Comments on: Deconstructing A Communication Breakdown

By: Khiem/Ken (DW Coach)

Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 18:02:09 +0000

Mike-Ro

Staying present when talking to a girl just means I’m giving her my undivided attention. I’m not watching and listening so intensely that I don’t notice anything else around me. I’m relaxed and just giving her my attention.

When you talk to her, don’t be so tense. I don’t know if you listening to her so intensely can be seen as relaxing.

Talking to a woman from a state of being relaxed is important… b/c she feels that energy and gets relaxed talking to you as well.

By: Mike-Ro

Mike-Ro — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 15:00:17 +0000

Khiem

When you stay present when talking to a girl, you focuse on what she has to say, you listen and you watch her body language too? Maybe it’s not that hard but to me that’s work when really you should just relax… When I talk to a girl I’m so focused on her that someone can yell at me I don’t hear them I focuse my atention just on her. Is this good or bad?

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 22:23:50 +0000

if u luked like guy in picture things would b easyer tho!:-)

By: Khiem/Ken (DW Coach)

Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:26:06 +0000

Andrew,

Just because you’ve been talking for 2 months doesn’t necessarily mean you are in the friend’s zone. You JUST got her phone number recently. Just treat her like she’s already your g/f and see how it goes.

If you haven’t yet, get a copy of David’s Men’s Mastery Series. It teaches you all the right behaviors and mindsets for you to become THAT attractive guy.

By: mahaish

mahaish — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 14:36:33 +0000

“You don’t have to remember everything she says…. I mean… it’d be good if you do.. but how about you remember the important things that she says… that you relate to”

very true i feel,

a stratergy im leaning day by day is that whilst it might be usefull to remember the totality of what someone says, its not totally necessary to keep the conversation and connection flowing. sometimes you just focus on the last thing they say and take that in a direction to your choosing, whilst still trying to hang on to the important details

i find this a usefull way of creating repore with anyone , not just women.

its hard to put into practice, because our ego’s get in the way and we all like show others how much we know and how much we care, when i feel its just best to shut the f up sometimes and just listen and ask interesting questions.

easier said than done,

By: lots of monkey chatter

lots of monkey chatter — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 10:22:19 +0000

cheers for advice, 2 b honest kim i think im prob in friend zone hense waiting for so long….il sort it out dnt u worry!not got time 2 speak now, but thanks again andrew

By: Tony

Tony — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 06:25:59 +0000

Very helpful David. I gotta work on that more often, sometimes its very hard, i get lost with all the monkey chatter in my head.

By: Jeffrey

Jeffrey — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 06:25:00 +0000

In the end it always come back to us, and the realizations are freaky sometimes.

By: Clint

Clint — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 06:22:44 +0000

If we truly put in the effort to listen we do so much better. I think its a lesson in progress.

By: Coach Kimberly

Coach Kimberly — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 05:24:19 +0000

Anthony—Khiem is right. You don’t have to remember everything a woman is saying necessarily in detail, just pay attention to the idea of what she is saying and her emotions. When you get stuck and are at a loss of what to say, share something about yourself or tell a story. Often guys get stuck on the million questions (as a way to show they are interested and paying attention) and they forget to share about themselves. There is more give and take this way and less of an “interrogating” effect. Conversations should flow back and forth!