That is the question. To vibrate or not to vibrate, that is the question. What the hell am I talking about? You know what I’m talking about today: At what point do you say to yourself, “I got to stop masturbating,” and start connecting with people?

Are you one of those people who really loves to share? You love sharing with people. You really enjoy giving people all the things that matter most to you.

Are you also somebody who loves to share things that other people give to you? Like if somebody else gives you a gift, you’re more than willing to share it with everybody you know and love. And the greatest thing about you is that you don’t even tell anybody that it was a gift from someone else, you make it just seem so innocent.

Shogo and I were speaking at our Art of Communication and Seduction seminar in New York last weekend. We talked the whole second day of the seminar on the topic of seduction. One of my favorite quotes we came up with: Women look at sex like a marathon, but guys look at it like a horse race.

I think guys look at sex as if they were at the Kentucky Derby. The woman gets naked. She’s standing there in front of the gates, ready to go

Remember the movie A Few Good Men, when Jack Nicholson looked at Tom Cruise and said, “You can’t handle a good blow job!”

Well, ok, he didn’t really say that. But in my version he did.

So you meet a new woman

I was thinking about this question: What does it mean to be someone’s lover?
I’m using the term ‘lover’ generically, but you could fill in the blank with someone’s husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend. Let’s use the term ‘lover’ here though.

When you’re dating and you’re having sex, it’s always fresh. The sex is always fun, it’s always new and exciting. You’re really exploring a new person, there are always new ways to connect with each other, and every day it feels like you’re finding out something new about each other.
But in relationships, the sex can get monotonous.

Hey guys, Shogo here with another Friday post to get you rolling for the weekend! It”s the weekend, so what is our theme? Not dating, not relationships, not communication, not self-love….it’s BARS! Yay.
Several clients who come to us are essentially reformed Pick Up Artists, and we spend a lot of time with them deprogramming their brains from the PUA techniques they learned, and getting them to start over and learn how to be as real and sexually mature as possible.

So your sitting across the table from your fantasy woman, and all of a sudden you think. “Wow I need to get sexual with her right now so she gets turned onto me” So you space out for a second and you stop listening to what she is saying. You then go into deep thought [...]

Man, what an amazing city Munich is! Whoever said the Germans are not friendly? Everyone has been super nice, the cafes here are wonderful and relaxing, and for the drinkers the beer gardens are great fun! Shogo and I have been exploring the city and meeting all sorts of new and interesting people everywhere we go. There’s something I’ve always loved……

Man, I gotta tell ya, jet lag is brutal the first day. I tossed and turned last night, but nothing beats jet lag like walking it off around London, a nice breakfast, and interacting with all the people out on a Friday morning. London really is one of my all-time favorite cities.
As I was tossing and turning in my bed last night, I was thinking about what men and women think about each other after their first night sleeping together