Conversation Starters-Your Mom Was Right
July 5, 2008 
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Observe and Listen Intently By David Wygant
Hey hope everyone is having a great holiday weekend!!
I just got out of the water I spent the early part of the day surfing!!
Hawaii is amazing and I think I found a new sport!
Onto todays blog.
When you’re in the mall and you really want to start conversations, start them based on observations. Your observations are always a good way to start conversations.
You can start by saying, “hey, look, I need some help with the furniture,” and then observe. A client and I recently went into a Pottery Barn and did this. We listened to how she talked – in this case, the woman was Russian – so I threw in, “what part of Russia are you from?” to get her to start talking about herself.
The key is to observe, to then start the conversation, and then to listen intently. Whenever you listen, you get to pick up on all of the things that you want to be able to talk about next. Instead of thinking about what you NEED to talk about, you’ll actually be able to flow with the conversation by just listening to them.
The other person is giving you all the information you need to carry on a deep conversation with them. The more you listen to them, the deeper you can go.
When she mentions that she is from Moldavia, you can say, “Moldavia, I’ve never been there. What is Moldavia known for?” What happens is that you are creating an emotion in them, and by doing that; they are going to start to have some type of connection.
By asking her about things that she actually likes, enjoys, and is a part of, you will make her think about her home. When she thinks about her home, she’s going to want to talk to you more about that and she’s going to look at you as an emotional response. She’s going to bond with you, and think, oh my god, this guy is really interested in me – most guys aren’t really interested in ME, they’re interested in the physical aspects.
You can see when she starts talking a little bit about her language, and she gets red in the face. And then it’s like, well how much money do you have? I’ve got this magic pill – at that point, you have her. It’s done. That’s all you need to think about.
Today our video is all about getting wet with women in the rain.
Have you ever wondered what to say to a woman in the rain to get her intrigued and willing to get even more wet with you.
Finally my keyboard is functioning again. It’s been down for two days, because stupid as I am I somehow managed to hit Num Lock =S
Anyway, this blog is a good one
Cool to hear you’re having a good time in Hawaii!
A question though..What’s your take on eye – locking? I was on this mini cruise to Denmark this week and noticed a guy that was looking at me, and I tried to look into his eyes.. you know, make some connection.. but then I freaked out! I started laughing and had to look away..I ran into him several times on the ship, but I was too embarassed to try to start any conversation with him…
JustMe,
If you had to laugh from your eye-locking mishaps… you just created a great opener for yourself! ;p
I know, I kind of realized that.. too late. My friend kept telling me not to worry and just be cool about it..
Shoot! I don’t know if it’s a good thing that I’ll probably never see him again, or a bad thing..
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