Some women may not need noises, but rather prefer talking during oral sex. One of the men I performed this act on made noises that made me think I was hurting him. I might have preferred him saying, “oh that feels so good.” Or just a few “Oh, yes,” “keep going” and “that’s so hot” can be reassuring enough to keep me going (sucking and suck) for a half an hour.

I’m not comfortable enough with a man going down on me to tell him what to do (yet), but I do make enough noise to let him know how it feels. I don’t know what other women are like in bed, but my recent experiences have gotten me curious. I have always considered it just polite bedroom ettiquite to let each other know how it’s going.

And Pete, Amy was right on with all of her reasons. But, honestly, I think a lot of women (an people) have a hard time accepting oral sex. They feel selfish or they can’t get out of their head. In fact, my last boyfriend had a hard time accepting anything from me sexually. He constantly wanted to give but couldn’t receive.

And it manifested itself in the rest of his life. Life, or God or the Universe or whatever you want to call it had stopped giving him things because he would rarely accept them ad all and when he did he did so begrudgingly.

You can learn a lot of life lessons in the bedroom and while we dated I helped him learn that one — as much as I could in nine months. I hope he is continuing he lesson.

I think there are several reasons why sex fades.

I agree with you that too much togetherness might result, as you put it, in “overexposure.” If each partner has his or her own interests separate from the other’s, then they are always bringing newness to the relationship. That being said, there ARE couples who seem to spend every waking minute with one another an it works out fine, too. Maybe these couples are better at retaining their individuality and bringing creativity to their relationships.

The polarity between masculine and feminine that makes sparks fly sexually often seems to get lost in a long term relationship. Partners sometimes lose their masculine or feminine edge and become more alike as they get closer and more intimate. This is never good for hot, wild sex.

Couples also put their priorities elsewhere–money, children, household stuff–or trade their sexuality for the mundane aspects or distractions of everyday life.

Many women work outside the home, and they must put themselves into masculine mode to accomplish and be productive in their jobs. When we come home, we need transition time to get into our feminine.

I think the diminishment of sex is a huge loss in a relationship. Sex is a form of communication that goes beyond talking and words; it’s play–and we all need to play, especially as we get older! Something like 95% of all communication is nonverbal. If sex is cut off, or becomes less important to one or both partners, it’s like cutting off the relationship’s legs, and it’s hard to go anywhere.

The last man I was with would ONLY have an orgasm with oral sex or a combination of oral and my hand(s). Wow that was fun–I got to try all kinds of things I always wanted to play around with.
I was wondering, have any of you ever experienced this?

That was one great story. Thank you for sharing and for not holding that story back. I find that inspirational because your story gave insight on how a women thinks when she is having great sex and what she wants. I never knew that women like for us to make noises when giving us oral sex, I really thought it was embarassing for us to do that. Thanks!

By the way great post David. I think part of letting go with a person is to become more intimate with them thereby letting yourself more easily let go

By the way great post David. I think part of letting go with a person is to become more intimate with them thereby letting yourself more easily let go

so, now I’ve learned that my future goal will be 7 times a day because number 7 to God is PERFECTION! ;D and yes, the best way to let go is to challenge your partner for a race. “I’ll race ya to see who cums the fastest. I still hold the record: 7.27 seconds!” Lol ;D

thanks for the blog