It’s funny. I had an interesting conversation with someone the other night and they asked me “Do you prefer sex in the light or sex in the dark?”

Hey guys, Shogo with another weekend blog. Today let’s talk about getting intimate.

Today’s podcast is very personal to me. Today, I take a trip down memory lane for you guys and tell you exactly how I lost my virginity. “Nervous” is not a strong enough word for the feelings I had swirling around inside of me over that brief (but seemingly very long) two-day period in my life.

You just finished having some of the best sex in your life. It was hot. Man, she had many orgasms. She was oozing and bubbling with sexual desire. Everything was great. Now sex is over, and one part of the bed-the part that you had sex on-is starting to get really cold. Real damp, and it’s right in the middle of the bed. It’s in what I call the cuddle spot.

Why is the wet spot on the bed always in the spot that you cuddle on?

That is the question. To vibrate or not to vibrate, that is the question. What the hell am I talking about? You know what I’m talking about today: At what point do you say to yourself, “I got to stop masturbating,” and start connecting with people?

Are you one of those people who really loves to share? You love sharing with people. You really enjoy giving people all the things that matter most to you.

Are you also somebody who loves to share things that other people give to you? Like if somebody else gives you a gift, you’re more than willing to share it with everybody you know and love. And the greatest thing about you is that you don’t even tell anybody that it was a gift from someone else, you make it just seem so innocent.

Shogo and I were speaking at our Art of Communication and Seduction seminar in New York last weekend. We talked the whole second day of the seminar on the topic of seduction. One of my favorite quotes we came up with: Women look at sex like a marathon, but guys look at it like a horse race.

I think guys look at sex as if they were at the Kentucky Derby. The woman gets naked. She’s standing there in front of the gates, ready to go

Remember the movie A Few Good Men, when Jack Nicholson looked at Tom Cruise and said, “You can’t handle a good blow job!”

Well, ok, he didn’t really say that. But in my version he did.

So you meet a new woman

I was thinking about this question: What does it mean to be someone’s lover?
I’m using the term ‘lover’ generically, but you could fill in the blank with someone’s husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend. Let’s use the term ‘lover’ here though.

Here’s a quote that I want you guys to pin up on your board. You’re going to need it throughout your entire life. You’re going to need it in everything you do, from relationships to dating to work. Here’s the quote:
“Decide what you want, and learn how to ask for it.”