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Saturday, July 3rd, 2010
How does this make you feel.
Self Perception is everything.
How does that relate to the way you conduct your life everyday?
Are you even aware of what your energy, attitude and the way you feel about yourself convey to others.
It really is everything that determines whether you are going to be successful in whatever you are doing at this present moment.
This weekend is all about chasing the 4th of July festivities. Are you really in tune with yourself and when you arrive at your destination what do you think people see?
I want you all to think about this today.
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Tags: 4th of July, attitude, energy, everyday, july 4th, Mindset, perception
Posted in Dave's Faves, Mindset, Money & Success, Understanding Female Psychology & Mindset, Understanding Male Psychology & Mindset | 9 Comments »
Wednesday, June 9th, 2010
I really thought this was a great subject, and one I haven’t tackled in a long time. Here is an email I just received from a woman:
“Dear David,
My self-confidence is really a problem. I’m 42 years old, never married, and very inexperienced with sex. Other stuff not a problem. I’ve had long relationships in my past and those guys were okay with it. Plus, I was younger and many of those guys were not interested in becoming fathers then either.
I made a choice to not risk an unwanted pregnancy in my 20s and 30s in conjunction with my personal beliefs and values. When guys did try to have sex with me, it was not in the context of a relationship. I had reached a point where I just wanted to know what it was like, and I’m sure I did not learn a lot from that.
While I’m not worried about it now as I have no intention of sleeping with someone just to enjoy dating, I want to know a man’s take on discovering this about a woman, especially later in life.
Anonymous”
This email at first kind of threw me. There are so many different religious beliefs about sexual intercourse, and I think they are very very antiquated. I really do.
I think sex is a wonderful thing. I think sex between two consenting adults is a wonderful thing. There are so many kinds of birth control out there nowadays that you don’t have to worry about getting pregnant.
I really truly believe that sexual experience is just a great thing to have, and that it’s great to explore and learn about your own sexuality. This woman is 42 years old, and she’s missed a lot of years of great sex due to her personal beliefs.
My advice to this woman, and to anybody in a similar situation and point in their life, is to really just explore sex and enjoy it. Tell men that you’re inexperienced, but that you’re willing to learn. Be open to the experience.
If I was with a woman who said she was very sexually inexperienced, I wouldn’t judge her at all. I would just enjoy it, teach her and explore her sexuality with her.
So if you truly want to learn about men and how to have great sex, this is how you do it. You need to just be honest with them. If you’re honest, then things will be great.
This is a really interesting topic. Guys, what are your thoughts on this? Have you known women who are really sexually inexperienced?
To the women, have any of you waited your whole life for the right man to come along, he hasn’t shown up, and now you’re in your 40′s with little or no sexual experience? What do you do about this situation?
I would love to hear from all of you on this.
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Tags: advice, david wygant, how to talk about sex, Sex, sexual double standards, sexual inexperience, tips, understanding men
Posted in Attract and Approach Men, Foreplay & Sexual Communication, Sex, Understanding Female Psychology & Mindset, Understanding Male Psychology & Mindset | 9 Comments »
Sunday, May 30th, 2010
I love when I get questions from all of you. I actually want to get as many questions as possible from you. I’m writing blogs every single day. I write four blogs a day, so if you want I can keep answering questions in the blog. I mean, this is what makes my job a lot of fun.
I received an email from a woman who wanted to know how to get a guy to chase her. Chase – interesting.
I hate chasing women. I always hated chasing women. I thought it was such a waste of time. I really did. Either a woman is interested or she isn’t.
Even in college, women wanted me to chase. I got bored really quickly.
Granted, I’d ask her out. We’d hang out. We’d have a good time. I’d call her back. She would call me back. We’d get together again. We wouldn’t sleep together for a little while. You know, I’ve got to earn it (or build the trust). Whatever.
That, to me, is the version of chasing that I enjoy. It’s like a tennis game. It’s a volley. I like you. You like me. I call you. You call me back.
What I don’t like, and I disagree with, is the whole “I call you and you don’t call me back for three days” thing. A lot of women thing that by playing hard to get, that a man is going to want them more.
In reality, though, the only kind of guy who likes a woman who plays hard to get is the one who only is interested in sleeping with you. It’s a conquest for him.
I know in my 20s — in my “hound dog” stage of my life — that I loved when women played hard to get and would ignore me. I really did. It was fun when they ignored me.
I’d run into them a month later and say, “Man, are we ever going to hook up and go out?” I would just play the game right along with them.
After a while, I found the game to be such a waste of time. There are so many great people out there who don’t want to play games.
I think the majority of people don’t want to play games. So if you want a guy to chase you — if you want to play games — then you’re really just wasting your time.
The best thing to do is hand a guy your phone number and say, “Give me a call.” If he doesn’t call you, then your reaction should be “next!’
The best thing to do when a guy calls you to go out on a date, is call him back within 24 hours. Call him once. Don’t call a guy six times.
Call each other once. If the other person doesn’t call you back, then move on.
Really, stop playing all the games. Games are boring.
If you want to play a game, go play softball or tennis. Games are such a waste of time.
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Tags: advice, Date, dating, dating advice for women, david wygant, games in dating, playing games, playing hard to get, tips, understanding men
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Sunday, May 9th, 2010
Let’s talk about women’s body language and what turns men on. Women tend to be more submissive in society than men, which is fine.
A lot of the time when men will talk to women, a woman might be interested but she’s also very nervous. So men will often not end up asking those women out due to what her body language is communicating.
When they’re nervous, a lot of women will have one foot in one direction and the other foot in another direction. Even though they’re smiling, their body language will say to a man that she’s half in and half out, which a man will interpret as disinterest.
He won’t be interpreting it consciously. It will be done subconsciously. This will be his interpretation nonetheless.
When you’re interested in a man, you need to hold your ground. You need to look directly at him, face him and smile. You can’t have one foot in one direction or a shoulder turned off in another direction.
Another thing that women do that absolutely does not work, is that they will have their arms folded. Even though they’re interested in a guy, they’ll have their arms folded when you’re talking to him. This is a defensive pose, not an open pose.
What you need to do instead, is to leave your arms open. Either have them at your side, or have them facing the guy (or use your hands when you’re talking). The minute you fold your arms, you are basically telling a guy — even if it’s on a very subconscious level — that you’re not interested.
Your eye contact is also really important. When you look down at the ground or off in the distance because you’re nervous, you are telling a guy you are not interested. Even if you are interested, when you look away from that person what he will process in his brain is that you are looking at someone else and isn’t interested.
So, once again, eye contact is really important. If you are uncomfortable with constant eye contact, then you can meet his eyes, look down and then come back and meet his eyes again. Just don’t look off in the distance, that will always tell a guy that you are not interested.
Another mistake that women make when talking to a man is fidgeting. Fidgeting with things when you’re talking to somebody tells him that you’re very nervous. You might be nervous because you like him, but a guy will likely interpret your fidgeting as a sign that you’re bored.
It’s amazing how much these little things communicate to the opposite sex. Being more aware of your body language in these situations will really help you get more men to ask you out (and, by extension, get you more dates).
If you want to know more about what you are saying to men with your body language, then have a friend go out with you and film you. Have your friend watch what you’re doing, how you’re reacting to things and how you flirt. Then you can watch not only yourself, but also see things the way a guy does.
It’s really funny. One time a woman did this and sent me the video. In the video she was flirting with a guy, but kept looking away because she was scared, nervous and intimidated by the guy.
When she sent me the video, she said to me that she didn’t know why the guy hadn’t asked her out. When I watched the video, I knew why the minute she looked away and the guy turned around to see at whom she was looking.
She was interested in that guy, and she thought she was showing interest to him. It’s amazing what your body language and you eye contact says, as compared to what your voice says. Be more aware of that, and you’ll see yourself having better flirting sessions, better dates, and a better dating life.
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Tags: advice, Body Language, Date, dating, dating advice for women, david wygant, flirt, flirting, how to flirt, male turn ons, tips, understanding men
Posted in Attract and Approach Men, Body Language, Understanding Male Psychology & Mindset | 14 Comments »
Tuesday, April 20th, 2010
Be careful what you say and how you open your mouth. A friend of mine and I were driving around, and we started to do a u-turn. The u-turn didn’t go exactly as we planned, and we had to back up to finish it.
There was a woman on a bike near us who had to stop her bike in order to let us finish the u-turn. She was only traveling about 1 mph at the time. After our u-turn forced her to stop her bike, she was so angry that she screamed “ASSHOLE!” at us at the top of her lungs.
This is something I would never do if I were a woman. I would never, ever yell out the word “asshole” to two dudes in a car. It is just not smart — especially in a city like Los Angeles or New York (or really anywhere else).
There are people out there who have a lot of rage inside them and who have anger issues. As a woman, do you want to have to potentially take on two guys?
That is how it very well may turn out if you yell something like that at two guys who may be sexually frustrated and are already angry at women.
You don’t know how they will respond to you yelling at them and calling them a name like that. They might get out of their car and beat the crap out of you.
Think that sounds crazy? How many times have you read in the newspaper about someone taking out a gun and shooting someone on the freeway who cut them off. What was the “last straw” in that situation? One guy probably called the guy who cut him off an asshole.
You need to realize that there are times in life that you need to keep you mouth shut because to do otherwise will invite all kinds of trouble. To all the women who think it is funny to call someone an asshole and think there will never be any repercussions, to you I say “beware!”
I’m a nice guy. My friend was a nice guy. There are a lot of guys out there, however, who wouldn’t be as nice as we were in that situation.
There are a lot of guys who would have gotten out of that car and popped her. I’m a dude and I wouldn’t call a guy an asshole in that same u-turn situation because I know I’d be inviting trouble (even though I could stand up for myself ).
A 110 pound woman on a bike probably would not be quite as well equipped to stand up for herself. You’ve got to learn people and use your brain when interacting with them.
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Tags: advice, common sense, david wygant, tips, warning, women's safety, women's self-defense
Posted in How To Be A Better Communicator, Understanding Male Psychology & Mindset | 1 Comment »
Sunday, April 11th, 2010
So here you are dating who you think is your dream girl. She looks great. Her body rocks. Her hair is sexy. Her eyes are beautiful. Her lips are everything you always wanted lips to be.
She has “the hotness factor.” When you look at her, you get so turned on and so excited. You just want to show her off to everybody.
You are so off the wall in “look at me world” thinking, “I used to be someone who could not attract women, and now look how hot my girlfriend is. She is so hot. Look at me!”
So many guys do that. Women are like trophies to them. They really are.
If they have who they think is the hottest girlfriend they’ve ever had, they are quickly flying home to show all their old buddies that they can get the hot one. They’re going out at night and they’ve got their arm around her thinking “She’s hot. She’s mine. Man, she is the hottest girl ever.”
What these guys fail to do, however, is to ‘look under the hood.’ That hotness factor that was the only thing in their consciousness about her, often turns lukewarm when they finally do. Then lukewarm often continues to cool off until it becomes cold.
Here is the truth, guys. What is inside is just as important as what’s on the outside. That hotness factor is going to wear off, and then you’re going to start to see her for exactly who she is.
When that happens, you’re going to start to notice things about her. “What? She has lines under her eyes. I never saw those before. Oh my God. Wait a second. Her body is not as hot as it was.”
The reason why you start noticing those things is because you start really getting into the core of who she is as a person. You get your head out of la-la land. You stop ignoring all the little things that she does which may or may not be satisfying, and you start waking up to what I call “the un-hot reality.”
Every woman, no matter how hot she is, has a real person inside that shell. That woman may be someone who, once the hotness factor wears off, probably isn’t even a match for you.
So, how do you get past all of this? As a man, we get intoxicated by this beauty, so all men need to think about abundance. You need to truly believe that you can get any hot woman anytime.
When you have that attitude, then looks don’t really matter to you anymore because you know you can date women to whom you’re attracted. You know you date women who have that hotness factor.
So all you’re really looking for is someone who deep inside resonates with who you are deep inside. Otherwise, once that hotness factor wears off, all you’ll have left is a good-looking woman who drives you crazy and irritates you.
It’s time to start looking deep when it comes to women. Every step of the way, you need to look at the warning signs and think “Does this person really understand who I am? Is this person someone who is as hot inside as they are outside?”
The outside — the hotness factor — it does wear off. The problem is that the inside never wears off.
It’s the inside that keeps loving you, nurturing you, being with you, wanting you and desiring you. It’s everything on the inside that works.
Would you buy a car with 300,000 miles just because it looks great on the outside? Would you totally ignore the fact that is has 300,000 miles on it, just because the old owner told you that it’s barely broken in? Wouldn’t you rather buy a car that looks good and is sound inside and out? I hate to put women in a car analogy, but it’s the truth.
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Tags: advice, Date, dating, Dating Advice, dating advice for men, david wygant, hot woman, how to choose a woman, Sex, sexy women, tips, xxx
Posted in College Dating, How To Start A Relationship, Life Style 101, Mindset, Relationships, Sexual Turn-Ons, Understanding Male Psychology & Mindset | 9 Comments »
Friday, March 12th, 2010
So you walk up to a woman and you start talking to her. It could be about anything. It could be about something really simple.
Say you are looking at a sushi bar and you say to her, “Man, there’s a lot of different colors here” and she ignores you. What do you do next?
A lot of guys run. They play the “oops I spoke and you didn’t respond right away so I’m going to run and hide” game. The guys who run in this situation do so without realizing a lot of things.
They do so without realizing that the person they talked to might be shy. In fact, that person might even be shyer than you.
You might have taken her off guard, and she wasn’t ready for a conversation. She might have been thinking about something else. You have no idea because you are not inside her head.
So let’s go back to the sushi scenario. In that situation, here is how I would handle it.
If when I say the observation about the colors the woman looks taken aback, then I would say to her, “What are you getting? What’s good here?” I would give her the opportunity to respond.
Think about yourself and how many times you are out somewhere — at the market, a coffee house, a clothing store or wherever — and you are trapped in your own thoughts. You might be thinking about your day, about work, about what you have to do when you get home or even about your underwear. Who knows?
Just think about how many times you are stuck in your own thought process. So, with that in mind, give someone another shot to respond to you before you bail in these situations thinking someone blew you off.
You may not be getting blown off at all. You might have just caught her stuck in her own thoughts and shocked her for a moment.
That is all it takes. Give it another whirl. If she still ignores you, then maybe she isn’t interested.
If that is the case, then you move on and say “no chemistry” to yourself. Then you think, “They weren’t interested. Who cares? Next!”
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Tags: advice, approach women, approaching women, chemistry, Date, dating, Dating Advice, david wygant, Day Game, how to approach women, how to talk to a woman, how to talk to women, Mindset, Night Game, PickUp, pua, Rejection, sushi, sushi bar, talking to women, tips, understanding women, what to say next, what to say to woman
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, College Dating, Day Game, High School Dating, How To Be A Better Communicator, Night Game, Rejection, Understanding Female Psychology & Mindset, Understanding Male Psychology & Mindset | 16 Comments »
Saturday, February 27th, 2010
Women ask me all the time, “What do men find romantic?” It’s interesting. There are a lot of women who think that all men (as a gender) are not romantic.
I also get a lot of women who email me and say something like, “I wish my boyfriend was more romantic.” Let me tell you something. There are also a lot of men who wish their girlfriend was more romantic.
For those women out there who are looking to be more romantic for your man, or to really light a fire in your relationship, here are seven quick tips on how to get your man to feel romantic:
1.Candles Are Not Just A “Woman Thing”: Candles are not only for women. Show your romantic intent by lighting candles all throughout the house that he’ll see when he walks through the door. It’s romantic, and it makes a man feel wonderful. So many women think that candles and champagne are things only women like. In reality, though, men react the same way to those things. A lot of men will set a romantic example of what they want by the romantic things they do for women, hoping the woman will do things like that back to him.
2.The Power Of A Simple Kiss: There is so much power in a simple kiss — a simple hello kiss, a simple goodnight kiss or a simple kiss before you leave in the morning. All of these things are romantic to a man. They make a man feel connected to you throughout the day. Those kisses make him feel wonderful in a way that lingers and will have him thinking about you all day long.
3.The No Special Reason Text: Send your man a simple text in the middle of the day saying, “Hey babe. I can’t get you out of my mind.” It will make him feel really good all day long. It will also make him feel very romantic as well.
4.Just A Note To Say…: It’s funny. A lot of men go out there and buy flowers for their woman or will write her a card, but how many women write their man a card? Think about writing your man a card just for the sake of it being a nice romantic gesture. You go to the supermarket or the drug store and you see a great little card there. Buy it, write him a little note and then leave it on his pillow so he’ll see it before he leaves in the morning. That way he can read it all day long. It is a great way to make a man feel romantic.
5.The Unexpected Surprise: Think about a way to surprise your man. Set a night where you will surprise him and he will not be expecting it. Instead of the usual Friday or Saturday night where you say “Hey babe, what do you want to do tonight?,” why don’t you create and plan a night for him. Take him out for a great meal or take him to a ball game. Take the initiative.
It’s amazing how men and women crave the same things, but yet don’t understand the dynamics of what their actions cause. Although a romantic night for a woman may be different than a romantic night for a man, it’s really all about the effort that you put into the night that makes the other person feel warm, special and romantic.
6.Set The Mood: Setting a special mood at home makes a man feel romantic. When he comes home from the office, for example, you could have his favorite music playing, rub his shoulders and tell him you want to hear all about his day. It’s the simple things like this that make a man feel romantic. Allowing a man to share his day with you makes a man feel very romantic.
7.Those Three Little Words: This one may seem a little too simple to you, but there is nothing that makes a man feel greater and more romantic than hearing the words “I love you” come out of your mouth. Say it when he walks through the door or when he helps you with something. It’s the unexpected ‘I love you’ that really gets men feeling amazing. Hearing a woman say “I love you” after a fight makes a man feel appreciative, special and romantic — especially when it is said from the heart.
It’s quite simple to make a man feel romantic. In so many ways, it is no different than the things a man can do to make you feel romantic. A lot of couples make the mistake of not doing these kind of things on a regular basis, and the romance dies as a result. It is the little things that make each other feel great and make each other feel romantic.
So if you are in a relationship that’s stagnant, feels like it’s just not ‘clicking’ anymore or in which the romance has died, then using even one or two of these tips will help you get the fire burning again. When you start doing romantic things for someone else and see their reaction, it will make you feel more romantic too.
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Tags: advice, Date, dating, Dating Advice, dating advice for women, david wygant, Marriage, Relationships, romance, romantic, tips, understanding men
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