Do You Ever “Just Know” It’s Right?
August 16, 2009 
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Have you ever met someone who absolutely blows you away in every way? When you meet them, you know there’s something different about them . . . even if you can’t put your finger on exactly what it is.
Love At First Sight!
You don’t spend a lot of time thinking about it or talking about it. Â You’re not really going to talk about it with them, because you don’t know what they’re feeling. Â You don’t really spend time talking about it with other people, because you don’t really know what you’re thinking. It just doesn’t make much sense, except that you know you are supposed to be with that person.
I’ve heard so many people describe the time they met their husband or wife, and have said they knew that person was “the one” the second that person walked in the room. I’ve had people say to me things like this all the time: “David, I just knew. I just knew when they walked in the room. I don’t know if it was the way they smiled or the way they talked, but I just knew.”
Have you ever held someone so close at that that you feel like you want to jump inside their body and inside their soul? Do you ever feel your soul communicating with somebody else? Â You’re just laying there next to them, and you feel yourself talking to each other without saying a word. Â
It doesn’t take words sometimes to describe what you really feel, because sometimes in life words just can’t adequately describe it. Words can’t fully describe what you’re really thinking, what your emotions are and what you’re feeling.
Have you ever met someone of whom you just can’t get enough? Time just flies by every time you’re with them. When you meet them, you want to remember everything they say. You want to show them your life. You want to remember everything that happens between the two of you, because you know everything that’s happening is a memory you are going to want to be able to talk about in the future.
Have you ever had that amazing feeling all over that you just can’t put into words? It’s almost an overwhelming emotion.
Have you ever been able to look at someone and know exactly what they’re feeling at all times because they communicate it with their eyes? Sometimes words are overused. Â
I can tell you one thing for sure. When you find someone for whom you have these kind of feelings, you’ve got to go with it because there’s not too many times that it’s going to happen to you in your life. When you’ve found this person, you just know in your heart that you’ve found something magical.
About two months ago I met a girl who I “just knew” it’s right. I was walking through the mall when I saw her and she stopped me dead in my tracks. At that moment, I knew I had to meet her. Not only was she really nice, but she had an unexplainable presence (plus the cutest smile I’ve ever seen) and that’s what I like most about her. We exchanged phone numbers and a few text messages, but then it went stale. Fast forward to present day, I ran into her again at the same place and she was quite receptive to seeing me again. This time, she was the one to suggest that we hang out. Again, we exchange a few messages but then she stopped returning my messages.
How do you know when to persist and when to stop? I do feel she is special but the ball is in her court. I just know that we can enjoy time with each other.
Yep, tried it and it’s amazing and I did marry him and had 3 kids. I was going for world domination, but soon forgot about that. When I first saw my husband I just knew I could see myself at all stages of life with him and very soon I got our first son.
Those who have not tried to be with someone like this, the closest is when you play sports in the zone, were there is this effortless flow and everything just happens without trying. Time seem to stand still and you have this amazing inner peace with a complete focus on the moment and nothing else.
You just lay there sometimes talking and without knowing time has passed, even their breath is the most relaxing sound in the world to listen too.
I could go on and on, but it’s worth whatever you need to work with yourself, to be able to understand when this happens and just react and not get caught up in all your inner self doubt and what not.
This is really what Dw and his coaches are teaching, it’s all starts with you and if you are not in the right set of mind you just might miss these opportunities that comes along the way.
It could be a total stranger you pass on the street and for some reason there is something that just makes you react to this person, there is a moment when things slows down and you can feel the vibrations in your body, that goes beyond just physical attractions.
Then you get all caught up in your mental nonsense and let it pass you buy, what a shame, maybe it was nothing but what if it was. It’s worth the potential turn down, nothing worse with sitting with a could have-would have=should have feeling afterwards.
I, myself will have to live what I just said soon, as I don’t plan on being single forever. But I lived it, not too worried about when it will happen but will be ready if it should happen again.
There is a similar feeling when you are completely attached to the art you are working on. You just know that what you are doing is what you are “meant” to be doing, and for whatever reason compelled you to create.
Great blog today David.
Thanks, David, for making me think about the same girl with two consecutive blogs! If this was baseball, what’s the little average acronym thing for such an accomplishment?
I have met such a woman. I just know, and I get the feeling she does, too. Unfortunately, I didn’t even have your blog on my side back then, so my mindset was totally different and I blew it: she came on to me and I didn’t read her signals for “fuck me”. On the other hand, she “exudes confidence and enjoys sex”, so she changes boyfriends all the time. I would have been just the “dick of the week” for her. It would have killed me to automatically be replaced like that…
I liked the way I felt around her. It was half “I’m so nervous I want to die”, half “I can’t wait to see what we’re doing next”.
**Ladies, this is a question for you out there:
**If you’re with a guy, and you take a candy bar out of your purse, and then the guy takes out the e x a **c t same candy bar, would that mean something to you? Is it just an unimportant coincidence, or **would you take as a signal?
I don’t want to be just another notch in her bedpost, though. I just have to keep on living and learning until the next time we’re around. I just know. SHE IS THE ONE.
I met that person. We clicked. I let myself go with the flow. He made all the moves on me. We both like eachother. BUT, he needed to talk with me today.
He said all the things he did were because he does like me, but he’s not emotionally ready for a relationship and needs to focus on school, work etc. He didn’t want me to be hurt and misled, and we’re still good friends. Because he ‘cares’ about me, he’s being honest whereas other guys might not even let me know. Basically he flirted and crossed the line with me because he liked me but it just got to the point where we were headed towards a relationship and he doesn’t want that. He still thinks I’m a very cool girl and likes who I am.
So tell me, is he really emotionally not ready or is he just not into me? Because I know that when I tell a guy I’m not ready, I seriously mean it because I need to straighten things out with myself. David, what do you think?
I was cool during the whole talk because I understand and respect his wants/needs. The only thing I forgot was, I didn’t even say anything about liking or not liking him, its just something I don’t say. I told him thanks for being honest after he took me home. I’ll be seeing him later in the week for a concert as good friends only, but what if it gets awkward?
And did he just pull a classic “its not you, its me move” on me?
I thought I had that once… I still have a strong connection. I always know when something is happening to him. He called me to tell me how much he dislikes me though and that everything is my fault. Has done this at least 3 times in the last 2 years now. then at the end of the conversation he says he’s sorry for how badly he treated me and that he used me. why on earth would I have a connection to someone who wants to be a jerk like that?
Diego:
The candybar thing is just a coincidence. But something memorable if you two like eachother.
kismet, thank you for your answer!
This just happened to me a month ago. And it never happens. Met a girl that floored me. We’ll see what happens…
Interesting post Mr. David! I always love reading your entries because your blog is so simple and easily be digested through my mind. Thanks for sharing this good thoughts.
Sh*t man.. this is great timing reading this. I had a powerful attraction to my ex-girlfriend with whom I broke up (mutually) about 6 weeks ago. I’m meeting her again briefly later today, in passing (on the way to a coffee with a female friend). My hormones and adrenaline are going crazy just at the thought of it…but I know she didn’t make me feel the way you describe in the blog. I knew that this wasn’t ‘it’. She could have been, but ultimately her personality wasn’t compatible with mine. We were crazy in love but that deep soul connection was lost and we couldn’t develop it because she had an inability to communicate, to process emotions, she was a very closed person, and that made me very frustrated.
It’s difficult when I’m still feeling so much for her but the thought in this blog that there is somebody like this for me, with whom I can truly flourish, is a strong one to hold on to. Thanks!
This feeling and thought process is definitely lovely, but it can be dangerous.
These feelings can often lead to acts of irrationally and can lead to loss of control.
Acting out of control can lead to undesirable consequences.
Yes, one should go with this feeling and foster it. So long as the feeling is mutually shared. That both parties are full of love. If this feeling is not in balance between the lover’s, tragic things can result.
I live with a man who blew me away the second time I met him. The first time I was unfortunately not in a place in life to think about him in any other way than friendship. Thankfully he waited patiently for my life status to change.
I have only experienced this twice in my life, and both women got away. But I don’t regret “just going with it” because there are few times you will get to experience this. I’m still good friends with the first one, I have no idea about the second one. She broke up with me right before she left for 3 months, so maybe I’ll run into her when she gets back, haha. All I know is that sometimes, it seems as though you were meant to meet someone, and you can just tell.