Do You Want To Be Rich?
June 12, 2008 
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Being Rich By David Wygant
Yesterday we talked about a few quotes. Some of you embraced them, some of you fought them. Life is all about embracing new concepts and thinking outside the box.
Today lets talk about being Rich….lets make a lot of money….or maybe there is a whole new way of being rich besides trading oil.
People spend their entire lives chasing things. Men spend their lives chasing women. Women might chase love. Men might chase money.
And then we finally get these things – some of us get that love, and some of us get the money – we think that we’re really rich. This society is based on the idea that if you’re a millionaire you are rich.
But I’m going to give you a whole different version of what I consider being rich. I’m rich. I’m rich in every aspect of my life. Financially, I’m fine. Emotionally, I kick ass. I have friends I love; I have friends all over the world. My soul is enriched every single day by the things that I do – because I only do things that I love. I’ve got the most fantastic dog in the world. I have people that I work with that are fantastic and amazing. I get on an airplane and I get to travel to places, I get to do things, and I get to experience things.
I lead a rich lifestyle, because everything that I do makes me feel rich – rich as a person. But the greatest thing about being rich is that you absolutely love yourself. You love everything about yourself. I’m not talking egotistically – I’m not talking about walking around with a big ego saying, “I’m the greatest person in the entire world” – not that at all.
What I’m saying in this situation is that you are content with who you are – you’ve accepted all the things about you – you believe in yourself, and in your little nuances. Maybe the fact is that you have skinny legs, or maybe your ass never looks perfect in a pair of jeans – whatever it might be. You’ve embraced all of your insecurities.
You can look at yourself in the mirror everyday and say that life is an amazing gift. Every second of every single day I’m going to spend living my life, experiencing my life and being an active participant in my life – that is the definition of being rich.
There are people who will always have more money than you, and there will be people who will always have more things than you. But the fact is that spoiling yourself in little ways is what’s important.
For instance, going out and buying yourself something you really like – if you can afford it, embrace it and do it. Going out there and having dinner with a friend you haven’t seen in a long time, sharing your heart and sharing your soul – that’s a rich experience.
Everybody should lead a rich lifestyle. It doesn’t take money. Once again, we always want other things. People always think, I’m going to be happy as soon as I get better skills and connect with the opposite sex. I’m going to be happy if I can fall in love.
Or there are a lot of women on the internet that are 39 years old and they think, well I’m not going to be happy until I have a family. You know what? You’re not happy right now! So you’re going to attract all the wrong people and you’re not going to live a very rich lifestyle.
I want to add that also for a lot of people, the idea of being rich is to accumulate things. That’s how they believe they will reach that acceptance of themselves, that contentment.
But to me, and what I always say is that you become happier and more comfortable with yourself by learning to let go of everything you thought you needed.
Eventually, what you learn is that you need to let go of everything – your fears, your desires, and everything else so you can find the true essence of yourself. Once you do, that’s when you define yourself and find out who you truly are.
Once you get there, it’s just easier. When you believe yourself, you realize that you are perfect as you are. You’re not the BEST – there’s a big difference in believing that you’re perfect the way you are and disillusioning yourself into believing that you’re better than everybody else. You’re not the best. But you are perfect as you were created. You’re perfect as you are.
Everything you need to succeed and be happy in life is already in you. You just have to rediscover it, because something clouded that part of you before. Whether it’s your experiences, positive or negative – it doesn’t matter. But it’s really about rediscovering what you already had.
Most people don’t see that – they keep on adding things to their lives and that creates more junk to remove later. That’s why a lot of people can’t be content. Instead of removing all the junk, they keep on adding junk to their life, which makes it more confusing and more difficult for them to define themselves and realize who they truly are.
Todays video is all about how you are going to spend your money. On booze repelling women or on improving yourself.
David,
one question.
Do you believe in Law of Attraction – like attracts like??
Great blog btw
S
Awesome blog….
David,
Great blog, I totally agree. While I feel I’m on my way, I’m not quite there yet.
What I consider amazing is to be able to find guidance from someone in another country, half-way around the world! Thank you for posting these life-changing words, David.
I´m from São Paulo, Brazil, and a big fan of your work.
I´ve been studying about all the famous “PUAs” out there for years. It has been some really frustrating years because, honestly, I found all these “techniques” to socialize really lame and felt I wasn´t motivated enough to put them to use. Finally, I viewed one of your videos on YouTube, and got a little taste of something that I could really “change” into.
To sum it up, your videos and blogs already changed my life, and I already started to save up so in the near future I will be able to attend one of your workshops.
Best wishes,
Douglas
The new rich: people who have money AND time…
… but most importantly TIME.
It’s the only thing that you can waste and not get back.
hey douglas
Thanks for the great post and looking forward to working with you at one of my bootcamps!!
Leave it to David to break down what’s really important in life. I don’t think I could have said it better myself. Embrace all your imperfections, know that you are perfect just the way you are, and you will truly live a rich and happy life. Amen to that!
I wonder where you got the inspiration for the last 4 paragraphs of your blog… hmmm ;p
I think you were bitten by a little Asian bug here.
Very inspiring.
I must admit that I myself am still much a work in progress.
I love myself and I love everything about me. I accept and embrace myself and am proud of who I am. I am grateful for the live I am privileged to live. These are words that I am only just beginning to tell myself. This is only another reminder of a recurring message of late: learn to love yourself. Look in the mirror and say “I love you”. It is easier said than done, of course, and there will be more words of self-deflating than self-uplifting. Kindness to yourself is very difficult when you face the memories of past failures and the negativity of the world.
David, you are so right. What I or anyone needs is not ‘out there’. It’s inside. There is always something to be grateful for, always some ways in which we are rich.
i myself… am i work in progress,i’ll be 30 next month (21th)
month, i’m back in
college…. have a shitty parttime job, living with parents… but i have to tell you, although i run into problem with some people about my situtation, i cant say i’m upset about it. i’ve been though some tough shit, and i’ve made the decision to go back to school and get the degree i always wanted. instead of trying to please other…. life is about doing something that you enjoy… and it’s a marathon not a sprint. admist the turmoi and doubt i feel once in a while i know in my heart i’m doing the right thing… i know i’m far from perfect, but regardless, i know like david said everything is inside to do what i desire. i’ ve blessed with wonder talent and a beautiful muse…why shouls not embrace it.
cheers,
joe
great blog! we only live so long, might as well enjoy every moment thats offered to us good or bad. and in the end it is really growing myself, instead of growing the stuff i possess.
Joe – Consider yourself hugged for that!
I read an article by Mr. Wygant entitled “Man Talk.” I found the ten tips to be something that would be logical conclusions, as in I would infer those things on my own. What about telling men about women’s language. that seems a little more important because I feel like all I do is accomodate the man because he never looks at a situation from my or a woman’s point of view, but he never takes time to interpret my “talk” I feel it should be 50/50. But even your article made it seem as thought the woman is the one who should give in. I already know how men are and think,and so there are many times I want to say something but let it slide because I know he doesn’t think the way I do, as a woman. Men are the ones who need the tips. That being said, while I disagree with that article, this particular article on being rich, is right on the mark. I think these things every day. It is a constant battle within oneself to live like this (esp. in the US where so much value is placed on status symbols) , but it can be done. If everyone could read this article and work on themselves, changing the way they think, I sincerely believe that we could make some serious changes in this country.
Great video, and I totally agree with the “bring the party with you” mentality.
BUT
This works with a medium-sized group of like-minded guys – like Bootcamp.
But how do you re-create this in your natural social group?? Just as was said, many guys just want to go out looking to score and chase the night.
Unless everyone understands this concept of bringing the party with you it doesn’t work.
Any suggestions on leadership skills…to direct a bunch of unenlightened guys to have an unplanned evening where visiting a gelato shop is part of the fun?
Hi David,
My friend send me your blog address to my email today. I am so glad that he did. As a woman, I agreed with you what you said. I always thought that having a more stuff will bring more dust to my life. It took me a long time to content with my life and I am still chasing ” My happiness” in someway. Looking for that perfect ” man” or ” woman” that will bring me or you to be more happy? Not necessarily. And the more money will give us happiness. I think that a lot of people are confused with pleasure with happiness. The money will give you instant gratifcation or make your or my life a little more comfortable and easier life to live,but not necessarily bring you or me to be more happy…..
Sunny~
Oh David, you are soo wise!!! Great video. So true about women wanting to get the farthest away from the drunken, polluted men!!!