Comments on: Did She Come?

By: Big

Big — Sun, 03 May 2009 08:25:05 +0000

Women have a great many forms of orgasms. It is a wonderful thing. Please if we had their same capacity and ways of cumming we would never leave the house. LOL

I have found that women have three types of orgasms in general. Clitoral, vaginal (G spot), and Anal. I believe that anal ties into G spot and the PC muscle. That is the muscle that is being worked out when you do Kegals which were mentioned earlier. Men have this muscle too, helps both men and women to work it out.

As a side note, it is easy to figure out how to work this out. Just stop the flow of urine the next time you pee. When you do that, you are flexing your PC muscle. Once you figure it out it is easy to work that muscle all day any time. Makes for better sex for both men and women.

Anyway, knowing when a woman cums can be easy when they are big or squirting or multiple. But, if a woman wants to fake it well, she can mimic it all except a few things. I do not think a woman can fake a squirting orgasm. Also, it would take a rather strong motivation to fake true multiple orgasms. But, the issue really is not having communication that is well enough to be honest about. Also, as was stated earlier, make it okay either way. Not like it feels horrible to have sex or play and not cum. Yes, it is great and the more orgasms the better, but things happen. Pressure is not going to make it easy for anyone to cum. So, best to make it about pleasure in whatever form that takes.

I know one sign that is almost impossible to fake. Involuntary muscle spasms of the inner thighs, for the most part is a sure sign of strong orgasms. Does not happen all the time and does not happen with all women, but I have found that it is a good indication if it does happen.

I guess the good thing is if you are in a position to wonder, it at least means you are having sex. Better than the alternative. Be open and encourage open communication. Make it about the journey or play and pleasure rather than on the conclusion. The rest will work itself out.

By: Hamburger

Hamburger — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 13:10:43 +0000

Well, I wouldn’t agree that we men have only one way to come. From personal experience I find that the feelings during orgasm can be quite diverse, ranging from “just getting rid of the pressure” to “reunion with the universe”. It can be locally restricted to the genitals or include the whole body. And men can be multi-orgasmic as well. It sometimes happens “accidentially” but there are people out there who teach this stuff as well (e.g. Mantak Chia or Stephen Chang). As men, we often have the tendency to externalize everything. There are men who study the female orgasm for years, but have no idea about their own orgasms.

By: Sandra

Sandra — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 01:41:38 +0000

I have something to tell then how come is it when I am making love to a guy he comes before I do and he wants me to keep going but his hard on has gone down…Or I cum and he is still pumping to come….

By: andrei

andrei — Sun, 26 Apr 2009 09:22:44 +0000

my first entry here. david i really like your way you see things. you keep things simple as they really are. my mind is trying to overcomplicate everything so i often get stuck into my head. i am glad that you are sharing so much of your experiences. wish you all the best from austria

I have a solution to that. My exgirlfriend is not able to come just form the normal intercourse so i just made her come first by stimulation her clitoris. Then she was really wet and the sex was much better. by stimulatiing her clitoris it is also possible to come together. i like that.

@ sandra: if every woman would be like you the whole world would be completely different in a positive way.

By: DanTheOriginal

DanTheOriginal — Sat, 25 Apr 2009 17:27:43 +0000

>>>>>>>If you don’t want a girl to lie to you about cumming, then don’t take it so personally when she doesn’t cum!

I actually prefer they come (or not) and tell the guy that he is the best lover they ever had:-)

By: K Okay

K Okay — Sat, 25 Apr 2009 17:08:46 +0000

I agree with what Sandra just said. Guys freak out if a girl doesn’t come, so as a girl, there’s a lot of pressure to have an orgasm. Sometimes it doesn’t happen and the easiest thing to do is fake it. Guys should chill out about this. If you don’t want a girl to lie to you about cumming, then don’t take it so personally when she doesn’t cum!

By: Sandra

Sandra — Sat, 25 Apr 2009 13:38:36 +0000

A suggestion
There are times that I will not come for I don’t know why it is not because I did not enjoy the sex…Sex should be pleasurable when two people are into each other and want this to happen…Now when two people are thinking about jobs, previous arguments and etc. How do they expect to have sex…
My suggestion is this is let you guys know that we did not cum and when we do the guys don’t take an offense to it….

By: Cyn

Cyn — Sat, 25 Apr 2009 12:42:09 +0000

Sandra’s right- things are very sensitive there, at least for a few minutes. If she’s still taking direct stimulation there after screaming her head off, she probably faked it.

Seriously though, if you’re looking for anything that resembles a relationship, stop lying about this ladies.

And Jamie- women lie there and do no work! I think you’re spending too much time with the wrong women…

By: Rocky

Rocky — Sat, 25 Apr 2009 11:24:48 +0000

David , good blog and thanks !
But you know that not every girl can come ?

By: Sandra

Sandra — Sat, 25 Apr 2009 03:14:55 +0000

If horny lisa is reading this can she break my record I came five times in one day with my last husband…