Archive for the ‘Sexual Turn-Ons’ Category

You need to get your lover to succumb to you. Do you have any idea how to do that?

You have this amazing chemistry with this person. You’ve let that amazing chemistry go and take off on its own, but do you really communicate with your lover all your desires? Do you share your innermost desires with your lover?

What turns most of us on the most, is when our lover tells us what they need, how they feel and what kind of lover they desire us to be. Those things make you feel good.

If you think about it, we go into any sexual relationship with a certain skill set. Each person with whom you have sex, though, is a different person. You want each person who becomes your lover to be your unique lover.

If you are progressing and growing in life, then your current lover should be the most incredible lover you’ve ever had. If you’ve learned from each of your relationships and embraced the lessons from each of those relationships, then each lover should be the most amazing lover you’ve ever had.

As you’re embracing the lessons, you need to express yourself more with each person. It’s so important to express yourself with your lover, because in order to have things get better and better with your lover, you need to tell each other things.

Maybe you are not the kind of person who talks about how you feel about your lover all the time, but maybe hearing how much you desire them is exactly what your lover wants to hear. This is the kind of thing you need to know.

Maybe you’re someone who is not very adventurous in bed. If your lover is very adventurous in bed, then you’ve got to become more adventurous so you can play with each other.

You’ve got to learn each other’s needs — physical, mental and emotional — and be fully aware of them. That is how you will get to new levels of intimacy with your lover.

In life, we crave incredible levels of intimacy. We crave levels of intimacy we’ve never before experienced.

Are you someone who controls yourself if your lover goes down on you? Are you always in control of yourself in bed? Do you think too much?

Express all of that to your lover. Talk about all of that with them so the two of you can get you past that, and so you can bring each other even more pleasure.

We all do this in one way or another. So we all have to learn how to really get closer with each other and how to touch each other’s heart even more.

If you’re not doing these things with your lover, you may start to get frustrated and then your confidence in the bedroom is going to start to dissipate. If you don’t know how to make your lover come or if you don’t know what your lover likes the most, you need to learn.

It might be as simple as changing the way you move your hips or a small change in the way you touch them. Whatever it is, learn it! So if you really want sex with your lover to be amazing, it’s time you really succumbed to each other.

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A guide to Amazing Sex by David Wygant

So how do you have amazing sex with a woman?

One of the first steps in having amazing sex with a woman is to create tension. The biggest mistakes men make is that they’re chasing sex and they’re asking for sex. Men also don’t create enough tension so the sex is the woman’s idea. For instance, a friend of mine and I the other day were talking and we had the following conversation:

DF: “You know, I really want to get laid tonight.”
DW: “Great . . . Do you have any prospects to get laid by?”
DF: “I’ve got a couple of prospects. So tonight I’m going to get laid.”
DW: “Why don’t you just try to connect with a woman tonight, and forget
about getting laid and start building up some sexual tension with the
woman so the sex becomes phenomenal beyond belief.”

I was at a party the other night, and three guys were competing for one woman. It was a very interesting night … they were all trying to come onto her, to get her to stay at the house to have sex with one of them. Each one of them failed miserably. Not one of them are ever going to see her again, because not one of them created sexual tension.

They all acted like the “typical guy.” The typical guy will see a woman and try to sleep with her the first night he meets her. Or, they’ve been out on a few dates and he’ll try and sleep with her on the very first chance he has to sleep with her. Both of these approaches are 100% wrong. You need to create sexual tension so the sex is phenomenal.

When a woman gives herself to you unconditionally, without you coercing her or seducing her with some magic technique, you’re going to have the best sex you’ve had in a long time because it comes from her core and it comes from her full passion cycle.

So, that friend of mine decided to have this night with a woman. What happened was that the woman ended up hanging with him, he tried a couple of things he probably thought were innocent, and he’ll probably never see her again.

The key to bonding with a woman, is to bond with her emotionally and bond with her mentally. When you feel like she wants to kiss you, you wait an hour or an hour and a half, then you kiss her . . . and the kiss is amazing! It’s this deep kiss that really, really connects you with her.

So then all of a sudden you’ve gone out with her twice, and you know she wants to have sex. You’ve gone back to her place and you’ve fueled the sexual tension between you. What you do is you hold out. You kiss, you touch a little bit. Then you look at her, push her away and say “Not tonight. I just want to get to know you a little bit more.”

What happens is, inside her mind she starts to absolutely burn with passion and desire because she will then wonder “Why didn’t he sleep with me? Every other guy sleeps with me in this situation. How come he didn’t sleep with me?”

And the fact is that by not sleeping with her, it is going to drive her so crazy that by the next day she’s going to wake up and she’s going to think that she wants to sleep with you. She’s even going to tell her friends that she didn’t sleep with you and that she wanted to . . .even if she was unsure that night before or even if she was just testing out that sexual chemistry and that sexual tension.

She could have been persuaded, but she respects you that you did not. Now she’s burning with it.

So now you call her up and say “You know what, let’s get together Sunday night.” (You got together with her Friday night). By choosing Sunday instead of Saturday, you’re letting her simmer for one more day. Then when you see her, the sex is amazing because she’s willingly giving herself to you and she’s also feeling the passion build-up which is exactly what she wants to do.

She’s wired like a woman, not wired like a guy. A guy is wired to get off. A woman is wired to connect.

So you have to understand, to have the best sex of your life with women you have to connect with them on a higher level than you ever have before. It’s not about just having sex, you have to be okay with walking away. I go over this in detail in My Mastery Series. You can have this amazing sex every time!!

A Post on the Art of Erotic Sensual Massage by the Desperate Housewife

The only thing that tops a massage is an EROTIC sensual massage, and that is where we are going to go with this today. Erotic pleasure brought on by the sensations one feels when their skin is center focus. Your skin is the largest organ of the body with thousands of nerve endings and the touch stimulates all of your senses. Before we get into the steamy specifics there are some important things that need to be tended to. I will keep the details short and to the point on this part?:

1. Please make sure your nails have no jagged edges that can ruin your efforts to please.

2. Have your massage oil warming in a warm bowl of water so it is a pleasurable sensation (Oil is a MUST for a great massage. Water based oils are preferred, containing NO Nonoxynol-9 which can be an irritant to the skin). Keep it close by at all times because you will need it for continual lubrication for a smooth massage.

3. You may want some “edible” oil for later on your tongue can work massaging erogenous zones.

4. When you are giving a massage of any type, IMPORTANT: NEVER break contact with your partner’s skin. Once you have started the massage, keep that connection with your partner at all times.

5. Create a sensual environment from the start. Light some candles, maybe some erotic incense of your choice or some Lavender oil heating in a burner (very sensuous and very relaxing).

6. Turn the phone off. Draw the blinds. Lock the door. NO DISTRACTIONS!

7. Last but surely not least – MUSIC! You can purchase soothing spa CDs at any music store. Try to make sure it will continually play. You certainly don’t want to have to get up to take care of the music flaws.

8. TAKE YOUR TIME and BE GENTLE! So important! This is meant to be a slow process that builds into such uncontrollable sexual desire for both of you the end result will leave you both breathless.

9. You should both have a glass of water, wine, or something sweet to sip.

Lets get started shall we?

Men, your first task is to have your partner strip to her birthday suit. Have her lay on the floor face down. Put a soft blanket down. You need to be able to eventually reach every part of her body without effort. Place a sheet over her back. It is very sensual as you move down in the massage, to slide the sheet down as you work your way down. NO body part will be left untouched.

Now, take your warm oil and oil yourself up to begin with, where she can watch! You will be using your hands yes, but you will be wanting your arms and chest oiled up nicely. That alone is a turn on, so you are off to a great start only to get better as you go!

Take a good amount of oil in your hands. Rub them together to further warm it. Gently, start by gliding with smooth strokes using your whole hand, over the neck and shoulders, down and up the arms. Make your movements rhythmic in motion working together in a continual synchronization. Remember not to lose contact at any time.

Work your way down the back, now moving into longer deeper strokes. Continue this method using you body for pressure and not the strength of your sexy arms we love to see all oiled up! Lightly press your chest up against her back, letting other parts of your body lightly skim against her. The sensations of your skin brushing against her are so stimulating! Kiss her jaw lightly then her neck working down her back soft and slow. You can lick the lower back in circular motion, moving up a you lightly breath your warm breath up her spine until you get to her ear lobe where you can kiss lightly to drive her wild. By this time, I guarantee she is HOT and you are getting there if you haven’t gotten to that point yet. Haven’t lost contact yet have you? Nice!! Move back down, only now you are massaging her butt. Make sure her legs are open where you can lightly skim up and down her inner thighs. You want her squirming? Inner thighs touched sensuously will cause just that reaction. It is an involuntarily reaction of pure pleasure and stimulation!

Time to roll her over onto her back. Make sure you keep a hand on her. Is the oil plentiful? If not, grab it with one hand and lubricate her chest in between her breasts. Gently massage her shoulders working down her arms and back up. Skim over her breasts with the palm of you hand only with plenty of oil. You can stop there for a few circular motions over her already erect nipples. Does she love it? Move on then. OOHH why did you leave there! Now is when she is feeling sensations in her nipples that are dying for stimulation, as well as her vaginal area. It is feeling hot, certainly wet and yearning for you to penetrate at this point, BUT not quite yet. She is more than likely breathing hard and gasping every time you kiss her stomach down to her inner thighs. Now you should know where that G-Spot is—yes? Good, because while you have her leg up on your shoulder kissing the inner thigh, you are going to massage the outer lips of her vagina—lightly skimming. Go in and gently massage her G-spot. Now, whew it is almost more than a woman can bear! Find just the hood of her clit and GENTLY move it side to side. Experiment and watch her reactions as to where and how what you are doing is working. When you get that gasp of pleasure, stay there for awhile. Glide that other hand up to stimulate her nipples that are SOOOO in need of attention.

By now she NEEDS and WANTS and HAS TO HAVE the feeling of your erection. Just tease in and out a LITTLE in and out. Okay! Enough! Please take her hips and turn her over on her knees. Kiss her back, and fondle her nipple as you enter her vagina slowly. Keep teasing. Right now, you are hitting that G-spot again with your penis as long as you don’t go too far in.

OKAY! No more teasing! You should know how to take it from here…

Have fun!