Comments on: Caveman Sex Does Not Turn Her On!!!

By: Gina

Gina — Sun, 23 Sep 2007 03:39:03 +0000

Women do not fantasize about a violent encounter. They fantasize about one where they know and it is understood that they still have power to say stop. As far as the kissing and hugging afterwords, it is no different than an abusive husband/boyfriend. Physical affection and gifts always follow the abuse. No different. I can not believe anyone in this day and age still thinks anyone wants violance. In my situation, the guy had conections with the police somehow. My cloths were torn and I was returned to my car (amazingly) as I rounded the corner trying to get home a wreck, he was standing in the street talking to a cop. For a second I wanted to gun it and run him over. Not to smart with a cop for a witness. I am over it now, or I think I am.

By: nine

nine — Mon, 03 Sep 2007 02:02:52 +0000

hey i agree with mike every guy has the right to know there and then if women are pleased or not. men always end up being idiots for some reason. a few days ago i was reading an article about date rape on a recent women’s magazine and was so angered on a case where a guy has to suffer being labeled as a sex offender for the rest of his life even though it was clear that the girl lured him into getting laid

By: Mike

Mike — Tue, 28 Aug 2007 23:21:04 +0000

It sounds to me like a MAJOR miscommunication. The fact that this guy kept wanting to kiss and cuddle is very telling.

The fact is, many women love rough sex where they’re pinned, dominated etc. and are bored with tender gentle sex. It sounds to me like the guy had this in mind and thought that she was loving the experience. I think he was trying to fulfill a fantasy that he imagined her to have.

It’s terrible that it was such a bad experience for the woman, but if she never said “no” or “stop” and just tried to push him off once, then the guy probably just thought she was getting off on the “struggle.” Again, a lot of women love this kind of thing.

If something like this happens again, I would suggest saying, “Stop! Get the hell off of me! I’m in pain and not into this!” or anything like that.

There was so little communication, that the guy seems to have thought he pleased her. Why else would he have smiled at her and wanted to kiss and cuddle afterwards?

By: Anonymous Reader

Anonymous Reader — Fri, 24 Aug 2007 23:20:10 +0000

Yes, Kelly, allow me to ditto what David said … thank you for sharing your story! I greatly appreciate your support and your kind words!!

By: David

David — Fri, 24 Aug 2007 22:34:39 +0000

Kelly

Thanks for sharing!!! That was a very powerful posting and I am sure A.R will appreciate it!

By: Kelly

Kelly — Fri, 24 Aug 2007 21:56:59 +0000

Anonymous Reader,

The incident you described sounds a little bit on the rape side. I understand you don’t view him as a rapist and that you did intend to have sex with him, but if you are not given the chance to at least object to what he is doing (at any time during the act) is very wrong!

I will admit that I have had my share of booty-calls and none of them go along the lines of the incident you just wrote about.

As a victim of rape, it does not sound as if you actually consented to every part of the act. Just because you are not physically hit or left with red marks, does not mean you have given permission to this person to humiliate you or make you feel humiliated.

As far as punishment, I am a firm believer of the saying “What comes around goes around.” I have seen it many times.

I will share my personal experience of justice being served by a higher power. Like I said already, I have been raped, not violently so I never had bruises or broken body parts; I had emotional trauma mostly. It has been many years and I have gotten past the previous events that have happened in my life (I say that before I get any condolences, I am fine about it now). However, the man that raped/molested me has lost use of his body from the waist down. I never reported any instance of what happened to me, but I do feel that God is definitely giving this man the proper punishment. However, since I said I have moved passed my emotional issues that stemmed from being raped, I will say I will not be able to be in the same room with the man who did it to me; I have not forgotten, nor will I ever forget how he has changed my life.

A.R. you are not wrong for not wanting to talk to him ever again, nor is there any law/higher power that says you have to. You are right for not wanting to even think of this person ever again. You, as you already are thinking, are entitled to do what you feel is best for you. You are the only one that has to deal with what happened and you are the only one that has to be able to move on from the experience. I support your decisions and your strength to tell others what has happened. I wish you happiness!

By: Mr. Brown

Mr. Brown — Fri, 24 Aug 2007 19:55:28 +0000

To me, not only does he sound like a caveman, but he sounds like an asshole and a rapist (based off the description given in the blog); I am not a lawyer (yet), but in fact, in some jurisdictions it might have been.

By: Joan

Joan — Thu, 23 Aug 2007 16:11:46 +0000

Joe;
Thats the you I know and value so much as my friend.
I for one know—it is of great value and insight. I am glad to know you aren’t leaving me!:)) lol
Good morning Darkpoet, how is your day going?

By: darkpoet

darkpoet — Thu, 23 Aug 2007 14:39:50 +0000

i never said i was leaving, just that i’m probably not going to post as often, but knowing me i probably will. as for people who think my opinion is value on here, maybe it is, maybe not. who knows? only the one who value it know, i suppose..but i’ll give it regardless.
cheers,
Joe

By: Desperate Housewife

Desperate Housewife — Thu, 23 Aug 2007 07:57:20 +0000

Darkpoet;

It would be a shame to lose you! You are one of the real men I see here and unafraid to speak your mind! That counts for a world of respect:)

I for one value you as a man and your opinion in the highest of status.