Challenge Her With Humor
February 13, 2010 
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How many times has this happened to you . . .
You walk over to a woman. You open her with a simple observation. When she responds, you have a great opportunity to use humor to keep the interaction going but you don’t take it. Your brain shuts down and you end up talking about useless nothing.
If this scenario sounds at all familiar to you, then you are going to want to check out today’s video. In it, you will see this exact scenario take place right before your eyes. Then I talk about how you can past this kind of awkward moment using humor.
Enjoy and have a great Saturday!
So the moral of this video is…
If theres something funny you can say to her then say it no matter what??
Let David Wygant lead us to a Perfect ’10s (great decade, and a great life.)
David, I’ve been in this type of situation before, exactly in Nick’s position where I approached a woman, and she wasn’t giving me much to work with.
Say I do use humor, and it still doesn’t give me a good reaction. Do I keep talking to her until I get a response or do I just excuse myself?
Also, say if I met a beautiful girl at whole foods, and I approached her and got a genuine connection going, and got the digits. If I see another girl that I’m attracted to, and that girl is still in whole foods, won’t she think I’m a player if I go hit on other girls?
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I saw “Hitch” again with some friends last night David. You look good as a black man. That movie has some funny parts, so this post isn’t completely off topic either.
Cloud? like the lead character in the game Final Fantasy 7?
Love Willl, but Dave, when are you going to post videos of yourself doing the approach…. or some of your coaches like Coach Jacob, anyone? that would be very interesting…
Also, isn’t Whole Foods one of the toughest places to pick up a woman? Your skill level has to be rather advanced… It’s one thing to get a conversation going, but it’s another to get a date out of it… I read in Mystery’s book that he didn’t think supermarkets were good place as he had tried every single venue possible and found supermarkets rather tough for him. He told his student that it would be rather tough and to work on going to clubs. Just curious how you feel about his views?
This just happened to me about an hour ago. I was waiting for a tram with a girl, an old ex and I saw I girl I liked, and luck struck me.My friend knew her. We started talking and I challenged her, I was direct,funny ,all the things I should do and at one time I even tought he connected…
But after a few minutes she was like…wow!wtf? What is this guy trying to do? She didn’t respond very good to that.Maybe it happened cause she was 17 or maybe I screwed up or what?I know I shouldn’t care but I want to know, did I do something wrong or she just wasn’t expecting this?
I asked my friend cause I got off the tram the first, and she said that her reaction of me was” oh my god…pfff..eyes rolled over…”
I don’t know…i had the feeling the despite that we connected and I could be with her, I don’t want something out of it but I don’t want to get a bad name for myself from her.
Cloud–as far as not getting a good response to humor…the thing is to not be so focused on “getting a good response” and more about being in the moment and focused what YOU want and like. If the rest of the conversation flowed and you like her then continue and just chalk it up to a bad joke…you could even joke about your bad joke! If a girl doesn’t get your humor and you are like pulling teeth to get a reaction and the conversation is painful…why would you want to continue? I mean wouldn’t you want to be with someone who “gets” you? Not everyone has chemistry and a connection. Then move on to the next girl in whole foods:)
Thanks Coach Kim. I’m usually present during the conversation, but sometimes people aren’t use to people going up to them and starting up conversations (especially here in California), without them thinking you’re trying to get something from.
What about my player comment
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Cloud…be glad you live there.Here you are called a freak if you randomly aproach someone…
Haha, I wish he said that. That would have been great! I think sometimes I, and probably a lot of other men, am too serious when approaching women. Great video David.
The idea of not caring about the reaction, and just going for it, is very powerful and effective. I’m always bangin on about not giving a crap what other people think of you. Good to see this in the context of using humour. Just say it guys, if she didn’t find it funny it’s her problem, not yours
rules I learned to live by: “who cares what they think?”
as long as I’m honest, I don’t care what a woman think of me. if one is not willing to get to know me, she’s doing me a service because her girlfriends might be much better than her. ;D
you’ve got to learn to do what you want, not trying to please people.