Dear David - Treat Women Properly!

By David Wygant June 25, 2014 215 Shares

Dear David is a little different this week, because it actually comes from a lady subscriber. Why am I sharing it over on the men’s blog? I want to share it because it’s a lesson in how to treat women properly. Or in this case, how NOT to treat women. I want this to be a lesson to you guys, because no confident, authentic, alpha male will ever treat a woman like the a-hole in this story!

So, Monika writes…

“OMG David,

I’m so devastated. I just gave up my apartment a week ago to move in with my boyfriend. About two days after moving in, I noticed he was edgy. Then he sat me down and told me he hasn’t been honest.

He’s not ready to share his time and home with me as a couple, and he wants me to move out again. Obviously shocked, I went out and walked along the beach. When I got back, he’d gone out. He sprung this out of nowhere. He even had sex with me an hour before he told me he wanted me to move. Now I’m in a terrible situation.I don’t have enough money to live. I gave up my home to be with him in Florida. He knows I have no friends to turn to. What should I do?”

Don’t Ever Do This To A Woman!

Gentlemen…

He had sex with her an hour before he asked her to move out. What, I’m going to bang you one last time, and then make you feel like a whore?

That’s what angers me the most. He totally knew he didn’t want to be with her. He knew he’d made a mistake asking her to move in with him. Things like that happen. Someone moves in with you, and a week later you realize you’ve made a mistake. It’s life, and that doesn’t make me angry. But to have sex with her?

Come on. That’s just an insult to her. It also makes him look like an a-hole. If you’re ever in this situation just be honest with the girl. Tell her you’re not ready to share your home, but give her a solution. Help her move on. If you still want to be with her, but you’re just not ready to live with her yet, tell her you’ve made a stupid mistake and do everything in your power to make it up to her.

That’s the key to all this. When you’re open, honest, and forthright, women can’t complain. Granted she made the decision to move in and to give up her home, and there’s no way anyone can promise a relationship will work out. Yes, you shouldn’t dream of asking her to move in until you’re 100% sure you’re ready for that, but it happens every day.

But for goodness sake, don’t have sex with her. If you realize you don’t want to be with a woman anymore, hold off and don’t have sex. Don’t make her feel so cheap. She’s going to feel like crap about the whole situation anyway. Don’t make it any worse by having sex with her, and then showing her the door. That’s not how a real man acts. That’s not how to treat a woman properly. And it’s the kind of act that makes women so defensive when they meet men.

About David

1.7 million men & women come to me every month to find the secrets to success. And after 20 years of coaching, I’ve discovered the golden keys to success in dating, business, health and wellness, and life.

I’ve helped millions of men and women around the globe achieve success in their dating, social and personal lives. I’m also a father to the world’s cutest little girl, and I am an unapologetic man. Some say I’m nuts, others say I’ve changed their life forever. One thing’s for certain: I’ll always give you the truth, whether you can handle it or not. I never sugar coat anything.

Nice is so overrated. I’d prefer brutally honest breakthrough to a “nice” rut any damn day of the week. If you’re the same way, then you've come to the right place.

87 Comments | Join the Discussion!

Cancel reply

Cheryl

Friday, June 27th, 2014

Excellent!!!!

Apple

Friday, June 27th, 2014

The sex isn't the worst thing that happened. The problem is that she upended her life and is basically homeless. . The sex was more like peeing on her grave after throwing her into it. The sex was demeaning, but the major problem is that she's homeless. Hopefully, she can find a place quickly and get on her feet. Maybe, the sheer callousness of his behavior will harden her heart toward him quickly so that when she thinks of him, she won't have any fond memories and she can put this behind her. I just don't see why he'd go through so much trouble to get into a woman's pants. Really? There are easier methods.

David Smith Howard Dean Jackson Johnson

Thursday, July 3rd, 2014

I don't see why he'd be so fucking heartless. Guys like him should be publicly embarrassed until they beg for forgiveness.

Laura N.

Friday, June 27th, 2014

And men wonder why a lot of women are suspicious of men...

David Smith Howard Dean Jackson Johnson

Thursday, July 3rd, 2014

The good guys wonder, yes. The bad guys.... who knows, but most of them deserve a full psych eval!

christina

Friday, June 27th, 2014

sounds more to me like she might have moved in w him way too soon for other reasons than love - i.e. saving on the bill/not wanting to be alone/neediness whatever. that he is an ass sure, but men usually do that when women are pushing themselves on them with their own hidden agenda... same same but different.

Pam

Friday, June 27th, 2014

Right...like women who "forget" to take their pill because they want to have a baby with somebody, anybody. Lots of people only care about what THEY want, not what the other person wants. The email doesn't say how long these two were dating before they moved in together. Was it a few weeks, or what? If it was too soon then I can understand the guy wigging out a bit after the fact. Not giving him a pass on the sleeping with her first bit, but you know what I mean.

Laura N.

Friday, June 27th, 2014

It sounds like this may have been an LDR...she said she moved to Florida to be with this guy. If I were she, I would get in touch with my family and go back. It would be easier to pick up the pieces where you have some personal connections. But, no doubt about it, this guy is a gigantic A-hole for using her and then kicking her out, and NOT offering to help her get back on her feet (ie... letting her stay there until she had a job and a place of her own again). But, I agree with Apple. The sex isn't the worst thing. It is the total lack of respect he showed her by treating her like a used Kleenex.

Random Awesome Guy

Friday, June 27th, 2014

There are some things you just don't do in life and throwing a person out, after he or she has given everything up to be with you is one of them. I hope she has family, she can turn to or at least get help from the government so she can get back on her feet. Most my life women have told me, they love me, within a week of dating me and as I got older, I learned about infatuation, I also learned not to throw the L word around too soon in a relationship. Figuring out if the person you are dating is the one, you want to be with can be a lengthy process, it can take weeks, months and even years, depending on your level of wisdom and intelligence. Figuring out if a person is trustworthy and honest is tricky, this is why most relationships take time, there are master con artists out there and figuring out if he or she is telling the truth takes time. Even a good lier can be caught, liers lack consistency in there recollections and of past events and will instead make a new story that is similar to an old story, in an attempt to cover his or her tracks. Often a lier will contradict his or herself... Another scenario is infatuation, all too often, people become infatuated with each other. It could be two honest people getting together, I love you is said every half hour, they move in with each other within weeks of meeting each other and after a few weeks or months of living together, they both find they cant stand each other,arguments are all over the place, they separate. People need to be able to tell the difference between infatuation and real affection and empathy(Love)Time will reveal all, just like a flower needs time to bloom so does a relationship. If you think your in love, within the first moment you meet, that's attraction. If you think your in love with in the first week or month, that's infatuation(the infatuation stage can vary from person to person but it generally don't last long)Having said all that, love is risky business but can be worth taking that risk, one has to trust ones instincts, wisdom and intelligence.