Your video, above, about how to create a first date is really good. I would like to address one thing you said in it, paraphrase” … that is how all women think”… and caution that is a very broad generalization. Many women think along the lines you are stating, but not all women. Even as a woman, I can say I feel that a great many do, but keeping it more on a line of women may tend to create the story- line with far greater frequency than men. I have seen some guys do it, as well.
All conversations are stories is definitely a point to examine. And that the way we can create and write our own lives is also a story. Prompting men to realize that point of the story-line is great advice, as in a very generalized sense, men and women tend to communicate differently. Not all, of course. As well as pointing out, in essence, to use a form of active communication, where both participants use a listening and reflecting technique can go a long way in not only interpersonal, but business communications, too.
The last point I would like to make here is that both sides of the communication exchange need to proceed with caution as to how they are creating the story-line. In that I mean, to not write in what they wish the story to be, or to create a characterization of the partner in the exchange. More simply put; those story-lines are not the fairy-tale mythology. So make that the real story-line of your life and don’t write in a fictional hero or heroine. By people doing that; in the end, I have never seen a relationship survive. And even worse, some of the people doing that, don’t even realize they do it, and thus continue to become disillusioned about the possibilty of establishing a viable relationship.
I hope this doesn’t come off as negative. It is far more about approaching life with a positive energy and directing that energy into the right places and with the intention of finding someone to connect with on a genuine level.

You talk about charisma and “When I walk in, I turn on my charisma.”
Yes…you do.

I remember when I first ever read your kissing blog ages ago on Yahoo, wrote you, and you answered my letter. Your end response was something to the effect that you were writing a blog on the very thing I was inquiring about and said, “I think you are going to like what i have to say on this subject.” Yes, I liked very much what you had to say…it was just what Dr. Wygant ordered that set my wheels in motion, and they haven’t stopped turning since…I mean that in the greatest of way.

I came to the web site and read everything and watched all the videos you had up.

Anyone who wants to see the charisma on…watch the video “Party At The Palms” between approximately 22 seconds to 26 second mark. That is a 5 second window of time, but when you watch? Well, see for yourself.

David, I hope I don’t embarass you here David or make you feel uncomfy…but that is what triggered in my mind when you said “when I walk in, I turn on my charisma.”

Don’t you find that after a while…it is just a natural happening you don’t really have to think about “doing?” It just is something that happens and it is a good feeling when the response is a good one.

I was compelled to go back to whole foods today for some Wu Yi tea…they sell it by the pound…that and a zillion others. I was walking down an isle with any and everything Lavender your mind could conceive. A nice looking man, around his mid 30s i would say, walked past me, we exchanged hellos and smiles. I was thinking in my mind, “Man, I love this place.” I stopped to scope all the products and when I turned, I caught him coming back down the isle in my peripheral vision. I looked at him and smiled which triggered him to ask me what was in Lavender that attracts people they would have a whole isle dedicated to it? LOL MMhmmm My speciality Aroma therapy was great conversation and a whole food lot of fun Sooooo…maybe my “charisma” (and my cleavage) lol sparked him to come back down the isle.

I think again…it is a just be you uninhibited concept. You have a greatness so let it shine! People will see it even when you are unaware. My intention truely was the tea in the trip, but I ended up with “tea and talk” for 2.

GO FOR IT!!

You should always have good energy!

We are not talking about being a cheerleader!!

Just be passionate about who are and who you meet!

Think about it even more.

Look at the walk through town as a nice vacation away from the work stuff and think about how much fun it is to meet people on vacation!

But I wasn’t in the mood. My brain was busy and I was stressed out from work, so I just shuffled along and said nothing.

I feel like I definitely have a “work” mindset and a “social” mindset, and the two don’t play well together. When I’m at work, I think about technical details, I organize, I plan, and I talk only when I need to exchange info.

When I’m out doing stuff, it takes a force of effort to switch into a social mindset, where I’m interested in the people and things around me. I don’t know that I’m really “playing theater” when I do that.

It’s more like I’m turning my energy outward, rather than inward. I notice things about my surroundings, about people, about their body language, and they interest me enough to say something.

Yes, my work mode is part of my personality, but it’s not really the part of me I identify with, or the part I want a girl to see on a date. Eventually, if I date a girl regularly, she will see my work mode, but she’ll understand that’s me being busy and she’ll add it to her impression of me, rather than making it her first impression.

– P

I definitely agree to be kind of a pump here. 5 minutes here, 10 minutes there then take it easy..

But then there is a question.

If you meet this girl wherever it might be with so much energy isn’t she going to expect the same amount of energy at the first date, second date, sex.. ??

What I want to say, if you play “theater” she can easily see through you..

great post.

You always talk about being like a Bill Clinton.

Check out this video about him:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rj-AdvsiczU

funny like hell!!