You know when you have been married for over 20 years, just turn 40, and the love for your husband is dead; the only thing you have left is hope. I never felt I had made a conection with anyone including my husband…soulmate connection…I just settled for and expected for that connection to appear with time and everyday life.

I dont know your age range (everyone here), but sometimes all you have in this world is hope and dreams and the determination to find that someone if its the last thing you do before you roll over and die.

Soul connections sound more like an excuse to hook up! Not that there is anything wrong with sex encounters but call things by their names and stop the false pretenses.

Sincerely yours,
A foolish heart.

i have had one or two girls where we seemed to be so spiritually connected it was insane.. we´d both have similiar dreams about each other the same night… these weren´t even girls i was dating. they were female friends who i just had such an irrational connection with them… we´d go months without talking and on the exact day i decide im going to give them a call… i check my email and they´ve written me. it was crazy to the point i started to believe in soul mates.

then i dated her… and she was no soul mate haahaha

You know what happened? Those two eventually split up.

Good advice and yeah, I think you are right. I felt I was in similar situations before and I thought I knew the outcome, so I wanted to save time. But personality wise, since I have never seen her completely sober, I have know attraction to her other than looks versus other people I have been shut down by I have been turned on by them as a whole. perhaps the fact that I am starting to be less needy and more selective is giving off a different vibe that could lead to more success??? I guess we will find out…

Let me offer a different perspective. When I read your posts, I got a slightly different impression of the reasons you didn’t keep the number. I think you didn’t give yourself a chance to follow up on the phone number because you didn’t think you had a chance.

Of course, in allowing yourself to act on those feelings, you proved yourself right. I’m not bringing this up to chastise you, but it’s important to identify your limiting beliefs for what they are: limiting.

The next time you catch yourself thinking this way, here’s what I suggest. First, accept the fact that your current belief is one of the possible outcomes. Then I want you to use your imagination. Just pretend for a moment, that you’re on a date with this girl, and you’re having a great time. Really imagine it. Got it?…. Ok.

Now work your way backwards:
How did you get on the date? Because she called you back and you made plans.
Why did she call you back? Because you called her.
What did you say when you called her? Something sexy and original….
What could you say that’s sexy and original enough to make her call you back? Maybe something about the kiss you had?

You see, sometimes when you work your way backward from the outcome you want, it’s easier to see what the first step is. It allows you to let go of the belief that there’s only one outcome to a situation.

Try it sometime and let us know how it goes.

– Patrick

So it was a combination of alot of things… I know, I feel stupid…

Why did you throw her number away? Did you like her at all… besides the fact that she was beautiful?

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As far as soulmate goes, I believe that we are most attracted to people who are our emotional equal. When you meet someone like that, things just click because they can see you as you are so they get to appreciate you more just as you are.

As far as Karma goes, I don’t believe it conflicts with the idea of free will. Karma just tells you that you have a certain past baggage (think of energy or emotional issues, or simply past subconscious memories) that you have to deal with. Because we are human beings, that past subconscious memory can strongly influence how we behave and react. That’s the “pre-determinism” part of karma, but free will also has a place in the equation.

By learning to be more self-aware of your emotions, you can step out of those “pre-determined” patterns of behaviors and become a person of your own, truly choosing your destiny.

I was at a club and I saw a beautiful girl which I have met before through friends. She was uber flirtatious, tipsy and she was talking to another dude. I greeted her with the “hello! Remember me?” and she did, (but she was tipsy the first time she met me too, lol) anyways I talked and walked away from her a few times I walked past her and she grabbed my tie and kissed me in front of the other dude that was buying her drinks the whole night. I walked away again and right before I left I tried to give her my number and she ended up just giving hers. Either out of frustration of previous number closes with no callback or the fact that I have only encountered her tipsy, I ditched the number of the most beautiful girl that ever kissed me, and I have no regrets… What is your input? Did I make the right move? What would you have done?

~J~