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Monday, September 6th, 2010
So you meet this incredible person on the Internet. You go on a couple of dates.
Everything is great.
You think they’re a certain age because they listed it that way in their profile. Then, all of a sudden, you’re about to get close and intimate and they drop the age bomb on you. They say something like, “You know, I’m not really 39. I’m really 47.”
How do you feel about that? How do you feel when someone does that to you?
How do I feel when someone tells me they’ve been lying about their age on the Internet? I tell them to immediately stop lying about their age.
What that says to someone is that you might be lying about other things – and that you’re willing to lie in general. Nobody wants to start a relationship on a lie.
Relationships are tough enough, but starting one off on a lie just makes it that much tougher. It’s going to bring back emotional trigger points of all the bad relationships and all the lies that someone told them in the past. Then you’re going to have to start talking your way out of this, and convincing them that this so-called lie was a one-shot deal.
You’re 47. You’re not 39. If you desire to date people that much younger than you are then you need to go about it by showing people how young you are in person and attract them that way.
When it comes down to the Internet, you need to really be honest about your age. Actually even if you meet someone in a bar (or in any other place), you need to tell the truth about your age too. Once again, if you look amazing for your age then you will attract those younger people you want by your appearance and your demeanor.
Lying about your age basically will give you an uphill battle with any person you start dating. So be proud of how old you are, and realize that whatever age you are is exactly where you need to be.
Popularity: 2%
Tags: dating, dating rules, Match.com, meet someone online, Online Dating
Posted in Dating Etiquette, Online Dating | 2 Comments »
Saturday, September 4th, 2010
Have you guys ever looked at the love for sale section on Craigs List?
It is by far some of the best reads ever.
I wanted to share a funny one that one of you sent me this morning,
Heres a guy that basically is near 60 and he wants a young hot plaything to be at his beckon call.
I love men who cant deal with aging and expect some young hot woman to be totally turned onto them in all ways.
Give this a read and share with me any Craigs list experiences you may have had.
And read it all the way through and check out his code word at the end!!
It should have been sugar daddy!!!
Hello, I am seeking a pretty and slender, affectionate and special Latin female in her early twenties for friendship, love, and possibly marriage…..
I am fond of Latin people, their mentality, culture and emotional generosity. I lived in Spain for a long time, also in Mexico and Colombia…..Born and raised in Germany, I have some German earnestness and solidity, a Latin soul, and an optimistic Southern Californian mindset. I speak English and Spanish fluently (and a few other languages).
If you are dreaming of an unusual man, in all modesty here he is: I have traveled all over the world, am highly educated, open-minded, romantic, faithful and noble, with a very soft heart, stable values and deep feelings. I would like you to have the same human qualities. I will give you all my love, treat you with respect, and adore you with passion. I am divorced and totally independent. Being 58, I feel very young and enjoy a healthy lifestyle. I am 5 ft., 11in., 170 pounds and in excellent shape. I don’t have children and prefer that you don’t have either. But I like children and imagine that at some point I will have a family.
I am fascinated by languages and my hobby is my profession: I have my own language corporation in Los Angeles. My other interests include writing short stories and poems, reading, studying, thinking, meditating, and dreaming, traveling, psychology and personal growth, ethnic music from all over the world, especially from Latin countries, salsa, samba, flamenco, jazz and blues, outdoor activities by the beach and in the countryside, but also quiet hours at home, personal, totally candid conversations, and relaxed and intimate times with my love….and so much more….
I live in Southern California and in Germany….and am able to offer you an interesting and fulfilling life. I am totally independent, so we can live here or in Europe.
Let us reach our dreams! I hope for your friendly message (with photo)
P.S. I am not into virtual affairs, online chatting or endless texting. Our goal should be to exchange phone numbers and get together in person as soon as we feel comfortable with each other.
In order to avoid unwanted messages I would request that you include the code word LOVE in the subject line of your first message.
I will answer any message that includes the code word and your picture. THANK YOU!
Popularity: 3%
Tags: call girls, craigs list, hookers, latin women, Match.com, Online Dating, sugar daddy
Posted in Humor & Just For Fun, Money & Success, Online Dating | 8 Comments »
Thursday, August 19th, 2010
That awful, awkward silence that happens sometimes on a date. You know exactly what I’m talking about.
You’re sitting there on a date. You’ve been looking forward to this date. You’ve build up a whole fantasy in your mind about this person. You really think that this is going to be the woman (or the man) for you.
Now they are sitting there next to you. After about twenty or twenty-five minutes, however, the conversation just kind of dies. Then there is that awkward silence.
It’s funny. When you’re with somebody for a long time, you have what people call comfortable silence. In the first twenty minutes or half hour of the beginning of this so-called relationship that you were so sure was going to happen, though, it’s called an awkward silence.
So what do you do in that situation?
At those moments, it’s time to make a joke. Just look the person in the eyes and say, “We’re having our first moment of comfortable silence together. It’s so nice, isn’t it? It’s like we’ve been together for a long time. Here we are. We’re both eating our burgers right now, and we’re having that comfortable silence that people have who have been dating for like six months. Don’t you feel it, too? Aren’t you as comfortable as I am right now?”
Kind of make a joke about it, because most people are probably nervous. Plus, remember that there are allowed to be silent periods in conversations. You don’t have to just keep rambling on and rambling on and rambling on nonstop.
Now, sometimes, there is silence on a date for another reason. Maybe twenty minutes or a half hour into the date you realize that there may not be as much chemistry between you as your mind had imagined there would be.
In that case, that awkward silence may be because of a total lack of chemistry. You can play that situation two ways.
One, you do the thing that I actually told you to do, i.e., make a joke about it, and then try to finish the date as enjoyably as possible. Two, you can look at the person and say, “Hmmm, do we have a lack of chemistry?” Since I don’t suggest going with the second option, I recommend you go with the first option.
Popularity: 5%
Tags: Create Great First Dates, dates, dating, get more dates
Posted in How To Ask For A Date, Mindset, Online Dating | 3 Comments »
Saturday, May 8th, 2010
Do you desire success with online dating? Online dating can be easy and fun if you avoid these six mistakes that men most often make when dating online. Here are the six biggest mistakes men make online when contacting a woman for the very first time.
1.Not Reading A Woman’s Profile: Of all the mistakes guys make, this is one of the biggest. Guys will not read a woman’s profile, then proceed to email her anyway — even if they are not in her age range and don’t like any of the same things she likes. It’s amazing how many men will just look at a picture of a woman and send her an email, when that woman would be 100% not interested based on what she said she’s looking for in her profile. When you do that, you’re just wasting somebody’s time.
2.Being A Winker: If you actually read women’s profiles online, you would see that a lot of women request not receive winks or say flat out that they don’t respond to winks. Since a lot of men online are very lazy, though, they will go online and send out a hundred winks in a night hoping that one woman will respond. When you do that, do you know what that tells a woman right from the get-go? It tells her first that you didn’t read her profile, and second that you’re pretty desperate. Winkers are desperate. They don’t care who responds; they just want someone to respond.
3.Sending A Generic or “Cut ‘N Paste” Emails: Sending just a generic or “cut ‘n paste” email when you haven’t read a woman’s profile is one of the biggest turnoffs to women online. Guys will send an email to a hundred woman saying something like, “Hey, you and I are really a match. Read my profile and check it out, and let me know what you think. Looking forward to hearing from you.” When a woman reads this, she knows you have put no effort whatsoever into it. She knows it is a generic email, and she is not going to respond to it.
4.No Follow-Up: Lack of follow up is another huge mistake men make online. A man will send an email to a woman, she will send one back to him, and then he will wait and not respond to her email right away. He doesn’t follow up until three weeks later when he’ll email her and give some kind of excuse about being really busy at work. Do you know what a woman thinks when this happens? She thinks, “Well he obviously emailed ten people, and I was number four on his list. He was talking to three others, they blew him off, so no he’s decided he wants to go out with me.” You don’t make her feel important that way. If you email a woman, you had better follow through with it — both in terms of returning her emails and asking her out on a date. Women want men that act like men, have a plan and follow through it.
5.Commenting On Her Picture: Commenting on a woman’s picture shows her that you didn’t read her profile. If you write, “Boy, you look really great in that dress” or “Wow, you look hot in that bathing suit” it shows a woman that you are solely a visual guy. Doing it is too overtly sexual right from the get-go. It turns women off. Women want you to not only read their profile, but to comment on something she says in it. It shows them that something in their profile connects with you emotionally in some way.
6.Talking About Yourself In Your First Email: Talking about yourself in your first email (and first contact) with a woman and before you even ask her a question is a big mistake. It looks to a woman like you just cut and paste part of your profile into an email and sent it to her. What you are doing when you do this is being a “lister” — what I call men who have to list all their good qualities to sell themselves to a woman. What you should be doing in that first email is to flirt and get to know her better.
Online dating is a lot of fun, but you need to look at it differently. You need to look at your first contact with a woman as if you were meeting her live and in person.
 If you look at it this way, you would never send a woman a list of all your good qualities or make a comment about how hot she looks in her swimsuit on the first conversation.
Think that way, and you may have greater success online and not turn any women off.
Popularity: 16%
Tags: advice, Date, dating, david wygant, how to talk to women, Online Dating, online dating advice, talk to women, talking to women, tips, understanding women
Posted in How To Be A Better Communicator, Online Dating, Understanding Female Psychology & Mindset | 19 Comments »
Wednesday, March 10th, 2010
You know, today is usually the day of the week I give you a podcast. “Podcast Wednesday” has become a favorite. I was thinking, though, that this week I am going to do something different.
So I decided I would have a live teleconference. Why not? Why don’t we all get on a call together and do this thing live — and even do a little “Q&A” — instead of you listening to me babble as I often do into my little recorder.
 There are a few reasons why I like online dating so much, and why online dating is a great thing to do as part of your “dating repertoire.” So tonight I am going to talk all about online dating – and I am ready to really spill the beans on some of my best secrets.
There are some things about online dating that everyone needs to know to be successful at it. So in this teleconference, I am going to reveal my top three tricks to “crack the code” of even the most competitive online dating sites.
I’ll share some of my personal, private foolproof “grabbers” which are virtually guaranteed to make you stand out from the sea of other people online. I will also tell you how to avoid perhaps the biggest mistake people make when online dating.
This teleconference is free. All you have to do to get a spot on this call is register for it by CLICKING HERE. (All the details about how to get on the teleconference are provided after you register).
So I’ll see you tonight at 6:00 pm PST for the first ever live podcast! Who knows? Maybe we’ll make the podcast a live one every other Wednesday. Who knows? We might be starting a new trend here.
Popularity: 6%
Tags: advice, david wygant, Online Dating, teleconference, tips
Posted in Online Dating | 23 Comments »
Tuesday, December 1st, 2009
It’s funny, I was on an airplane recently and they play episodes of television shows. They play shows that you never really watched (but that maybe you would have watched if you spent all your nights home watching television — which none of you should be doing if you are trying to meet people).
Anyway, during that flight I caught a few episodes of How I Met Your Mother. There was something great on one of those episodes that was very funny. I would love to take credit for the idea, but of course I can’t.
On the show Doogie Howser (Neil Patrick Harris), who happens to be gay, plays “the stud.” He plays a guy who is kind of a player.
In one episode he did something he calls “the lemon law.” The lemon law is when you go out on a date with someone and after two minutes you can say “lemon law” and end the date. He actually went out on some dates on the show where he “lemon law-ed” his date.
While this was all very funny, I think there might also be something to this idea. I’d like to come up with my own version of “the lemon law” called “The Two Minute Warning.”
Think about it. How many times have you gone out on that blind date and you just knew the person wasn’t for you. The person was supposed to look like a cross between Sharon Stone and Deborah Harry, and she actually looked like cross between Big Foot and Sandy Duncan.
Whatever the reason, you know in the first two minutes that you are just wasting your time with this person. You know you have absolutely no chemistry with this person.
Now, I know some of you are going to get very upset and think, “Well you’ve got to give people a chance etc etc etc.” All of that is wonderful, and I agree that you do need to give people a chance. We’ve all, however, been on dates with people we’d like to lemon law or call a two minute warning.
Do you think maybe we could start something wherein all blind dates would be on Tuesdays or something, and on all Tuesday dates you can institute the two minute warning? The two minute warning would allow you in the first two minutes of a date to say something like, “Look, I’m not quite sure about you. You’re not quite sure about me. If we don’t like each other, we can two minute warning each other.”
Maybe we can get this idea to spread. Having an escape clause on a blind date is something that could certainly spread.
In fact, I know how many of you have escaped from dates by doing ridiculous things like paging themselves or going to the bathroom and emailing themselves. Then you sit there pretending your phone is vibrating and telling your date, “Oh my God. My dogsitter just threw up.”
I mean, people will do some really ridiculous stuff just to get out of a bad date. So maybe we should come up with a better way too end these kind of bad dates. There just might be something here.
Popularity: 12%
Tags: blind dates, Dating Advice, david wygant, doogie howser, first dates, how I met your mother, lemon law, neil patrick harris, online dates, Online Dating, two minute warning
Posted in Dating Etiquette, Humor & Just For Fun, Online Dating, Pop Culture | 6 Comments »
Friday, October 23rd, 2009
How many of you have gone out there and really tried online dating? I’m talking about going on a site and really hitting it hard.
Do you know about the 80/20 rule in life? In life, 80% of the people fail and 20% of the people succeed.
These success percentages carry over into online dating as well. Do you know why? It is because most people don’t understand exactly what is needed to succeed in online dating. In particular, most guys don’t understand what is needed to succeed in online dating.
First, men who are successful online daters connect with women emotionally. Most guys don’t understand why that is important, and don’t know how to do it if they do.
What most men do is put some pictures up of themselves and then list things in their profile. They don’t create a story in their profile. You need to create some type of store to engender an emotional response in a woman.
For example, let’s say you are someone who has been on vacation in Italy. You could write in your profile, “I love Italy,” but so what? Who cares?
A lot of people would care if you wrote about it in the right way. They would care if you instead wrote this: “On my trip to Italy, I cruised up and down the Positano Coast. Let me tell you something. If you’ve never experienced a sunset in Positano, then you’ve never really experienced a sunset in your life.”
Do you see the difference? The difference is that you’re creating an emotion. You’re creating a feeling. You are creating something inside people that is going to get them really excited.
Another thing you need to realize about online dating is that is it really like a giant bar in the sky. Just because someone didn’t respond to you on Tuesday, September 22nd, doesn’t mean they’re not going to respond to you three weeks later.Â
They could be dating somebody else, flirting with somebody else, or whatever it might be. So I always tell people to email someone again. The key with this, though, is what you write when you do it.
Don’t cut and paste your first email (or any other email message). Go into their profile. Walk into their life a little bit. Read through it — even read it out loud — until you have an “Aha!” moment and see something that really resonates with you.
Say their profile says, “I love running on the beach with my dog. The funny thing about it is that my dog runs around in circles, and sometimes I think he’s going to get dizzy and pass out.” You have that “aha!” moment because your dog does the same thing.
So you could write an email that has has the subject line, “Wondering what would happen if we ran around…” Then in the body of the email you would write, “…in circles like our dogs. It’s funny, but my dog does the same exact thing and sometimes I wonder how she doesn’t get dizzy. Remember when you were a kid and used to spin in circles until you got dizzy? Maybe we should try that with our dogs one time  ”
What happened what that you related to her by sharing a story about your life that pertained to something in hers. That’s how you get better at online dating. You need to look at it as a conversation.
There’s so many women out there. Take advantage of that and find women with whom you can connect. It’s really important, though, to connect by relating in a a conversation.
Read every email response you get from a woman out loud so you can relate to it like you’re in a conversation with her. Form your responses by thinking how you would respond if she said it to you in a live conversation.
Online dating is really all about a conversation from the beginning. It’s no different than flirting in a bar, at a supermarket or anywhere else.
If you want to learn EVERYTHING about how to succeed at online dating — from how to create an online profile, interpret women’s profiles, how to contact women online, to EXACTLY what to say to intrigue them … as well as what specifically will attract the women online and get their attention, then be sure to check out my video product “Secrets Of Online Dating”
Popularity: 12%
Tags: Date, dating, Dating Advice, dating advice for men, dating tips, dating tips for men, david wygant, how to attract hot women, how to attract women, how to meet hot women online, how to meet hotter women online, how to meet women, how to meet women online, Online Dating, online dating tips
Posted in How To Be A Better Communicator, Online Dating | 9 Comments »
Sunday, October 4th, 2009
How many times have you gone on a date with a woman, and the minute she walks in the room you think to yourself, “Man, I love the way she walks. I love the way she moves?” Then the minute she first opens her mouth, the attraction just grows even more.
There’s an instant chemistry you feel with her, like you’ve known each other forever. There’s an immediate feeling of comfort. As the date progresses, that feeling of comfort grows even more.
You feel so comfortable, in fact, that you stop thinking about trying to sleep with her and start realizing that you can sleep with her. You are not obsessed anymore with trying to get her in bed, because you know it’s just going to happen naturally.
You have that amazing feeling where you just know you are going to be able to connect with her in so many different ways. That’s what true chemistry is all about.
On the other hand, how many times has that beautiful woman walked in on a date and you realize that you have no chemistry with her? Maybe you met her on match.com or Yahoo! Personals or something like that.
How many times have you had a woman walk in and your first thought when you see her is, “Oh man, I can’t wait to get the hell out of here. Where is the eject button? Why aren’t there any of those James Bond gadgets underneath this chair?”
In that situation, you just know from the second that she walks in the room that you have nothing in common with her. It’s a feeling that we all get.
The funniest thing about these two scenarios, is that both of these women could look exactly the same. They could both be stunningly beautiful, or the first one could even be less physically attractive than the second one.
The key here is that it doesn’t matter what the other person look like. It’s totally about the chemistry that the two of you have with each other.
That is the thing about dating that is really interesting — especially online dating. You can have the “Oh Wow” moment or the “Oh No” reaction at any time. We’ve all experienced both of these feelings.
I remember one time when I was single, walking in to meet a woman and having that “Oh No” moment big time. We just had zero chemistry with each other. We could have been lab partners in high school chemistry class and we would have been unable to create anything together.
Being the gentleman that I am, though, I spent the next hour and a half talking to her. The conversation was dead after the first five minutes, so I had to manufacture a conversation for the remainder of the date.
That’s the worst part of being on a date with someone about whom you have that “Oh No” feeling. You always have to manufacture a conversation. That’s the worst feeling.
That is why you want to keep meeting and keep going on dates with people. Although you’re going to have to live through your fair share of “Oh No” moments, it is all worth it when you walk in and experience the “Oh Wow” instant chemistry feeling.
Popularity: 13%
Tags: advice, blind date, chemistry, Dating Advice, dating advice for men, dating advice for women, dating tips, david wygant, first dates, instant attraction, instant chemistry, Online Dating, sexual chemistry, tips
Posted in Online Dating, Rejection | 11 Comments »
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