Chick Flicks
December 13, 2008 
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Men, here is the greatest exercise you can possibly do: go to a chick flick on a Saturday night and sit behind three women.
Don’t watch the movie; just listen to the movie and watch them.
When the leading character screws up – because that’s what we do, we don’t say what we should have, and we screw up. It’s the Hugh Grant moment where he realizes, why didn’t I tell her that I loved her at that moment? He’s just sitting there with his friends at a pub, and he realizes it.
And then he sees her out, and he still can’t tell her. When he finally goes and does it, watch the women’s reaction. Forget about watching the actors on screen; watch the reactions of the women in front of you.
Watch the way they sink down into their seats and almost sigh. Why do they do this?
Because all they want is for somebody to do that to them.
Every time I’ve ever been with a woman, I’ve had to claim her. Women will make it difficult, and they will test you. They will test you to make sure that you can be 100% vulnerable with them.
She tells you that she broke up with her boyfriend of two years and she called you. Now she’s sitting in front of you, looking into your eyes and telling you how hot everything is. You have to grab her right then and say, “ I have been thinking about you for the last year,” and just spit it out.
Many guys will try to avoid sounding needy. That doesn’t sound needy – it’s the truth! Speak the truth. You can stand behind the truth, and you’ll never have to backtrack.
You should never have to regret not doing something: I should have done this or I should have done that. That shoulda-woulda-coulda game will kill you. You want to eliminate the shoulda-woulda-couldas from your life entirely.
Don’t think, I should have done this, I could have done that. Some guys at the end of a bootcamp tell me, “I should have done this a year ago!” No, you weren’t ready. There’s that old saying, “when the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” You just weren’t ready, and that’s okay.
I probably should have bought a house in 2002 when they were dirt-cheap. I had the money to pay the mortgage and loans were certainly easier to get. But I just wasn’t educated enough and I didn’t do it. Now I’m paying double for it.
You pay for your lessons a few years down the road. It might be in lost time, but it doesn’t matter. You did it when you did it. Don’t worry about the time that you didn’t do it – just do it now! There is never going to be “perfect” timing for anything.
I had one guy tell me he was going to wait for a while to do a bootcamp. What are you waiting for? Just do it! Make the decision and do it. Do it, own it, and be okay with it.
It’s all about being vulnerable. You don’t think I’m vulnerable? I have 210 videos on YouTube, and the shit that people write under those videos…
It’s at the point now that sometimes when I do a video that will be posted on YouTube, I will even look at the camera and say to them, “alright you people who think that this is funny or those of you who don’t understand try to open your mind!”
I put myself out there every single day. I write, I post videos – and these videos are often shot in my house, sometimes I’m even stuttering.
In response to a video I posted called “How to Appear Confident When Meeting Women,” some guy today wrote, “David, you’re so wrong. How to APPEAR confident? You have to BE confident to meet women!”
No, if you have no confidence, you have to fake that confidence first. He missed the point of the entire video, and he was giving me a lecture.
I love people who don’t want to post their profile on match.com: “oh my god, what if someone sees me?” Great, then they can walk up to you and ask you, “aren’t you on match.com?” and you can have an opening conversation!
You want to expose yourself. If you’re not 100% vulnerable in life, the day you die you’ll have a flashback and realize, holy shit, what have I missed?
When you die, you don’t want to feel like you’ve missed anything. You want to celebrate your life and everything you’ve done. Death is a celebration of your life and the things you’ve accomplished. When people say that a person died too early, that just means that the person didn’t do enough stuff.
We all die. Death and taxes, right? We can manipulate and cheat the tax system throughout our adult lives – the system is set up for entrepreneurs! We have so many write-offs that the rest of you don’t have, but we still do have to pay something.
Death is really the only thing that you can’t cheat – but life is what most people cheat.
So if you don’t go to sleep with a smile on your face every night, you’re doing something wrong. I don’t know about you guys, but when I go to sleep, I can’t wait for the morning. I hate mornings, but I can’t ever wait for it.
Some nights I don’t want to go to bed. If it’s two o’clock in the morning, I ask myself why I have to go to bed – I just want to keep living!
Of course, you need to recharge your batteries at night, but I can recharge during the day. You see me check out for five minutes every now and then, I take little catnaps in my head. I go into my own little world for a bit and rest. I don’t hear anything or see anything when I’m in me-world. It’s great.
But sometimes when you go to bed, you think, oh man, what am I missing?
It’s a good thing that there is not much going on in the world between about 3:00 am and 9:00 am. I go to bed at about two and I wake up at nine.
Every night when you go to bed, you want to think, what were my wins today? What did I do? How did I live my life to the fullest?
This ride is amazing. When you really embrace it, it’s the most amazing thing.
Life is the best gift you can give anybody. When my birthday comes, people always ask what they can get me, and I say, “nothing.” I don’t ever want to get gifts from anyone. (It’s July 1st, in case anyone wants to get me a… just kidding!)
I don’t ever want a material gift, because the best gift is just spending time with people. I usually like to spend the day by myself on my birthday. I like to walk the beach with my dog, hang out and don’t do shit.
Anyway, you want to celebrate life every day, and you don’t want to cheat life. Don’t ever cheat yourself. If you cheat yourself, you’re missing out on so many opportunities.
When I was in London doing a bootcamp, I was supposed to go up to the country to spend a few days with friends, but plans changed at the last minute!
So I was like, bummer, man, I’m stuck in London for three days! Oh, that sucks. Too bad for me. There’s so much to do there, and there are so many people to have fun with. I had to find another hotel room, but oh, that was certainly tough to do in a city!
My whole plans changed at the last minute, and I was digging it. I just thought, oh great – three more days to explore London? That’s awesome!
London is kind of like a second home for me now; I’ve spent two weeks there this year, and I’ve been coming twice a year. I’m learning the city and I’m so comfortable there now. Nothing is new anymore, but it is still all there for me.
Todays video is all about body language and not being so stiff when talking to women.
Enjoy your Saturday!!
great post!
I used think, i shouda, coulda and woulda way too many times. It made feel not ease with myself. I now accept it for what it is, and do the best in the moment.
Like you said, the teacher shows up when the student is ready.
I completely agree about being vulnerable. I think the main reason that people don’t have happy dating lives is because they were overly concerned with their ego and just couldn’t bare to put themselves out there.
David – What color is the sky in this “me” world of yours.
Good topic. I think it all comes down to fear. People who act (or don’t act) out of fear usually make the wrong decisions, or at least not the best decisions. We’re all vulnerable so you might as well accept it and own it. If you admit it, you can own it and not let it own you. There really isn’t much that I’m fearful of anymore and boy does it feel great.
You’re completely full of it. Every relationship I’ve ever been in; I’ve been vulnerable and always expressed my true feelings and it’s never ended well. Women don’t want a “vulnerable man”; most women only want men that are complete assholes and CLAIM to want a vulnerable man.
Darryl
Look in the mirror and go deeper here.
Your relationships end for all kinds of reasons.
Right now you are acting like an angry boy and blaming things on others,
How long were these relationships?
The thing about chick flick is…..
every time i watch them, i’ll go “awwww i want to fall in love too”
which in turns makes me feel like crap :/
David,
about 2 yrs, 5 1/2 yrs & a few months
Please tell me how I’m “blaming others”; when each has ended with the woman saying
1) I found someone else
2) (after nearly 5 years of marriage) You’re too nice, I don’t love you anymore – I want a divorce
3) I found someone else
?
Each time with no further info.
or “nothing you say will change my mind”
David watching your video helped in some way of how I may approach a guy. A story here some guys that I talk to have gotten comfortable with me they will talk about anything they want usually I will have a cute little come back. The reason why I may seem shy is I don’t know the stranger. To get to know a woman you need to remember we are strangers when we meet. Best of all be yourself it does not cost anything. Not only does your videos help men but they help us women too.
David
Do you remember Christian Carter’s Inside The Mind of A Man? You were a guest speaker on there. That is how I found out about you. I know this is off the topic and I do respect you and Chris Carter. I liked your presentation about Whole Foods it kind of reminded me of our Wal Mart here in Nashville. And I enjoyed the panel of four.
Daryl,
It sucks you have been hurt as you have, and the reasons given are extra damaging, but those relationships did not end because you were too vulnerable or too nice. I also don’t buy the “you ceased to be a challenge” type argument often put out by the PUA community. Relationships end for numerous reasons, and not all relationships are meant to last. 50% of marriage end in divorce. It’s a fact: people’s feelings do change for any number of reasons, shallow or big. Relationships ending is extremely painful.
There is not necessarily anything you did (or failed to do) that contributed to those relationships ending, and just because a relationship ends does not mean it was a failure, a wasted of time, or you were at fault.
Being vulnerable does not mean being needy, being weak, or relying on someone for support. It means you are willing to genuinely connect with someone, to be truly intimate. An example: you are feeling shy and nervous around a girl. She’ll pick up on that. It is perfectly ok to say “to be honest, I’m feeling a bit shy, it’s not every day I meet someone so passionate about the arts. That was something I always wish I could have explored more. Do you ever get nervous when you meet new interesting people?” I know some PUA people will say “NO” to that advice but others will advocate you just admit it and push past it, because the woman will likely say “I totally know what you mean, I get that way all the time.” Now if you say “I’m nervous because I’m not good at meeting women” THAT will turn her off, but you can reveal vulnerabilities with a positive attitude.
You obtain intimacy by sharing vulnerabilities. The reasons you had those relationships in the first place was because you were vulnerable; you were willing to risk intimacy. The fact that they lasted so long demonstrates that you have many attractive things about you, or those women would have never been with you so long. Those relationships are not failures, they are successes. It sucks those women weren’t able to say months earlier “I don’t like this about our relationship” or “I just don’t feel this relationship is going any further, my gut tells me it’s over, I am sorry,” but if you want to enter more relationships, I encourage you adopt a more positive outlook. It’s not easy, but those relationships ending were not because you were vulnerable or too nice. I would argue that being vulnerable and nice are qualities that made those women want to be with you in the first place rather than contributing to their demise. A girl didn’t meet someone else because you were too nice and vulnerable — even though maybe you do need more boundaries, I can’t say — it was because something was not right with the relationship and they weren’t willing to be vulnerable to you and admit it before they lined up someone else.
Loved the video – I laughed out loud and yes, that WAS what I would have been thinking that you were REALLY thinking and/or doing!
Thanks for the post, David. Your stuff has been very motivating to me, esp. about self-love.
Even though I’m on of the guys in their 20s I would like to ask something: Don’t you think there’s a fine line between being vulnerable and GIVING YOUR POWER AWAY? (e.g. “ I have been thinking about you for the last year,”).
I’m a very honest guy and dislike manipulation but I think women shouldn’t ever feel they completely got you.
For me vulnerable is:
Woman: have you ever been in love? (do you love me?)
Me: honestly, I think I’m not ready for love yet. To be in love for real one should learn first to completely love himself to the fullest, and I’m still one my way of learning that.
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Woman: I used to go to school and then I did this and that.
Me: Look, could you please repeat what kind of school did you attend, I still have trouble being a good listener while I’m looking into the eyes of a beautiful girl like you)
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That’s just IMO. Thanks David.
Ok I will admit I have been through several bad relationships in the past. But that is past why relive something that is dead and gone. The relationships ended the way they did because they were not meant to be. We both are guilty in some way. But NOT ALL WOMEN AND MEN are the same way. There are dogs of a nasty breed out there and they are good guys. I know I have met some nice guys in my past. It is a gamble you take when you approach someone for the first time not knowing what the outcome is all about. If a person can see into the future what is the person looking for? If hindsight was better than foresight than we would be better off. I could walk up to a guy today and say hi or look at him if he is not interested well he would walk away. That goes the same way with me. If I DON’T WANT YOU, I DON’T WANT YOU. That is final not because I was thinking you were like those I dated or was married too. The chemistry is not there…it is like trying to sleep with someone and cant get it up. When you see a person that you are interested in then walk up to them using David’s way. You wont know unless you try. I have learned from my experiences and came to the conclusion that guys are such strange bed fellows. They are fun to learn from that is what makes us different from man and woman. Past is past move on to the next one until you find the one you are looking for. Maybe David has not found the one yet but when he does he will know. Seek and ye shall find go out for opportunity awaits you.
Yes I am interested in a guy and I would like to learn on how I can keep him interested. Thank you David for teaching me these things. I will admit I listened to Chris Carter’s CD’s and found you interesting I never thought trying to meet someone in a grocery store but where I live is a small town. Everybody knows everybody. Where is your physical, emotional and intellectual attractions for this person ask yourself do you have the inward/outward feelings for this person without them it is useless.
Also when you think negative or doubtful before or during the relationship then something is telling you it is not going to work. That is why some guys get distant and withdrawn and us women will walk away. It is best to find out early than too late. Head games are for fools the ones who are wise will not play these games. I have had too many played on me and for immature people.
Daryl
Since you have a hardship on women. Can you explain something to me why do men get distant and withdrawn towards women? And anyway I am here to learn from David Wygant not to be abused by someone who needs to GROW UP! Life is a gamble we live and learn because your relationship with women failed not all the guys will fail. By your blogs I can see why the woman would leave you. David Wygant like others are trying to help us stay together not bicker and fight and show us how to gain the relationship we seek. I appreciate what David Wygant and Chris Carter is doing for us. So don’t bash what they are trying to teach or tell us.
David
I would like to thank you for coming up with this website and allowing us to speak to our mind this way we can tell you what we think about each topic. Thanks for wanting to be there for us and continue the good work it is helping me to learn. I still hear from Chris but no offense I have to remember which one of you sent me the newsletters.
Sandra,
I have no clue why men become distant and withdrawn; it’s not something I do.
David… You nailed it yet again! Guys go out & rent “How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days”, It’s hilarious & it has that scene at the end when she says she “has to leave” & he calls her bluff & says “bullshit!” ….. that’s the sink in the chair…ahhhh moment for me, lol. M.C.’s smile doesn’t hurt either.. anyway, what Daryll was missing (and I think all he’s looking for is all the attention he’s getting) is that real women, not little girls who look like women, but real women want a man who is strong enough to recognize that letting that one woman in your life know she has you is a HUGE turn on. And it doesn’t mean you have to be sappy about it, or get afraid of losing you ‘man card’… it’s about just having that one moment when you let her know in no uncertain terms that you belong to her and vice versa…
Jill,
I’m not “looking for attention”; I truly want to be loved. Can you tell me where to find one of these “real women” that will not put me in the “friend zone”?
Darryl,
Just like David said earlier, you need to look in the mirror & really examine your part in the break-ups. None of us likes to hear/see what we’ve done to contribute to the “mess” but nothing is EVER one sided.
Watch any number of David’s videos on Youtube, we’re EVERYWHERE!!!! But you won’t find us UNLESS and UNTIL you are ready to make the connection.
I’ve lived thru an abusive 20 yr marriage, spent the past 2yrs on my own & just recently took the “plunge” into dating…. David KNOWS what he’s talking about. I couldn’t even look a guy in the neck, let alone in the eyes two years ago… now I’m actually the one starting converstaions! I even smile first. I had to buy a car this week and had three guys working with me! And the finance guy hugged me and kissed my cheek when I left!!!
So, seriously, IF you want to find REAL women and you want DiFFERENT results, then you need to stop everything you are currently doing, stop blaming the women in your past, stop even looking back and just move FORWARD in a completely fresh direction, listen to and follow David’s advice – IT’S GOLDEN! You won’t regret it, the only things we regret in this life are the opportunities we never took, the chances we missed.
Daryl
Ok this is what I have learned from a different source. This goes for women as well. We all have different attraction levels and the three I know are Physical, Emotional, and Intellectual Attractions. Physical attraction only lasts for so long. Emotional are the feelings we have for one another that brings us together. Intellectual are the ones that help us to learn from one another. A man can go on physical and emotional with a woman for a while when the intellectual attraction has faded away. But when the physical leaves that only leaves the emotional attraction. A man can become distant and withdrawn from the woman when she becomes argumentive with him and he does not understand why.
This one is for you.
Daryl
I am 48 years old and have been down that block a time or two. Keep trying you will find her just take it one day one step at a time. Wish you luck.
David,
I really enjoy your videos and posts. You write like you’re talking directly to a good friend and i really appreciate that. Keep up the good work.
If I knew what I did to contribute to my ex-wife telling me “I don’t love you anymore; you’re ‘too nice’ – I want a divorce”; then I certainly would examine that and try to make a change.
I’m not saying that I’m flawless, far from it. I just don’t know what to examine and change.
I’ve had women not like me because of my political beliefs; because I don’t wear expensive clothing; because I’m “too old”, “too young” and a handful of other reasons.
I’m not blaming you ladies for that (and apologize if it comes across that way); but it destroys a man’s ego and confidence to be rejected. And there is no magic button to restore that lost confidence – if there is one, please tell me.
PS
I was on a cruise last weekend, flirted with several women; was rejected or ignored by all of them. So, it’s not like I’m not trying to approach/talk to women.
Daryl
Not all men are attractive to me. I work with a lot of guys from different races even guys who went through break ups. I went through my last marriage and I don’t brag about it and need to respect the internet. But he did something that I would not do with my own brother with his own sister. Now that is heartbreaking in itself I lost all my respect for him. But I see where you are coming from. Sometimes life deals us a bad hand but there is always tomorrow and another woman waiting on every corner. Not all women are bad I work with an individual that wont even consider marrying again for what his wife did to him. But today we are friends and I do understand each everyone has their own beliefs and political ways. I have a question for you can you find me a man that understands me? We were created differently man from woman. Let you in on a secret she was not even committed to you in the beginning. So as Taylor Swift would put in her song she just another picture to burn. It will take time to heal your wounds. But you need a woman who will understand you and want to be beside you. I know for I have someone else in my life but I will wait until we are both certain that is what we want to do first. It took me almost two years to get over an eight year relationship with my last husband. But that is past and I am ready to live the future don’t give up you are still a man like one country song would put it Thank God I Am Still A Guy.
Well it looks like our chick flick turned into a session of Daryl needing help. Daryl you did the right thing and came to David Wygant’s site for help. He is a guy and they are others out there like you that seek advice. We may not have the answers for you but we are to help each other. I hope I may have helped you in some ways. But Daryl I don’t know your wife and why she did what she did. Now to chick flicks.
I have some guys that will come up to me and say has anyone told you..you are a beautiful woman. I would say no but thank you. Now if you want to talk to me about jewelry that is fine but I don’t wear jewelry. There are guys that I am friends with we talk about things ranging from politics to sexual relationships or mainly work. It depends but there is one that I will give a little hell because he is a straight up democrat and I am a republican. Good chemistry aint it but like one guy will tell me it is all in fun and we are still friends. There is this one guy that I will joke around with him and pretend to beat him up he is younger than I. There is one I will joke around with just about anything but he has someone. Who knows what may turn up at work with these guys.
Sandra Hutchens
OK, Darryl… you did it, you put yourself out there and flirted with those women, that’s great! DON’T take it personally, think Seinfeld “It’s not you, it’s me” you’re actually just practicing on them right now, ok??
NOW…ditch this thread and move over to David’s “Window Shop Your Life-Pushing Boundries” Blog …. it has conversation, man to man w/David about pushing thru barriers, etc and I think some ideas you might find interesting. Give it a try …. I’m going to look and see if you post there by the way! There, that’s your challenge from me for the day! = )
David
I have heard about several people’s relationships I try to help them. But there are the ones who stay together. I helped one guy and his wife to get back together and guess what they moved to another state and started their life a new. Like you I have heard all kinds especially a couple who is trying to cope with a baby girl of theirs but that is apart of motherhood. She will learn somehow. I have helped a guy to realize that he needed to let go of the past in order to take care of the individual that is in his life. Today he will say only I care about is this woman. The younger one I talk about him and I joke about him getting hitched up. But one thing we are here to help one another. Thanks for all you have done.
Sandra Hutchens
Jill,
How does one NOT take it presonally when that person IS being rejected?
If you want to respond to my email you may, that way we’re not hijacking David’s blog.
Jill
I want to compliment you on what you said to Daryl. Maybe us two together can get him back on track with the help of David of course.
Daryl
Go get him man.
Jill
I believe that you have a friend for life here. Keep up the good work and I hope that you can help our guy Daryl. It sounds like he needs the words from a female.
Here is some advice:
There are times that we need the arms of a female or male to comfort us. When we are alone and need these things we go out and seek this. It is ok to love your friend I wish the best to all that blog here and Happy Holidays. Gotta go and do housework. Here in Cheatham County TN we are under Ice Warning conditions starting at 4pm this evening lasting until 9am cst Tuesday morning.
I continue to hear the word “nice” in repetition. By being nice do you mean being needy and being willing to let women dictate to you? Or do you mean just being socially savvy and showing her that you’re a good person?
Reese
Women by nature are nice. But being needy and clingy is a woman who is codependent on the man. That is what I call a debutante. I can’t stand these women. You have women who expect too much from a man and will take advantage of. Women think in terms of being loving and nuturing creatures.
I only skimmed over the comments for for Darryl:
David talks about being vulnerable in strength. You have to own who you are first. Being vulnerable means being able to accept ALL of who you are.
If your ex-wife tells you “you are too nice”, that probably means you are being needy and weak.
A woman likes a STRONG man. By strong, I mean a man who has purpose, he is fit to make things happen and take care of things according to his purpose. He is honest and authentic with his actions and he can accept faults when he has them.
A lot of times, “nice guys” would claim they are authentic and honest with their feelings but they really are not. They are “too nice” in the sense that they allow other people to walk all over them. If you put other people’s needs over yours too often, people don’t respect you.
It’s about self love and self respect. If you behave in ways that contradict that, the woman will feel that you are too nice.
Are you saying that because I’m a laid back person that I’m “nice” and therefore unworthy of love?
No Darryl. I did not say that.
You are making a negative assumption on what I wrote. I don’t know you in person so I can only describe situations I’ve experienced or situations I’ve seen through coaching.
I am a nice guy too. Personally, I don’t like to call myself nice. I am kind. That’s a better word. I am also very very laid back.
A few years ago when I didn’t have any success with women, women would usually describe me as nice.
However, after I started improving myself, after I started changing the way I look at myself, after I made sure all my behaviors reflected self-love, sell-respect and authenticity to my true feelings, women stopped describing me as “nice”.
They now call me sexy, or sweet, or fun, or easy-going or loving.
I’m going to reiterate what David told you because my point is very simple.
Take a deep look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself what you did or what behaviors you portrayed that may have turned the women in your life off.
It’s not always YOUR fault if something doesn’t work out, Sometimes it’s her fault… but it will give you a better indication of whether or not you truly are “too nice.”
Forgive me for playing butinski
Kheim
I happen to see a pic of Darryl and he is only 18 yrs younger than I. He looks like the kind of person that needs a woman that will understand him. It goes both ways in relationships. Did you know that in some marital relationships that the woman is not always the victim but the man is. When I see a man and say he is nice I am not meaning that he is lower than man. It is how you look at a person you can not judge a book by its cover. But you can tell by the fruits they bear. I have also spoke to Darryl by way of email and he seems like he is a lovable person. Yes we all are worthy of love. Let David speak for himself. Lets see if you can counsel me I don’t need a counselor I have the best one yet would like to know who he is: Lord Jesus Christ the director of my life and you can not beat him.
Kheim
From a woman’s viewpoint if I was a few years younger and have not been promised to someone else by our Lord Jesus I would go out on a date with Darryl.
Darryl
I want to tell you something
I have talked to guys who have told me that young women they have dated are clueless. I am not trying to tell you what to do. But seek someone who is about two or three years older than you are that away you have a woman that is understanding and has been there.
Kheim
IF a man says that he is going to do something for me and does not do it. Let me in on a story of mine when I was a teenager I was seeing this guy and he said oh I will call you and come to see you well I waited all day and guess what! NO CALL NO SHOW!!!!!!! Years go by and he becomes one of my dad’s employees and he was bragging about what he had done. But the last person he did not expect to hear this was me. I said to my dad and his friend that were sitting at the table I am going to put the brakes on his paddie wagon. I said He is no GENTLEMEN FOR HE IS NOT A MAN OF HIS WORD AND IS NOT TO BE TRUSTED!!!!!!!!!!! For when a gentleman tells a lady he is going to do something for her he should follow through. I looked at my dad and said you can tell him (now you talk about two guys with eyes of saucer plates when I said it). Or better yet I will tell him. My dad said don’t worry about that I will tell him. Did you know within two or three months later he apologized and started to show me he was a man of his word and a gentlemen. But him and I talked later and I told him that was the past and it was not meant to be what was is awaiting him in the house. Yes his wife. His friend was gentleman enough to speak to his lady about marrying another woman after I said this. Now Read This And Weep
Darryl came to me as a gentleman and I spoke to him as a lady.
Darryl,
Sorry for not being on for a few days. I wanted to check in on you. IGNORE Khiem please. Kudos to Sandra! I would’ve emailed…I’m not too blog-literate or I’d email you directly…I’ll figure it out. Anyway I completely agree with Sandra…date women a few years older. We’ve “been there, done that” and we’re generally done with all of the bull-s**t. We’ve gotten to a point of being able to see a decent person for who he or she really is and we appreciate the small things.
Whatever you do, take the next relationship slowly. Take each small success in the relationship and build on it. Even if the “relationship” lasts two weeks…it has to have something to learn from and build on. I know the guy I’m dating right now I’m learning VOLUMES about what David calls “man-speak” from… seriously, this guy doesn’t speak anything but! LOL So even if it doesn’t go anywhere, I’m going to have a masters degree in a second language!! = ) Keep your chin up!!!
I guess my email isn’t attached to my name.
Jill,
my email is dwp2016@dwp2016.org
Dan
So you have everyone on your side again I see. Well today at work I spoke to a woman friend of mine and like me she had been through a nasty divorce. See when you speak to a woman that has a nasty taste in their mouth about men and the other tells her what happened well it sends up a red flag. No names mentioned. But she said way to go and you told him alright and we had a bad name for we both thought about at the same time.
Oh sweetheart would you like to give us a lesson in the five f’s and the trophies on your and how many notches you have on your pistol. Now leave me alone. Hey you I came up with 4f’s and one s. Should I remind you: find them, fool them, f*** them forget them. Well mine are find them fool them stroke them f*** them and flee them. Guys like you make me want to sing Glory Halejuah Praise God I am Single for if you were with me you would kicked out to the curb so fast all you will be looking at is the four directions.
Dont ever get me on my man’s kick again or I will tell some secrets men don’t want other women to know.
Spoken to me by other men and how they cheat a woman out of the love she wants.
Oops Dan
I forgot find them fool them finger them f***them and forget them.
You DONT talk to a woman who is trying to recover from the issues in which men have put her through for I can tell you what us women that have been with nasty dogs like you think we think you are nothing but a sack of trouble.
David invited me to this blog area and I want to recover I don’t care what any of you think man or woman.
Yes I am on my man’s kick thanks to your loving cold hearted snake Dan