David Wygant Has A Problem
May 17, 2009 
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In the middle of the Bootcamp yesterday, I realized something (as I always do during Bootcamps). I realized that there are some things I need to work on about myself. So I shared with the guys that I need to work on becoming more self-aware and to be a better communicator when things first start bothering me.
I grew up in a family of suppressors; a family that would sweep everything under the carpet instead of talking about it. When you’d walk into the Wygant household, you’d trip on everything that was under the doormat. I realized yesterday through one of our powerful conversations, that in my own personal life I do some suppressing of things when something bothers me.
When something bothers me, I’ll either make a joke or be sarcastic about it. Then I’ll hide it in the bowels of my subconscious, and walk around with a feeling of irritability inside me for several days. Now I know the warning signs and have to take action so I no longer sweep things under the Wygant rug.
We all are constantly working on ourselves. We all are constantly challenging ourselves. If you ever think the job is done, you’re so wrong. If you feel you’re done everything you need to do, then your life is full of people who do not challenge you to be a better, stronger and more dynamic person.
A nice, quiet and really amazing Indian man named Ajay is in the Bootcamp this weekend. He said to me “It’s nice to see David Wygant real, and that you actually have problems too.”
We all have problems. What makes me able to teach, coach and write about all this is that I’m still working through things in my own life as well. Everyone is. We’re all flawed.
So enjoy a nice little flawed Sunday (See, a little sarcastic remark has to come out!)
Oh…and one last thing. Daphne is flawed as well. She has low self-esteem issues at times. If you want to know more about Daphne’s occasional self-esteem issues, however, we’ll have to do a whole other blog on that!
Well David you know we all have time
..Do tell about Daphne’s occassional self-esteem issues and where you think they stem from!
Flawed..speak for yourself…I am perfect LOL
That’s why you always should be very aware about Yes-People around yourself. You know, the ones who agrees with everything you say and do. Too many of those around and soon you will believe you are correct in everything. I am not talking constant conflict but people who are not afraid of telling you what they disagree with.
As Ajay said,that’s why people would even take advise from you as you are real. You are telling them them to be who they are and give a little of of themselves when interacting with us girls and you show them by doing it yourself. Nobody really respects a know it all.
Speaking of dogs, labs are notorious to be emotional sponges.
Are you saying Dephne needs a dog bootcamp:)
Marina- do you have any pets or had any?
We’re all human. Admitting that is what seperates the good teachers from the bad.
David, my family’s like that too. Thats why I grew up bottling my thoughts and emotions. But ever since I realize how badly it affected me, I made a change in my life
What if I say my problem is intimacy? From family to friends to dates and boyfriends? Hugs and touches are ok, but I’m not a touchy person.
Recently, meeting a very confident alpha guy who’s interested in me, makes me realize, do I want a relationship with someone that thrills me, or with someone who’s more relaxed/innocent? Of course I’m more interested in the one that thrills me and have more chemistry with, but at the same time I have fears of my sexuality, like I might get hurt if there’s too much chemistry between us. (But on the good side, my friend told me that guy doesn’t like easy girls and the last girl he talked to didn’t work out because she put up an all-innocent act and he found out she wasn’t.)
Maybe I’m just thinking too much and not being present? But it IS one of my fears though.
By the way, how do you know if a dog has low self-esteem? -_^?
>>>>>>When you’d walk into the Wygant household, you’d trip on everything that was under the doormat.
When you’d walk into the DanTheOriginal household, you would have to do it from the back window because every door and other window was blocked:-)
back window hug Dantheorginal LOL
I have always wondered and thought in the past that David had no problems he is like some GOD, but it’s nice to see that you are a human as we all are:)
It is eye opening for me I don’t know about you guys! Many thanks David for sharing that with us today you are best man!!!
DTO:
why blocked windows and doors? They’re there for a reason, to look out/go out and let others in. well not the window haha
Daphne with low self-steem issues? Too bad.
Won’t tickling her belly do the trick? It works for Sam (my samoyed).
And I also thought like Clint, David being all-mighty and so. That myth’s been busted.
My mother used to say that the dog’s personality reflects the personality of the master…does this mean that DW is channeling all of that under-the-rug stuff to Daphne? Or is it left over baggage from her own previous life?
If life is a balancing act, then how will we find balance? Most folks are suppressors but sometimes that just makes some of us crazy and we explode, in a manner of speaking, at inopportune times. The only thing that has really helped me is learning to turn it over in my mind a few times and re-frame it from a different point of view. Now that I am a lot more balanced in my reaction to things, others are asking me why I’m not upset over one thing or another and they are upset that I am not upset. Oh, well.
Another great blog David!
I felt the same way as Client and Gaby it certainly makes me feel good to be not wanting to be perfect all the time!
Btw…this my first time making a comment or second time on your blogs.
I have been long time reader of the blog and ever since I purchased the MMS I’ve decided to get myself active in the DW community as much as I can.
K- it seems like you have done some inner work, how you come so balance in your thinking process?
David- are you ever going to have bootcamps in Miami?
The more I learn the more I feel how less I know, it is a on going journey, I don’t know every single thing! It’s funny some people come to us believing that there is a instant magic pill I could give and their all problems will be solved however they find out there is no shortcut in life, it is a on going journey and I can’t fix all their problems, I can certainly show them the path they need to take to get to the high road of life!
Clint, Gaby and everyone else:
When I first met David more than few years back, I thought he was going to change my life instantly and I would get laid with bunch of women and I would be happy.
But more closely I looked and studied from David I saw that he was just another person like you and I. He just worked very hard on himself and his business to come this far in life. More I was able to see the truth more I felt calm with me, and worked very hard to get where I am today.
There is no shortcut in life, you must be willing to sacrifice some time and money to live an amazing lifestyle!
Hey Coach big bad jake:) Your story is a very inspiring one man and I can see why David call you his protege!
I got to tell you i have worked with some pua companies before, and all the pua stuff is very ego oriented and the instructors are never humble always hiding behind masks, and never open up!
I feel so much better to work with you guys than those pua robots in the past:)
Kismet, how about you find yourself a nice relaxed boy who’s a real thriller/bad boy in bed?
Now that should take care of your issues.
Flaws I wrote the book about them but one thing I need to practice before I allow someone to come in is yelling in the yard where the neighbors can hear me….Yes I was mad and I let it out yelling to myself and looking like a fool as I always do. So I do have somethings I have to work on like keeping my mouth shut and keeping it between me and God.
Jeffrey – Learning the hard way..unfortunately, the work is never done. Also, times change and we have to roll with it – not always easy.
Daphne has self esteem issues? You haven’t told her she’s fat have you David? Well, at least she doesn’t walk up to you and ask you if she’s fat.
“David, do I like fat in this collar?”
I meant,
“David, do I look fat in this collar?”
See, one of my flaws is that I often type without proofreading when doing this and end up making typos.