Remember when we were little kids, we used to always say “I’ll be your best friend if…”? I was thinking about that the other day and how funny that is. I used to say that all the time to people.

“Hey look, man, if you come over to John’s house today—because I don’t want to play with him alone—I’ll be your best friend.”

Or “Hey, if you pick me up from school later on, I’ll be your best friend.” I was thinking about all those deals I made, and, I’ve got a lot of best friends!

So here’s the deal I’m going to make with all of you: I’ve got a brand new book coming out called Naked. It’s incredible. It teaches you how to be nude—alright, maybe not nude, but it teaches you how to get past all of your fears, get rid of all your negative thinking, and really, really reformulate your belief systems.

In all my years of coaching people, what I’ve realized the most is that if you don’t believe you can do it, then you’ll never do it. It doesn’t matter what you study. It doesn’t matter what you learn. It doesn’t matter what approaches you make. If you really don’t believe in yourself, if you really don’t believe that you have the gift, that you’re an amazing person and somebody that’s worth dating, then you’re dating all wrong.

So I’ll be your best friend if you go and purchase my book. Because here’s the deal: I don’t ask any of you for much. As you know, I post on this blog every single day, FREE, whether you buy products or not. I post videos up on Youtube for FREE, whether you buy products or not. I enjoy that. I enjoy giving away videos and giving away things and podcasts, so all of you have a much better dating life.

But this time I’m going to ask something of you. I want my book to become the number one best seller on Amazon. The only way to do that is if you get everybody, including yourself, to buy it. It’s $10 on Amazon. That’s all. And if you do buy the book, Naked, you know what that means? It means that I’m going to be your best friend. That’s what it means.

The book is phenomenal. It really is 15 years of my coaching put into one book. It really is everything that I had gone through in my own personal life and how I got emotionally naked and was able to acquire the friends and the relationships that I desire.

So, purchase the book. And, in order for us to be BFLs—that’s best friends for life—I want you to leave a review on Amazon when you’re done reading it. Then, when anybody asks you, “Hey, who’s your best friend?,” you can respond with, “David Wygant: he’s my best friend because I bought his book, Naked.”

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This Friday’s blog was going to be another tip from me on navigating the bar scene. I was going to talk about cockblocking, but I’ve been reading some of the recent comments on the blog, and instead I want to write today’s blog in response to some of the comments. We’ll talk about cockblocks next week.

So you’re on the blog reading all this great advice about how to meet women, how to date, and how to get yourself into a relationship. Problem is, when you go out there in real life, you can’t put any of the information we give you to use because you’re not actually meeting anyone. There’s no women around when you go out. Or you can’t approach. Or you do approach but you keep getting No-Thank-Yous.

Why is this happening to you? Maybe you think you’re ugly. Maybe you’re short. Maybe you drive a shitty, beat-up car. So you tell yourself that women are turned off by all of this. They’re so turned off by you. What women are really attracted to is a guy with a full head of hair, 6’2”, and a vacation house in Miami.

Do you have what it takes to get the woman you desire?

And you just can’t compete with a guy like that. You’ve been dealt a shitty hand in life, and all the dating advice in the world isn’t going to change the fact that you’re just not attractive to women.

So you come on the blog and you say, “Screw you David, screw you Shogo, screw Intern Dan, whoever, you give us all this esoteric mindset advice on how to be confident, but all the confidence in the world is not going to make up for the fact that I’m short, fat, bald, and broke, and the cold hard truth is that women are turned off by that.”

You want to attract a lot of women? You want to be a lady’s man? If that’s what you want, here’s the news:

Looks matter. Height matters. Money in the bank matters.

That’s right, all these things–and much much more–do in fact make a difference when it comes down to attracting women. But there’s only so much you can do about any of that. You can’t change it, so why on earth spend another minute dwelling on it?

(And more importantly, all the looks and money in the world will only get you so far in your success with women, but that’s another blog for another day.)

What you need to do is take action and do something about the things that you can actually improve on. And more importantly, you need to let go of the things you can never change about yourself.

You really need to let it go.

You hate your height and you’re bitching about?

Fine. You’re short. I get it.

What do you want from people? Unless you’re willing to go to China to have metal rods implanted into your shins, there is nothing anybody in the world can do about that. There is absolutely no use in you dwelling on the things you don’t like about yourself and beating yourself up over the fact that some woman out there who you don’t even know isn’t going to date you for it.

Is it true that if you’re 5’6”, you will never have a girlfriend who only dates men over 5’10″?

Yes, if that is an absolute requirement for her, that is true. You will never date a woman like that.

Is it true that I, Shogo, will never date a woman who will not go out with an Asian man?

Yes, that is also true. I am Asian. I will never be able to date a woman like that, not for the rest of my life.

The difference with me is that you will never see me sitting around, bitching and moaning about it. I don’t dwell on that for a single moment. I don’t want to be with a woman who doesn’t want me. It doesn’t upset me in the least.

And simply having that mindset automatically makes me more attractive to more women.

Here’s an exercise I want everybody to do:

Get out three sheets of paper. On one sheet, write down all the things about yourself that you don’t like. Take your time with it. And be specific. Don’t just write, “I’m ugly.” Write, “I don’t like the acne scars on my cheekbones.” Write things like, “I don’t like the extra flab on my belly.” “I am 4 inches shorter than I’d like to be.” “My penis is 2 inches shorter than I’d like it to be.” “I don’t like the fact that I have few friends.” “I don’t like my disheveled haircut and dandruff.” “I don’t like my glasses and my dorky wardrobe.”

Write all of that stuff out. Make the list as long as you want and take your time doing it.

Now review that list. Read through each item. On the second sheet, I want you to rewrite each thing that, with some work, you could actually take steps to change about yourself. On the third sheet, rewrite each thing that is a permanent part of you and that YOU CANNOT EVER CHANGE ABOUT YOURSELF.

Review that third sheet. Look at it and internalize it. This is who you are. This is who you are for the rest of your life and THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO TO CHANGE THAT.

You need to embrace it. You need to love every single thing you wrote about yourself on that third sheet. This is who you are.  These are the things that will never change about you, so fuck anyone who is unwilling to accept you for that. But the first step starts with you accepting yourself and accepting all of your little ugly bits.

You are who you are, guys. We all have things we don’t like about ourselves. Change the things about yourself that you can change, and embrace the things about yourself that you cannot change.

A client of mine recently reunited with a woman he used to have a crush on in high school, after they found each other on Facebook ten years later. They didn’t know each other very well in school, but they hung recently and hit it off.

They had dinner together, then she invited him over to her place for some drinks. He followed.

The woman had a young daughter, and once the daughter went to bed, my client moved in to try to kiss her. She turned her head away, but they continued chatting. My client immediately thought that she rejected him and that he was put in the friend zone, and didn’t make another move.

A little later, she suggested that he sleep on the couch because they had both been drinking. In the middle of the night, the woman came into the living room and got under his covers and laid down with him. Assuming she wanted to hook up, he then started feeling her up.

She pushed his hand away and said she just wanted to cuddle. Then she slept in his arms for the rest of the night.

Foreplay

The next day my client received a Facebook message from her saying that she was sorry about the situation last night, but it’s not something she does with guys right at the beginning.

Ok, let’s break this down:

My client thought he was in the friend zone because this girl did not want to hook up with him and in his mind, she was sending him mixed signals.

Was he in the friend zone? NO. Was she sending him mixed signals? Maybe, but we’ll talk about why that doesn’t matter.

First, you are NEVER in the friend zone on the first date with a woman. You are not friends with a woman on a first date, so you cannot be in the friend zone. Unless you’ve been hanging out with her for a while with no spark, or she says right in the beginning, “I like you better as a friend,” or “Let’s just be friends,” or something like that, you are not in the friend zone.

So, was she giving him mixed signals here?

Let’s dig into how female psychology works. My client assumed that because she invited him over for drinks that she wanted to hook up. Then he assumed that because she offered for him to sleep on the couch that she wanted to hook up. Then he assumed that because she got under the covers that she wanted to hook up.

He was wrong each time.

So if she liked him, why didn’t she want to get physical with him? After all, if you’re attracted to somebody, you will want to have sex, right?

Kind of. The problem with my client is that he was thinking too much like a man. If you’re a typical guy, the only thing on your mind is the shortest point from the tip of your penis to the entrance of her vagina. You’re attracted to a woman, you want to have sex. Period.

Not so fast with women. Sure, just like men, some women will be horny right then and there and are just craving some action. Even for women who are looking for a relationship, she may be really attracted to the guy and act on impulse and sleep with him, and still want a relationship with him later on.

There is no hard rule. Every woman is different, just like every man is different, and it all depends on where they’re at in life.

A young girl in her 20′s may be really concerned about finding the right guy and want to move slowly because she wants to be romanced and to feel special. Another girl in her 20′s may be sexually open or going through a phase where she wants to sleep with a guy right away. Some women are looking for relationships and will hold off on sex until they’re in one. Some women have been burned in the past and don’t want to get hurt again. Some have children and are looking for a guy who is stable and dependable, who will be there when she needs to call on someone for support. Some women have freed themselves up sexually and all they want right now is sex (the infamous “cougar”).

But most of the time, and this is the biggest lesson a lot of guys need to learn if you really want to turn her on, is that YOU HAVE TO TAKE IT SLOW. Emotions and fantasy have to take time to cultivate and they come into play slowly, not overnight. You have to keep your pants on. You have to lead my taking small steps, being the one to end things first and knowing when to leave, letting the sexual tension build, and giving her space.

You have to be patient with the woman you’re with. Just because you’re turned on does not mean that the pants need to come flying off. For a guy, sex is the goal. No sex? Fail. For a woman, intercourse is not the goal. Cuddling counts. Making out counts. Oral sex counts. Feeling turned on and emotionally connected, these things all count as part of the bigger picture. So don’t get discouraged if she tells you to put the breaks on because you’re moving too fast. A lot of times if you get shot down, you need to listen to what she’s telling you. She’s saying she wants to take it slow and get to know you better, not that she doesn’t like you.

You need to let the sexual tension build up, you have to let her feel comfortable and safe around you, you have to let her know that you are actually interested in her as a person, interested in spending time with her, and not only that you want to have sex with her. You make sure that she knows you’re still going to be around for round two, round three, and round four.

So forget about mixed signals coming from a woman. You have to assume that she’s interested in you sexually if she’s inviting you over to spend time with you.

If you make a move and instead she wants to cuddle in bed with you the first time, that’s ok. Let her feel safe around you and build up your trust level.

If it’s the third or fourth time and she’s still pushing you away, you need to man up and ask her what’s up. She may not actually like you. She may have some hang-ups that you deserve to know about. Be up front and open. Tell her you’re into her, that you want to be intimate with her, and find out if she just wants to take things slow or if she’s not actually attracted to you.

But if you’re getting shot down the first couple dates and she still wants to see you again, that’s actually a good thing, not a failure. You’re making progress, you’re being clear with what you want, and it’s time to slow it down and take control by taking smaller steps instead of trying to go from 0 to 100 in one night.

There are a lot of men out there who have a little bit of money to throw around.

What a lot of guys will tend to do is take that money and spend lavishly to try and attract women.  They get a fancy sports car.  They buy a great house with all the bells and whistles.  They throw parties at their house, big parties with music, booze, food, where everybody can look at them and they can be the center of attention at their own party.

I call these guys the look-at-me’s: Look at me… Look at me… Look at all the things that I have! Look at all the great things that I do, look at my job, look at my great car, look at me!

And they like to throw it around. And a lot of women will go and date these guys, because women buy into it too.  Women will believe that this guy is a rich, strong, powerful, sexy James Bond-type guy.

Are You A Wannabe James Bond?

So they go out on a date, maybe they have a fling and sleep together.  Then they realize that this guy really isn’t James Bond at all.  He’s like some mutant threeway love-child between Wayne’s World, Beavis and Butthead, and Homer Simpson.

The guy may be good-looking, he may not be good-looking.  But the bottom line is that a lot of women buy into this fantasy of who he is pretending to be, and they don’t even pay attention to who he actually is. They don’t realize until further down the road that he’s just Garth from Wayne’s World with a bunch of cool toys.

Money may buy you fame, but money doesn’t buy you game.  Money doesn’t buy you becoming cool.  All money does is give you more freedom to do the things that you want to do.  If you’re going to use your dollar bills as your number one attraction weapon, and if you’re going to use it to bring in the women you desire, you’d better get ready to be exposed right away.

That woman will either: (a) look at you and expect you to be as debonair as James Bond, only to roll her eyes and be disappointed when she realizes that you’re actually an annoying Beavis-type; OR (b) she’s going to manipulate you, dig deep into your pocket, and make sure that every dime you spend together is on her.

Be careful when you go out and advertise yourself as somebody who you are not.

In dating, you need to be who you are. You need to advertise yourself exactly the way you are from the inside out, because you WILL be exposed.  There are a lot of players out there, there are a lot men and women who can play the game much better than you, and they will take advantage of it every step of the way.

Dear David,

As an introvert, I have difficulty engaging and intriguing people in a way that builds lasting relationships. Being an introvert I don’t have a lot of friends and that specifically gives me a low opinion of myself, and it’s oten difficult for me to express myself even in a one-on-one setting. I would like to learn how to change this, how to build more social connections, and form real relationships with the men and women in my life.

Thanks for taking the time to read my email,

Danny

Here is my response:

Hi Danny,

Interesting the way you say it, “As an introvert.” In a three-sentence e-mail to me, you’ve used the word “introvert” twice. Which leads me to believe that was you go about your entire day, you probably say to yourself, As an introvert, I do X. As an introvert, I do Y. Because I’m an introvert, I can’t talk to that person over there. Because I’m an introvert, I won’t be able to meet somebody.

Your mind set is everything in life, and your personal verbal programming dictates the way you lead your life. Whatever it is that you believe about yourself, that will come to the front. If you believe it, then you are going to be it.

So instead of going around all day saying to yourself that you’re an introvert, I want you to say the following (and listen to the difference):

I’m shy. I have trouble engaging and intriguing people, and it’s because I act shy. But, you know what, every single day I go out and I do things to help overcome my shyness. I may not have a lot of friends right now, but every day I’m just going out and meeting people, talking to people, becoming friendly, because that’s what helps. I realize that it takes time to change all of those learned behavior patterns that I’ve developed over my entire life. But I’m willing to tackle my issues, I’m able to do this, and I’m going to work on it every day. Every day I’m going to go out and do the things that make me feel the most uncomfortable, because I know that eventually I’m going to get comfortable doing these things.

You see the way I phrased it differently? Your words are very powerful. Your words are your actions. The words you choose to tell yourself affect the actions you are going to take in life.

Choose your words wisely.

Thanks David for letting me post another blog that really resonates with me. I hope all of enjoy this one as much as I enjoyed writing it.

We all have our go to excuses: for some it’s “I’m not good looking enough”, others it’s “I’ve been hurt before and now I’m just out for revenge.” For me it was always very simple:
“There’s something wrong with me.”

I didn’t know what was wrong with me. But I knew something was. Id’ been dumped, cheated on, and couldn’t find a job that I didn’t hate. Not only that it seemed like the women who dumped me and cheated on me ended up in more emotional pain than I was in. I was so rotten that even the act of getting rid of me hurt people. It seemed to me that the more someone got to know me the worse I became. And I could twist anything into making about why something was wrong with me.

If I met an attractive girl I’d tell myself that I wasn’t nearly good looking enough to talk to her. If she turned out to be smart she was way too smart to put up with me and if she was funny, I wasn’t nearly funny enough to be with her. I was NEVER good enough because there was something wrong with me.

Even when things were going well I always had it in the back of my mind… there’s something wrong with me and something bad is going to happen. Something I just didn’t see coming. It’s going to hurt and I’m going to feel like an idiot because I didn’t see it coming.

These excuses…they were my story. I was the tragic hero, fighting against the sad reality of my situation… that I could never be good enough for happiness… but I was sure as hell going to fight for happiness until I had breathed my last.

I’ll tell you all a deep dark secret… I liked my excuses, my story, my tragic heroism. It was romantic. It made me feel… special. It made me feel like I was unique. I wasn’t one of the shiny happy people but I also wasn’t one of those guys who had just given up and wrote sad poetry to try and impress girls. I had a quiet courage in the face of certain death. I was a Spartan at Thermopylae or a soldier at the Alamo. I embraced my excuses because the more I excuses had the more epic my struggle became.

Except, as much as I loved this story I had made myself the hero of… I didn’t love myself. My life seemed to be going nowhere. I had nothing. One day, it dawned on me that if I wanted to love myself and my life I’d have to get rid of my most beloved possession: My excuses. I had to drop the story I’d written for myself and honestly look at who I was. It was terrifying and I hated what I found. I was a miserable person. I wanted so bad to still be the doomed hero. I was safe there. But I refused to go back. I discovered that when you get rid of excuses you can create whatever life you want for yourself. You can be the REAL hero in your own story and save yourself.

So, if you have excuses, and we all do, drop them. Take a hard look at yourself and do all the hard work that needs to be done in order to be the person you want to be.

No, not somebody who orders eggs and hash browns at the diner, takes them home, and then rehashes them the next morning.

The other rehashing.

Are you somebody who will go out on a date-maybe a few dates-and then if it suddenly fizzles out with him or her, you’ll go and drive your friends crazy for the next two weeks reliving and replaying every single moment of those dates. You want to rehash every moment: “If I just said this…” “If I just did that…” “If he just reacted to me this way…” “It was over all because I didn’t react that way, that’s the reason why we’re not going out again!”

Dating And Complaining

All that rehashing is ridiculous. It’s not the one thing you did or didn’t do that killed it. It’s a combination of things. It’s energy. It’s chemistry. There’s so much more involved than just one stupid little thing you could’ve done better. Usually nothing you could have done would have saved the situation anyway.

So if you’re driving your friends crazy rehashing your last failed date or relationship 24/7 over something that you think might have gone wrong—you’re 100% wrong in that. Because what really went wrong is that you didn’t have the chemistry with that person. Maybe life at that moment was throwing you a curve ball. Maybe your date had things going on in his or her life. Maybe you had things going on in yours.

It’s never, ever just one thing. It’s not one thing that you said on that date that turned the whole thing around and killed the date momentum. It’s not one thing that made your date not want you or desire you or want to be with you. So stop rehashing the past, and start smoking all the hash that you want.

So David asked if I wild like to do a sequel to my blog post “Why Nice Guys Lose At Dating”. This blog is about the “Good Guy”.

So who is the Good Guy? Well, he’s like a bad boy in a lot of ways. He’s confident, sure of himself and he knows what he wants and he goes after it. He doesn’t care what others think about him because they don’t matter. He knows he’s sexual and he knows how to use it.

But how is a Good Guy different from a Bad Boy then? The Good Guy acts out of a place of service and love while Bad Boys acts selfishly.

Have I confused you yet? Good.

I know that I wrote before that “Nice Guys” are looking to please everyone. They constantly let others use them and just do whatever they can to be as inoffensive as possible. Nice Guys need validation. You could say Nice Guys are always looking to serve people. When I say Good Guys act out of love and service, am I not just saying the same thing?

No.

The big difference is that Good Guys know that they are a gift to the world. They know deep down that they are awesome and that they are here on this planet to share that awesomeness with others. They serve others by being their awesome selves. They don’t look to please others because they already know that just by being themselves they are truly giving others what they need. Good Guys aren’t afraid to shine and they hope that they can bring out the best in everyone around them. Good Guys know that there is abundance in life and try to spread the wealth because he always knows he’ll get his.

Some people get uncomfortable when they see someone being extraordinary. The Good Guy isn’t concerned with them. In fact, the Good Guy knows he’s on the right track when some people are uncomfortable.

The Good Guy goes with the flow because life doesn’t worry him. When bad things happen, he knows that he can handle it and that everything will work out. He has no fear because there is no need for fear. What’s there to be afraid of when you know that life is filled with abundance and that everything will work out well?

Notice how I haven’t said anything about knowing how to “pick up” women? Or “escalate” sexual tension? Good Guys don’t need to “pick up” women or “escalate” anything. Women are drawn to them and if there is chemistry between them, the sexual energy flows naturally. No resistance, no awkwardness, just two people coming together and giving themselves to each other freely.

This Good Guy seems pretty amazing eh? Almost like the perfect man that no one can ever be. The good news is that you don’t have to be perfect. Just striving to be the Good Guy will make you the good guy — and irresistible to women.

So stop being “nice”, love yourself and your life and start being Good! Beautiful women will take notice.

You know, the other day a reader named Jen posted on the blog asking how she can recognize the shy guy who is too timid to approach to get him over to come approach her.

Sure, women who are not often approached can work on their appearance and work on making themselves more approachable by smiling more wherever they are, getting rid of the ipod in public, making more eye contact with men they’re interested in at bars, etc.

But even for women who do get approached often, do you ever find you’re just not getting approached by the kind of guys who you want to approach you? There’s another even better step you can take: ladies, you can approach the fellas too!

How To Meet Men

I know plenty of guys who are great catches, in reality they are take-charge kind of men, just the kind of guys you would like to meet, but they will never approach you in a public place. Why? Because it’s just not a part of their social norm to meet and get to know people in a random public place. So in turn they don’t do it—not because they don’t want to talk to you, just because it’s something they’ve never thought of doing before. This is especially true with a lot of European men.

I also know many men who just don’t approach women even in a bar or club setting, or at a party—places where most people would approach—because they’ve never learned how to, or they have a bit of social anxiety (we all do to some extent), or because they just haven’t built up the confidence to go after what they want. Doesn’t mean they’re not great guys—in fact, for a lot of women out there the shyer introspective guys are actually more attractive and a better match for them than the dominant fearless types. Ladies, you know what I’m talking about.

So how do you do this? Very simple. Just like we teach men how to start a conversation with women: you make an observation based on what’s going on in the moment around you, and you say that observation to the guy. There’s a benefit to this, too: because women are far less threatening than men, and men are pretty dumb and unassuming, you can say pretty much anything you want and it won’t look like you’re “picking him up”!

Here’s the best way to start a conversation with a man: ask him a question, or tell him you need help with something. He’ll love the fact that he’s coming to the rescue and be so proud that he was able to help you out.

Ask a guy for directions somewhere, or tell him you’re looking for a nice restaurant or place to shop in the area and ask if he knows of any.

If you’re sitting at a restaurant, ask the guys sitting at the table next to you what they’re eating. Tell him you’re not sure what to order and his food looks good. He’ll tell you all about it and help you out with the menu just because guys love to be the guy who comes to the rescue.

If you’re standing by the bar ordering a drink, you can say something as simple as, “What are you drinking? That looks interesting.”

If you’re standing by the subway or waiting for the train and a guy is reading a book, ask him what book he’s reading, or tell him the cover looks interesting. Just yesterday I was waiting for the metro in Washington, DC, I saw a woman ask a man what he was reading, and they talked all the way into the subway car and beyond.

Right now you may be thinking, “Geez, won’t it appear like I’m completely desperate or being way too forward?” The answer to that is no. It won’t appear like you’re doing anything other than striking up a friendly conversation.

This isn’t the 1950’s anymore. You can do and say whatever you want to a man, there are no rules in dating and the single life. In fact, I have more than a few girlfriends who get approached by men all the time, but the men who they usually end up with (and ones they’re happiest with) are the ones who they actively decided to introduce themselves to and go talk to first. The reality is that most men would be flattered, and many of them relieved, to see that you actually took the initiative and got up the courage to talk to them!

Now fellas, this doesn’t mean that you’re off the hook. A man should NEVER use the excuse of, “Well, if she was interested in me she would approach me.” The women you want won’t just fall into your lap. You have to put yourself out there and go after what you want with complete vulnerability and honesty. That’s the only way you’re going to get good at this. Staying in your comfort zone and standing around waiting for the women to approach you is the worst thing you can possibly do.

It is all about how bad advice can lead you to a very lonely dating life.

Lets clear up a few things today.

Check out the email and then listen to today’s podcast.

Its time we got rid of our mothers advice and starting listening to what really works.

Hello David,
I first off want to thank you for all of your useful and I must say funny videos. I am sure that you get a lot of emails but it would mean more than you believe if you could help me out. As I just came across your videos on YouTube tonight.

Here it is.I am a 22 year old female and have never ever been approached by a guy. Im sure you must be thinking that I need to work on my confidence and possibly body image but it is not any of those. I am a normal girl however I am pretty shy, and I tend to be very serious when I am in public alone. Don’t get me wrong if someone comes up to start a conversation, I’m more than nice!

Moms Dating Advice

But as my mom always tells me I look too serious and look rather unapproachable, as if I’m not interested in any guy or that I am already with someone. I feel like my attitude my come off as being “bitchy” but that’s not it. I’m a serious girl and I know what I want. But obviously the way that i have been carrying myself has not been working for me

I especially am serious when I go to the gym, I have my music on and just in my own world. I have tried looking back at guys when they look at me. But I have this thing that if I look, and they look… It kind of cracks me up and I start laughing, I know its weird.. But its just from me being shy. That’s why I always take the serious approach and not look into guys eyes.

I would realllly appreciate ANY advice you can give me. There are a lot of potential guys that I was interested in but things never happened cause of me and me being shy! Especially at the gym!

Thanks a million!!!!!
Lara

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