Do You Have A System Like Rex Ryan?
September 21, 2009 
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I think I’m going to change professions. As predicted here on Saturday, the Jets beat the Patriots on Sunday. I think I even predicted they would win by a touchdown (which was what happened).
So not only can I predict the outcome of your dates, I can predict the outcome of football games for you too. Regarding your dates, I predict that most of them probably won’t go really well. That’s not to be negative, but the majority of dates don’t go well.
The Jets are the only team not to allow an offensive touchdown this year. That impresses me. Do you know who impresses me more? Rex Ryan, the Jets’ coach.
So much of life is all about coaching — in football, basketball, baseball . . . and even in dating. Without the right mentor, coach and system in place, you’re never going to get good at anything.
Life is really all about having good systems — good belief systems and good coaching systems. There’s a reason why Bill Belichick makes the Patriots competitive no matter which players they lose. It’s the system he’s put in place. Every player believes in him and believes in being a Patriot.
Life is also all about your mindset. Yesterday I saw a good friend of mine, Dr. Wayne Dyer, speak. I really enjoyed it. Here’s a man who has lived 69 years with the right mindset and belief systems, and he’s accomplished everything in his life that he’s ever wanted.
Without the right mindset, coaching and guidance, people will remain lost. How many of you resist change? How many of you have trouble changing because of your belief system? How many of you fear change, but yet you desire it so much?
Who coaches you through your hard times? To whom do you go for advice?
How honest are you with yourself about the changes that need to be made in your life? Are you someone who repeats the same mistakes over and over again, yet you can’t figure out how to change that pattern?
It’s all about coaching. It’s all about implementing a belief system that can work for you, and a belief system that will still get you to make changes on a daily basis even if things don’t always work out for you.
The reason why the Jets won yesterday, was because they made changes to their game plan at halftime. They came out in the second half, and Mark Sanchez began throwing the ball. They got the lead, and then basically proceeded to shut the Patriots down for the rest of the second half.
How did they do this? They made changes necessary to dictate the flow of the game in their favor.
Can you dictate the flow of your life in your favor? Can you do it even after frustrating things and setbacks happen to you? Can you recover quickly from rejection, or do you allow it to torture you all day long?
When something doesn’t go my way, I recover instantly. I shake it off as any good well-coached person will do.
I don’t allow things to affect me for any longer than they need to affect me. Whatever happens to me affects me in the moment, then I get over it and don’t remember even five minutes later why I was so shaken.
The systems I’m talking about are not some kind of magic system to pick up men or women. It’s about having a belief system. It’s about having the right belief system.
What is your belief system? What changes do you need to make in order to accomplish everything you want?
Wayne said is really well yesterday. He said that we should all spend the last five minutes of each day before we go to sleep imagining how we want the next day to be, imagining how we want our life to be, and imagining how that will feel.
You don’t want to spend the end of your days thinking about what didn’t get done, what you messed up and what you haven’t achieved. By thinking this way, a lot of you are programming yourself to be in a constant state of panic (that begins from the moment you wake up).
So today on this Monday, I challenge all of you to write down all the things you want to change, and how you will feel when you implement those changes.
For those of you who are looking to bet on tonight’s game — because you know I am a master handicapper — the game will be a lot closer than you think. The Colts, however, will squeeze out a win when the Dolphins forget to throw to Ted Ginn.
Even though the loss made me angry…you have a point here, D.
I don’t know how you got that right about them winning. Great blog about belief system, I have to remind myself to do the 5mins. exercise.
man today’s blog is so powerful!!!
how can one install great belief system?
David- where did Wayne Dyer speak, in California?
I am going to do that from now on, i also totally believe in what we give or feel is what we get in life.
Dr. Who- i think that is what David suggesting us to do, visualize what you want to feel tomorrow, so you can build that belief system.
Thanks Lance, I will be doing that one, I think there is more to it….
David- how are you and Jacob?
I agree sometimes we need our butt kicked by a coach, who can show us the path we always wanted to take.
I think breaking the pattern is a difficult task, but once we break that habit, what becomes of us is magical. It would be nice to hear more about belief system near future blog.
Clint-
Thanks! I just got back home from nyc bootcamp, had a tons of fun, and great group of guys!
how are you doing buddy?
Jacob-
I am thinking about taking future bootcamp but I need to save up some money. I hear a lot of good things about what you’re teaching. Will you be available for bootcamp in a few months>?
David, it sometimes shocks me how you nail it every time. I have your MMS, and am really learning a lot. This blog is relevant to one of the biggest hurdle I have right now, believing in myself, and actually putting what you say to good use. Thanks a lot man!
What a FREAKING amazing defensive game. Being from NYC – we pretty much hate the pats… and all things boston.
damn you were right on the colts, love your blog man dont ever ever stop
Thanks for this one, David! Like a true coach, you know how to keep us motivated as the game develops. Keep ‘em coming!
Thanks Clint!
Yes I will be available for years to come my friend, just let me know when you are ready:)
Offtopic:Will you be doing a bootcamp in Eastern Europe?:)
So David you said to have belief. Belief in yourself. But what do you do when some people don’t like you and can spread bad things around that can affect you in meeting girls? Just don’t care or talk to each girl and asure them that those things aren’t true?
By the way, at my age to you agree if I constantly experiment to find the right girl? I mean most girls after being a few days with me really like me. If I tell them it’s over….you know what I mean..
Mike- yes we can do bootcamp in Eastern Europe.
Mike- can you explain your situation with more details, how old are you?
Well…I’m Mike.18 years old.I live in Romania. I didn’t really think you could do it but…I still need that validation from others. I know the theory…I followed David for some time but it’s hard to actually do them. And I don’t have that money for you to come here. I was really excited when coach Khiem/Ken answered me. It was like omg the actually care about my problems. It’s nice to see that, really I do apreciate it.But I can’t aford a bootcamp or something like that. I just like beeing a part or at least a sort of half member and more important…yes I really want to grow and to do what David actualy teaches.
I’ve had a friend who had girl problems at 19 and my advices, well I’ve known them from David really helped him. I didn’t just copy-paste the text, I told him what I’ve learned from here.
By the way, is it normal that if I’m alone I don’t have the guts to do what David says but when I’m with someones,anyone I can do it, it’s like I’m beeing dared but I actually do it compared to when I’m alone. Then I feel vulnerable.
Thanks again for answering
Mike,
You are still young. You are still trying to understand who you are and it’s normal for you to get your energy from other people.
You feel empowered when you are with people because you feel that they are here with you and for you. But you need to learn to find the energy and enthusiasm from within inside you. It’s about learning to be comfortable and happy with yourself wherever you are, wherever you go.
That makes sence. But what happens if I don’t know if my personality that I’ve developed if I can say that… let’s just say other guys don’t like that in me…I’ve explained it detaliled is this week’s podcast comment section. maybe I could get an answer there?And yes I’ve changed the name ro Mike-Ro cause I don’t want any confusion with other mikes.