds like it was not the gran fiesta it was intended to be. I have found that often la mayor
Herkenau
I have noticed, the mentioned “whole foods,” attracts, the 10′s/model look alikes……other key elements, certain days, the time of day. Men seem to thrive under precise, direct, indications, little details make a big difference…..
Hey Joan,
You’ve already been in ONE fight this month…
You must be giving off one HELL of a vibe
David,
Some women, do actually, participate in the vagina wall massaging, they are far and few, and if they only knew! Instead of just laying there, they sidetrack the johnson slightly, and it is an E-ticket ride! hmmmh how funny!….
AngelEyes;
lol Right? I had just come back from the dance floor with 3 other ladies from our group. We had a pretty good time dancing the cunbias together. I honestly was laughing most the time. For what ever the reason, my inner thighs were getting the workout ouf a lifetime! Ahh they burrned, and ifeel it today. Thats a GOOD thing;)
When we went to sit down, my friends brother had arrived and was sitting down. She introduced everyone to him (a lot of people at our “banquet” table) I just shook his hand looking him in the eye and said nice to meet you. There is my “vibe?”
After he saw my eyes, he went f’in crazy. “Your eyes wre so fucking beautiful blah blah blah” Don’t get me wrong. I LOVE a compliment or two, three evenworks;) and “eye” get it on the eyes daily so that’s nice.BUT—He went into obsession state. You know it’s bad whaen youhave to leave.
Gosh, in both incidents I was just being me. “Me is a very frienly, nonchalant woman, so hmmmm?? You tell me;
Herkenau Says:
El Cabron! LOL I don’t know. Hispanic men love bigboobs and blue eyes on a white lady. I was told that a long time ago and I guess it is true.
Bertie;
Thanks. lol I could see the place was of about 350 people at least. It was a huge gathering for this deal. I am just thankful there wasn’t one fight. Usually you have that many folks in one place, there is at least on horrible tiff. I did eenjoysome dancing so it wasn’t all bad, only when he showed up and became a leach did things go south. Yea you’re so right. Why do people think they have to get sauced to have a good time?! Now, I like to stay in the safety of my home and have a 2 or 3 glasses of wine, and that “relaxes” me just fine;) Home is my safe haven if I wnt to drink. I know I don’t have to worry about being vulnerable or hit on by the tasmanian devil! lol
Did anyone catchthe “duh duh duh?” FUNNY comedian Carlos Mencia. If you haven’t seen him, SEE him in action.Funnystuff.
OMG Joan!
What an Hijo De xxta, Yes that is the reason for the fights that occur in those parties, insensitive Cabrones like him! Thinkin with his wee wee!!May his wee, wee shrivel and stay like that for at least five years!!! LOL
I have had mixed answers about sizes, I can talk to female friend and acquientances, without getting to far, about sexuallity and I have asked them about size, 50 – 50 answer and not only American women, European women also, but most of then do say, To be a good lover you dont need a big ”Tool”.
Foreplay is one if not the most important parts of making love to a woman, I stand by that and I have not had a complaint. I myself am not in the top “10′s”, or whatever the big ones are, since I know what I am doing. No need to measure oneself against the porn dimensions. In this aspect one can shine and compensate for the shortcommings, (NPI)Foreplay!!! The touch is what most women like and being an MT (ask Joan MT and woman) one learns where and how to touch the skin, no no need to be an MT but It helps.
Note: Porn has added to the male insecurity of sizes, It has problaby taugh lots of guys different “positions” but has brought this fear to surface!!
Size doesnt…… I dont give a rats arse!
Hunter,
Only a few of us?
Bertie,
yes, I must be attracting only the few…..
joan,
your story does not surprise me, some women label men in other countries as savages…
bertie,
amongst the far and few, are divorcees, I just stopped seeing one, that supposedly had 2 previous husbands……
Hunter,
to Joan: “your story does not surprise me, some women label men in other countries as savages
Shut the fuck up! i do not give a rats ass about a “thread!” I am stating factul events here dumb ass!!!!
RC Thank you! Yes i hope the shriveled dick fairy blasts him ( if it hasn’t already happened LOL!)with a prune dick for ten to life;))O)))
To hell with the blog thought snd the line of conversation….whoever!!!!!!
This is what I AM thinking now, SOOOO that makes it relevant!!!!!
Maybe that explains it Hunter….but I only have one ex-husband. I don’t think I could handle to the shenanigans of two.
See here is the confusing reality for some of us guys. Sometimes the type of attitude he had works, and would even work on you Joan. Its like sometimes a woman is genuinely annoyed as Joan was and sometimes its like a test. A situation where if you hold your own and stay in there; a woman will feel as though you have balls and are not afraid of her and she is very impressed by this, if you were to leave in this situation she would think you were a wuss who has low self esteem and can’t handle “the game”.
Where as the situation Joan painted is a situation where a wussy guy would have been like “oh sorry I didn’t mean to bother you” and run away.
David what is your take on this situation?
wrong article…
actually not wrong article, David we need an edit feature……..or maybe I just need to pay attention…
What? Now I’m totally confused. I just wanted to find out what Hunter meant when he wrote to Joan that “some women label men in other countries as savages
Can somebody tell me what OMG means? People are using it here all the time…
Jessica, I believe it means “Oh My God”
Ok…. so whats WTF? Teasing!!!! LOL
Thank you, Elizabeth!
Jim,
What is WTF?
Bertie,
I don’t get it, that explains what?
to Bertie,
I have been told men are limited by logic. It makes sense to a man that she would have learned what to do, or, not to do in bed, after being with 2 husbands. I don’t understand what you are trying to say….
Peter,
That explains why it’s important that we honor the four corners when we are saging our homes. We only need to consider Kierkegaard’s obsession with Don Juan to know that Hegel was right when he said that Schopenhauer was a mensch.
RC;
The statement you made about porn is so true! It has men thinking they need to have a Kong dong to please.
I know a guy who wears a shirt that says, “Kong is in my pants.” Sooo that means????
He probably has a more “Curious George” he is boasting of.
Porn also has desensitized men and woman as to what raw passion really is and how to feel it.
I am not saying if people watch porn, they are insensitive beasts, but when it is more commonplace than having relations with someone, I think there is a problem there.
Tim:
LOL That kind of “mauling,” as well as the annoyace of persistance honestly made me want topluck my eyes out1 That would never work on me. The only “test” was of how much longer he was going to HAVE balls! My patience fuse is a long one but once it has been lit and gets to the end of the rope—KAPOW!This was hours on end.
Herkenau;
and write just what I feel, obviously. No hidden messages to find or read into.
“Electronic text communication, whether blogging, emailing, or instant messaging lends itself to instant misinterpretation.” Yes, you are so right. When you said you took what I said “at face value?” That is exactly how the text shuld be read—at face value:) People read stuff into things that are not there. I have been guilty of that myself.
If you read my posts, take them at face value. I usuallydon’t leave anything out
Initially I was just wondering if you were referring to the lament I’ve heard a time or two about some women just laying there kind of like expecting to be worshiped rather than actually participating in the act. The other comment was just me thinking out loud that one ex is more than enough.
Tim,
There’s a big difference between being pawed at and having a man persistently put himself in a position to be kissed. Being pawed at or consistently groped doesn’t work on me either.
Bertie;
“There
JESSICA!: LOL
I just noticed your comment. lol The bigger the better hugh?
Well girl, ya better watch what you wish for, or yo ass might be tore up by that massive member! lol
Smaller works just as good. I have had well whatever. It doesn’t have to be a monster cock to please—-trust me;))
Oh God, please. Size matters equally important is expertise.
I want to feel filled while being pleasured and vice versa.
Size does matter … sometimes … what if a man’s penis is too large to enjoy your favorite position (I’m talking about slamming against the cervix large … not comfortable). How does a couple deal with that?
Let’s keep to the subject please. Penis size does matter to me and all the women I know. You can feel the difference when a penis is small and it is just nowhere as satisfactory as a medium to larger size penis. That’s a fact for if not all, then most women. However any penis over eight inches can be quite painful for most women.