It’s not the compliment that creates attraction. Attraction is the art of making people feel good around you. You can make people feel good by being fun. You can make people feel good by appreciating them with a genuine compliment. You can make people feel good by helping them grown through your guidance and leadership.

This is a topic that David and I talk a lot about among ourselves. What people don’t realize is that… when you become the source of pleasure, people always want to hang around you… so you therefore attract people to you and your life.

It’s just that simple.

Personally if a guy compliments me I am not attracted to him immediately, it takes much more than that..
compliments can be given just for the sake of compliments as well.. i give and receive compliments that way often oooh, i talked with a male friend of mine a while ago.. just remembered.. he talked about being lonely and wanting a girl over, and so i playfully said i’d come over etc.. then he was like: “but you’re not attracted to me are you?” so i said in careful words, because i was charmed by him, but not “blown away attracted” by him since the first time i met him.. : “you are a funny guy and you have pretty eyes (if one can say that to a guy), so i am attracted to you in those ways”..

there’s obviously a connection between compliments and attraction!

Entirely the wrong mindset, and nobody is saying anything about it! A great mental tidbit here…don’t try to force, manipulate, and trick your way into an illusion. CREATE a REALity.

Hope you guys have been well!

Rey…Rey—you are awesome!!

It sounds to me like you’re saying that the actual ACT of giving a compliment is what creates attraction. But wouldn’t that just be more of a way to justify your reasons for hooking up with a woman?

Please don’t get me wrong… I absolutely agree that freely expressing yourself in a authentic way is attractive… and I also agree that showing/telling the other person that you like them would make them feel good about hooking up… and I think I even get how vulnerability can be attractive as well.

HOWEVER, is giving a compliment early on like that really what actually CREATES attraction?

I always thought that attraction was created with intrigue, challenges, playfulness, etc. While compliments were ways of making people feel good, confidently expressing yourself, justifying your interest, and perhaps on occasion buying yourself some time. Am I getting something mixed up here?

As you can see I’m a bit lost in my logic here… please help me clear things up

Its all about being playful and only do this when you are attracted to someone,

Do not go touching everyone:)

I love the complimenting thing and the overall concept of creating attraction … but as a woman if I start touching a guy I just meet (even on the arm), won’t he think I’m ‘coming onto him’ or invading his personal space too much for having just met me?

This works both ways for men and women.