Comments on: Do You Want Children?

By: Crystal

Crystal — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 15:14:47 +0000

Hey Khiem, thanks for explaining. When I encounter people who really want kids I usually ask them why — I’m trying to figure out if I might want kids someday because that’s what people always ask me when I tell them I don’t have a desire to have children. To be fair I normally ask women this question. And I normally get answers like, “they’re so cute and I just want to hold one of my own.”

Oh, and then I get looks like I’m sort of alien, or like I just dropped my uterus on the floor.

I do relate to your desire to pass your wisdom on to others. But I’m already working on that. I am involved in several youth organizations, I babysit and I teach Sunday School.

By: Khiem/Ken (DW Coach)

Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 21:35:10 +0000

In response to Crystal’s comment:

I want to have kids….

And it has nothing to do with seeing a kid cute enough for me to have one of my own… but it really came down to me to the desire of sharing my own knowledge, experience and wisdom with someone who I know will listen.

I dunno… it’s the idea of seeing someone grow…. It’s the idea of knowing I can create something beautiful of my own (that is living).

By: imsatine

imsatine — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 18:00:20 +0000

Right! Give us a wry smile and a playful hug the next time you see us doing something motherly. Tickle us to distract our busy arms, then snatch our almonds and pack them in the cooler next to the beer (for you) along with something special you picked out for us – that might be a nice surprise. But, don’t forget to clean out the cooler (including, putting the cans where they belong) after you carry it home for us! We’ll shoulder carry the bag chairs (without complaining) if we’re each doing our part.

By: Crystal

Crystal — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 17:44:21 +0000

To imsatine:

Preach it girl! I’m not even someone’s mother and I find this same issue a problem. I am a strong, confident, capable woman and I seem to attract a bunch of these boy-men who want a woman to tkae care of them like thier mommy did.

Hey, I don’t mind cooking dinner if you are going to do the dishes — because I think a real relationship is about partnership — but I am not your care-taker, okay?

And emotionally too — I mean I can empathize to a certain point, but if you quit your job and you haven’t founda new one six months later I am all out of patience. Mcdonald’s is always hiring, you know?

Satine, I run into a lot of guys nowadays — even good ones — who seem to be afraid of responsiblity. It really disappoints me that it’s like this entire generation of men haven’t figured out that with accepted responsibility come achievement and satisfaction.

By: imsatine

imsatine — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 16:56:21 +0000

I know your article touched on something very non-sexual. But I gotta add my POV, here… because I’m really curious. I’m one of those natural, almond carrying mothers who is often complimented on my “easy” parenting style with great, smart, kids who know themselves and thrive… but, I find it’s easy to fall into the mother role, do everything for everyone, domestic goddess, and find there are trappings to it that impact relationships – not always in a good way. For starters, I really dislike being called (or perceived as) “mama” by anyone close to my age of the opposite sex…. or anyone! It makes me feel very unsexy… and depleted. Yeah, I like to be appreciated, but too much neediness is a real turn off for me. Guys who like that I cook, clean, and fold their laundry, remind them of b-days, or whatever come off as weak – lacking the confidence and attentiveness we women really require to feel sexy (and to view them as sexy). I tell ya, flipping the switch from the mom role to the I really want it, putting out, (initializing it, like they like it) sex kitten is very tough! It’s so much serving up. We want the confident man to step up and BE the man…. not the child. Just saying. Besides, do guys really find mothers that attractive?

By: Crystal

Crystal — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 15:10:01 +0000

Hey Will, that’s from the movie Parenthood. Keanu Reeves says it to Diane Weist in the kitchen after he talks to Joaquin Phoenix about masturbation. Great scene. Great movie. Great quote.

By: Will of Fire

Will of Fire — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 07:03:33 +0000

I once heard someone say “You wanna know what’s crazy? In this country, you need a license to own a dog, but anyone can have a kid!”

By: David Wygant

David Wygant — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 05:07:16 +0000

Steve

That is the comment of the year!!!

So true and if you listen to all the airy fairys they will say that the unborn child picks there parents so they can learn the lessons that the soul needs.

Love your quote!!

By: Steve-O

Steve-O — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 04:32:33 +0000

David, I also think an adult wanting to have a child should really consider that if the child had “a say in the matter” would they want to be born in the adults current life situation?

I certainly think that amount of respect should be given to your unborn child.

By: Seth

Seth — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 02:47:50 +0000

DBP, nice. You need a license to drive, to fish, to sell insurance…all you need to have kids is the right plumbing.

Scary stuff,